tigressA Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I went away for the weekend; Saturday I met with an old fling and we spent the day together. Later in the day we were at his place, chatting. We were talking about our futures and I joked about getting an email with pictures of his future children...he said, "I don't know what will happen. It would be nice to fall in love, get married." I said, "Yeah, it really would..." and drifted off; I felt myself smiling. Until that moment I was convinced I wanted to f*ck and run, but I realized for the first time in a long time that what really mattered wasn't how good it would feel in the moment--it was how I would feel after, and I knew it wouldn't be good. I feel I've reached the point where I truly want a relationship, deep love and intimacy. And if that means having to wait...well, so be it.
january2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Hope this year brings you what you want. I love having epiphanies - been having quite a few this weekend. Something must be in the air.
SmileFace Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 This a great realization , I am happy for you. It is weird to actually look into the future instead of living for now (if that makes sense). I was talking to a ex FB the other day who I am now friends with. We were discussing some business plans. It would of been just so easy to sleep with him for the heck of it but I took the time to realize where would that leave me. Still alone, without a relationship. So I decided to avoid the temptation and plan to wait for the bigger prize , my guy (Whoever he is).
Author tigressA Posted January 24, 2011 Author Posted January 24, 2011 It's funny because I had started my multi-dating thread with this realization, but earlier this week I thought, "Oh god, I really want to bang..." So I had met up with him with that in mind but when we were sitting there in his studio apartment it just hit me right between the eyes; I thought, "I really do want so much more than that."
SmileFace Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Yeah I can't tell you how much times I have been tempted to just make that "oh so satisfying " call, lol. Yet I have been good. So yippe for us both.
Disillusioned Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 After I was so rudely insulted by my most recent date last November, my pivotal moment came when I started cleaning up my property. I decided as I threw away my 1st two barrels of trash and boxed up my 1st 5 boxes of stuff for a future yard sale that there's no room in my life for a romantic relationship, and that from now on, I'm going to enjoy my life for MY pleasure.
johan Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 But you still did him, didn't you. I can tell, because you weren't clear about what happened after your realization. It's ok. Life is just a series of cost/benefit decisions.
Author tigressA Posted January 24, 2011 Author Posted January 24, 2011 But you still did him, didn't you. I can tell, because you weren't clear about what happened after your realization. It's ok. Life is just a series of cost/benefit decisions. If I had, my original post would've been very different. So no, I didn't.
Disillusioned Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 But you still did him, didn't you. No, "he" was a she, and a very zaftig one at that.
johan Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 No, "he" was a she, and a very zaftig one at that. Zehr zaftig? Sie sieht aber gut aus? Wir kennen TigressA ist viel heiss.
Star Gazer Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 No, "he" was a she, and a very zaftig one at that. Saftig...
Star Gazer Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Hope this year brings you what you want. Same here. I love having epiphanies - been having quite a few this weekend. Something must be in the air. Saaammmeee heeerrrreeee!!! Must be!!
aerogurl87 Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I went away for the weekend; Saturday I met with an old fling and we spent the day together. Later in the day we were at his place, chatting. We were talking about our futures and I joked about getting an email with pictures of his future children...he said, "I don't know what will happen. It would be nice to fall in love, get married." I said, "Yeah, it really would..." and drifted off; I felt myself smiling. Until that moment I was convinced I wanted to f*ck and run, but I realized for the first time in a long time that what really mattered wasn't how good it would feel in the moment--it was how I would feel after, and I knew it wouldn't be good. I feel I've reached the point where I truly want a relationship, deep love and intimacy. And if that means having to wait...well, so be it. Realizations like that are great, aren't they? And yes a meaningful relationship with great sex and great times beyond just rolling around in bed for a few hours, is much better than casual sex with someone who will never call you afterward or cuddle unless it's to get more sex later on. And love is worth the wait.
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