Little Bird Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 If a guy makes no move to touch a girl or kiss her on the first date does that pretty much mean he thinks of her only as a friend? I recently had a first date with a guy after 3 weeks of emailing each other on a dating website. I like him so much and am extremely attracted to him but I have a strong feeling from the date that he sees me only as a friend. Should I confess my feelings to him or just wait and see what he does? Seriously, I am going crazy pining after him. Ugh, I hate being friend zoned. I always read here about it happening to guys but it goes the other way too.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Whoa slow down there. What you're probably experiencing is emotional attachment/infatuation with a man you only met once. Never mind you talked for two weeks, but if you're feeling like you have to start confessing and spilling out your feelings to him, you need to take a chill pill. There could be several reasons he hasn't been physically intimate- it's too early, he moves at a snail's pace, or he's naturally shy and didn't want to make you uncomfortable. How has he been in regards to contacting you? If he's consistent about dropping hellos and goodbyes like before, it's safe to say he feels mutually the same. Has he proposed a second date? If not, be initiative, and ask him out for a second date. His response will tell all you need to know. Please remember, never be too willing to start professing your " undying love" unless you actually spent more times together in person than you can count. Talking online does not mean you guys should be getting married and having babies in the next coming months.
jelissa Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I don't know. It might be better just to ask him instead of waiting forever for something to happen. Then again, he could just be shy.
Little Bird Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Well, he wrote me an email right after the date saying he enjoyed the date. How long should I wait before dropping hints about a second date? I just really like him not in love or anything. Would it be to early to tell him I really like him?
lululucy Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 It completely depends on the guy, but for what it's worth -- I went out on a date with a guy I met online a few weeks ago. We had drinks, we talked, we had good conversation but nothing really romantic. He walked me to my car and said goodnight and asked me for a hug but that was it. I assumed hug = brush off and let it go. He texted me within an hour of the date saying that he thought I was incredible and sexy and wanted to see me again soon. But really, it just depends on the guy.
Little Bird Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 It completely depends on the guy, but for what it's worth -- I went out on a date with a guy I met online a few weeks ago. We had drinks, we talked, we had good conversation but nothing really romantic. He walked me to my car and said goodnight and asked me for a hug but that was it. I assumed hug = brush off and let it go. He texted me within an hour of the date saying that he thought I was incredible and sexy and wanted to see me again soon. But really, it just depends on the guy. Well this guy didn't message me anything like that. I guess all I can do is wait and see.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Well, he wrote me an email right after the date saying he enjoyed the date. How long should I wait before dropping hints about a second date? I just really like him not in love or anything. Would it be to early to tell him I really like him? Specifically, when was your previous date? Asking him for a second date a week from the 1st is reasonable, but always ask ahead a few days earlier followed by a confirmation ( through phone/ text) a day prior. Also, I do not think it's good to drop any ILYs ( likes or not) when you've only been on one date. Some guys would see it as an ego boost, others would simply think you're being too easy for them. You may like a guy, but always keep that to yourself until they start questioning your feelings for them. They can either start being possessive, slightly clingy, and/or increase their contact with you. Only when the feelings are mutual should you tell a guy you like them. At least then, the risk of rejection is diminished.
oaks Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 If a guy makes no move to touch a girl or kiss her on the first date does that pretty much mean he thinks of her only as a friend? He's perhaps just being respectful, or he misread (?) your body language and thought he should keep his hands to himself. For a first date, I don't think lack of touching means anything.
OceanGirl Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 My current bf didn't touch me at all on the first date. I even tried to touch him a bit but he didn't reciprocate. He did call me the next day though and on the second date he was all over me
zengirl Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 My BF made no moves on our first date. We sat close, and there was obvious physical chemistry, and there were a few times I touched his arm, or he brushed against me, but no obvious move, and no kiss. Not even a hug! By our fourth date, we were making out like teenagers. Sometimes, men take time to warm up. Usually the nice ones do.
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