PhillyDude Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Once you establish that there is a mutual attraction and start chatting online, when is it ok to offer your email address? I usually exchange about 3 messages on the dating site and then in the 3rd message I offer my email address so we can talk offline. Is that too soon? I just don't like to waste too much time talking online once we realize we are attracted to each other pics.
Jazzari Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 I think 3 messages is fine before going offline. But I always create a dummy email account. I never use my real one. Too often, people can track you with a real email address.
alexlakeman Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 2-3 messages max, if not someone else is probably writting to her as well, and might be getting her number before you do.. In my case, this is what works for ME..I send one email; I get a response, "depending" on how that one went, I close the deal on my second email, but ASK for her #.. How long are you going to waste time emailing? Just get it over with and get a #, pick up the phone, and call her... I just say something like. "I'd love to put a voice to the pictures and email, text / email me your # and we can speak... My # is 12-22-222-33. Sometimes they'll email me their #, other times text me the #, and on rare occasion, they will call me...
Author PhillyDude Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 2-3 messages max, if not someone else is probably writting to her as well, and might be getting her number before you do.. In my case, this is what works for ME..I send one email; I get a response, "depending" on how that one went, I close the deal on my second email, but ASK for her #.. How long are you going to waste time emailing? Just get it over with and get a #, pick up the phone, and call her... I just say something like. "I'd love to put a voice to the pictures and email, text / email me your # and we can speak... My # is 12-22-222-33. Sometimes they'll email me their #, other times text me the #, and on rare occasion, they will call me... I have asked for the number in the past but they stated they felt more comfortble talking on email for a while
alexlakeman Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I have asked for the number in the past but they stated they felt more comfortble talking on email for a while Might depend on the age.. what age bracket? I am talking about women in the 30+ age bracket.. If they are not so keen in giving out the #, set up an IM account on Yahoo or ?? and say "if no #, that's fine, let's IM"..email is a waste of time after a few emails.. I did learn that the hard way, in the past I would email back and fourth for a while to later be thrown to the gutter, lol.. Why waster MY MY MY MY time? If they do NOT want to give you a # or IM with you , forget it.. don't even say good bye, move on. GD luck.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Asking for an email is slightly backwards since you're already " emailing" back and forth on a dating website. Typcially, a girl would give out her im by the 3rd email, and if she really, really likes you, she would offer her number by the 4th. Actually since we're in the cellphone/technology era, I don't see how anyone would shy away from giving out their number by the 3rd, 4th date. After all, everyone texts.
Author PhillyDude Posted January 24, 2011 Author Posted January 24, 2011 Asking for an email is slightly backwards since you're already " emailing" back and forth on a dating website. Typcially, a girl would give out her im by the 3rd email, and if she really, really likes you, she would offer her number by the 4th. Actually since we're in the cellphone/technology era, I don't see how anyone would shy away from giving out their number by the 3rd, 4th date. After all, everyone texts. IM bores me and I prefer email before the phone transition
xpaperxcutx Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 IM bores me and I prefer email before the phone transition And email isn't boring? Sorry, but I would rather actually " talk " to someone than refresh my page every hour to see if they replied. Just so you know, if a girl doesn't hand out her number willingly, it really means she doesn't want you to have it.
alexlakeman Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 IM bores me and I prefer email before the phone transition Sorry dude, that's backwards... let's see... Email - write a letter, send it, sit back and waittttttttttttt, till they answer you.. OR IM - instant response back and fourth.. like talking . I'll stick with option B.. thanks
Emilia Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I'm not looking to waste my time with those that aren't sufficiently interested or don't have social skills either so after a couple of messages I give him my mobile number and an email address explaining I prefer taking communication off the site and see what the guy does with the information. Most men I gave my number to will pick the number over the email address and start texting. Some will not continue with the communication at all (tends to be the quieter ones). I don't do IM, I'm not interested in sitting in front of the computer for hours on end. If a guy asks for my IM I tell him I can give him my number but I'm not interested in endless computerised conversations, in my experience IM isn't much more productive than email, people can sit on that thing for weeks on end. so I suppose I'm more assertive than most women but that's because it's very hard to screen people based on their profiles (since they often lie) and I'd rather find out early on who and what they are. Finding out about their social skills is paramount. So I have a high churn rate but I've got a couple of dates set up for this weekend, one I have fairly high hopes for.
bac Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 IM bores me and I prefer email before the phone transition I am a female and I think the same way. IM is too shallow. Using phone feels too early and intimate to me. That guy would probably set a date before I even know if I might like him. Then, I have to go on the first date with the questionable guy just to reject each other. IMO You give your email address when you feel that there is mutual interest.
2010_Sorry Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 I think it depends on your e-mail address... if it includes both your first and last name, I would say WAY LONGER than 2-3 messages! I think giving the cell phone number to allow for texting is much safer....
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