fwang Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I met this guy during hiking. That day, I was happened to car pool with him and we chatted most of the hiking. At that moment, I didn't think he was interested in me. The next day, he found my internet profile on that hiking group and wrote me a email. Due some reason, we hanged out 2 weeks later. He offered to pick me up in front of my apartment. We went to a restaurant first (he paid), and then drank in a bar ( I paid). After that, we went to watch a movie together. At some point, he suddenly held my right hand untill the movie was over. That night, he drove me home and walked me to the door. No kiss, no physical touch except holding my hand during the movie. And then he was asking for another date on this weekend. So we agreed to meet again on Sunday. We didin't text on Saturday. And I was the person first texted him on Sunday to make sure that everything was alright. This time, we met up in a coffee shop. He told me that he found me attractive because I was talking with him and trying to know him during the hike (actually, I am just being talkative). So he was thinking for a while and then decided to ask me out. We talked for 2.5 hours, and I could feel that he and I became a little bit distanced. I think that he is intimidated by my 3 not serious but exclusive relationships happened in 2010. Here is the problem. He got married when he was 24. After spending 4 years together, he and his wife divorced because he didn't put many efforts in the marriage due to the stressful work and study. After being single for 2 years, he started to try on-line dating. He probably went out with more than 20 girls in that year. Eventually, he felt sick of it and stayed in a relationship with a girl meet on-line for 1 year. And it seems like all his girlfriends, including his ex wife, complained about the fact that he didn't spend enough time with them. I consider the above experience a red flag. I am sick of not having a serious relationship and I do like him at first sight. But I am worrying about his experience. Also, he is 11 years older than me. All of these make me think that he might just take advantage of me. And I do feel that he is losing his interests since we don't text very much and we don't have much physical contact during the date. However, he asked what's my plans for next week, as well as the work schedule at the end of the date. After walking me to my car, he gave me a hug and said "I will call you to set up the next meeting up." Any comment about the whole story?
Author fwang Posted January 24, 2011 Author Posted January 24, 2011 I am asking for comments cuz I am a foreigner is USA. And I don't have much experience in dating and relationship. Some of my american friends tell me that I am a kind of rare in the place I am living since I am a good-looking Asian. So sometimes I might meet people who just want to use me. And based on my 3 no serious but exclusive relationship, I am really scared of meeting the wrong guy again.
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