Fee Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 (edited) He took me out for a friendly lunch to say happy birthday (we have not seen each other in three months). I still love him and miss him but he hurt me incredibly and broke my heart by taking out his anger on me toward the end of the relationship. He said some mean things (for which he has apologised again and again) and gave me the silent treatement for 17 days. I dumped him when he came back and he has said he'll never do anything so mean again, he wants to talk to my family and gain their trust back and also is reading books about this kind of passive aggressive behaviour. I can't forget the humiliation and hurt, but this lunch we had ended with us kissing and it was so amazing and I still have feelings. I feel so stupid as he was horrible to me, and is being nice now to win me back. I think my only solution is not to see him again as the attraction is still very strong. Part of me believes that he's sorry but I have been taught (and always tell my friends) not to accept disrespect... My head and my heart are at odds, which is, I know, how it usually works...Is it ever better to work on things? Could you ever forgive? Edited January 24, 2011 by Fee
Byren Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I think it's vital that those within the relationship can work on issues that may be causing a strain between them, I doubt there's a single relationship out there that hasn't needed some damage control at some point or another.. You say that he's been trying to sort out those issues? Then I think he means to do right by you and wants you guys to work again. Yes, he's hurt you in the past, quite badly by the sounds of things, but without knowing the specifics all I can say is that it's up to you to decide whether he hurt you enough to not justify giving it one more shot or not. Maybe suggest that if you get back together he attend some kind of anger management class or something?
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