bolase Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 I met a guy 7 months ago that I never knew would be with - we are opposite personalities, and he is a devoted (and open minded) Christian while I don't belong to any faith. That was the main concern for him. The main concern for me was whether he was interested as hes very shy. We got together 2 months before the end of the year, before going our separate ways to jobs on the other side of the world. We also lived together for 6 of those months. I don't know how to end it, but I know that as theres no end date in sight its not fair on either of us to keep it going. Trouble is I love him, maybe more that I loved anyone (I'm 25, hes 26). He hasn't said it and neither have I. WE had one short convo about it jsut before we left where I said I'd like to keep it going, and he said he thought of me as his girlfriend and wanted to to, but now it just seems to hopeless. I haven't started my work either, and adjusting to a new country has been both exciting and rough, feeling very lonely, and I don't want to pu that on him. I just want to treat him well and myself well by saying 'can we keep in touch and see what happens, but I can't be in a relationship with you' It's way too much pressure for me seeing we really dont know each other that well. the other issue is we are both going to meet tonnes of people this year, and he I think ideally would hope for me to become Christian eventually, although he says he doesnt want to change me, he would just hope that I take more of an interest myself, and that things would be more simple with a Christian girl. I just want the best for him, and don't think I can be a good girlfriend to him, I don't feel comfy sharing all my worries and loneliness I am feeling right now, with him. We have skyped twice talking about our weeks and news but no reeeal depth..there have been awkward silences..and I want to stop it before it gets more depressing Any advice or similar experiences would be great. Thanks in advance.
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