lion k Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Hi, I have a (to me) weird situaton happening and no matter where I turn I can not for the life of me figure this one out . So I came here hoping someone can see something that I can not. I have a 19 year old daughter who is special needs, Her father and I have no been together for 18 years as he could not handle a relationship aat the time. Fast forward to a year ago. I had a job in a different provience and I needed someone to watch over my daughter so I contacted her father. Him and I never talk, we never get along, we disagree on everything and have been n and out of the courts reguarding my daughter for the first 10 years of her life. Anyways When I contacted him I told him that we were coming back out for a visit and that I wanted to bring my daughter out with us as she has not seen his side of the family for over 2 years (I felt bad and guilty for this however he could not come to terms that she wanted to be with me and decided to stay out of her life for that time). We came out and I ended up stayng out for 2 weeks and my daughter ended up moving abck out here. Wth my work we got flowen in and out of work ever 21 days and we would be home for 7 days. My first time back home after my 21 days at work, When I arrived there was standing my ex .. I was stunned and shocked as he came over to me and gave me a kiss and said surprize. I said well surprize is on you cuz I have a hotel im stayng in the first night (arrival time 1 A.M) So he said okay then I'll go with you. We ended up spending the night together and having a fun time, a lot of laughs, a lot of I'm sorry's and so on. This continued on for just about a year. all my days off work his mother would say no you stay here with us so I would. I have since then moved back here and have a house of my own. My daughter spends time with both of us, some night at my place some nights at his. I made sure to get the house close to her nana nad papa so she could stay in contact and t does not hurt them thinking that she is leaving again. Just the other night we went out again and I told him how I was feeling. I have fallen in love with this guy again, I do not know where it came from, I do not know why this feelign is so strong, I never felt like this towards him before . So I told him that I wanted a answer as to what was happening between him and I, because when we go out I'm his girl, I'm his wife, I'm with him and he makes sure that everyone knows that. Everyone that see's us says to me wow he loves you, He's so sweet to you (this did not help with the feelings part of it all because the more I heard it the more I looked at it) Anyways I told him that I wanted to know and that I was not putting him on the spot but I would expect a call from him. The call did not happen all week, Then last night I'm out with friends and I run into him and he starts to tell people that I am his ex??? WOW !! After a year of spendng all our time together and now this ? Should I try and talk to him or just leave him alone. I know if I do try and talk to him he will respond.. But I'm kinda scared after hearing what I heard last night. Really what should I do. I moved 3000 miles to be with him,, I trusted him again and let him in.. Thanks to all that respond to this..
gator12 Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I don't think there's a good reason to not talk to him, so by all means go for it and ask him what's going on with this situation I mean you have a right to know. But be prepared for a harsh answer, don't expect the good outcome that way it wont hurt as bad if it isn't the positive outcome. I mean the guy must have had some feelings for you from the way you describe this story, just talk to him. The worst that could happen is you're not talking to him anymore? And seeing as how you did it for a decade I think you can handle it. Best of luck to you.
Author lion k Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 Thank you for you support, I had talked to him on Sunday (family dinner) and he had told me that he wanted to still take me out this weekend for a few drinks, I asked him where he said he was not to sure yet but would call me this week. I was shocked because I thought that he might be done after not talking to me for a week. anyway's I decided that when we meet I will bring it up to him as it will play on my mind while we are out and even worse though out the night. I am a shy person even with him but it is something that I have to do. Thanking you again
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