waterstone Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 i'm new to being in a LDR. i met my girlfriend in august where we hit it off immediately. she is from a different country to me but we met when she was working in my country (england). After dating we just spent more and more time together, going away for weekend trips, where it got to the point in the last 6 weeks that we saw each other almost every day. she was honest from the start that she would only be in england until christmas which we was both fine with. naturally though we both fell in love and as christmas approached i just wanted time to stop. after christmas i went to her home country where i met all her family and had yet another great time with her. as we are both european there are cheap flights to her country where i can visit quite often but my problem is that as part of her studies she has the option of a semester abroad (6 months) which was already planned before i met her. so for the last week she has been on a different continent (19hr flight) where she will be until july. i am making the trip to see her in april for 3 weeks and i cant wait (78 days!!!). Its so hard going from waking up next to your love everyday to seeing her now and again on skype and living through emails. i'm 24 and she is 25, we are both mature people and neither of us would even contemplate being in a relationship that we feel wouldnt work or have a future (local or LDR). Part of me is also quite happy i am in a LDR as its prob the best way to show somebody how much trust and love you have for a person and i believe that when it stops being LD our relationship will as strong as it could be. This first week has been hell-ish and i miss her so much but i know i will get to see her soon. I just want to know what people do on the days when they get really down?
folieadeux Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Welcome aboard; sounds like the pair of you have a really good thing going! My boyfriend and I are in the same country and manage visits every month/every other month. When we're not together, we chat via the usual means...email/text/messenger/phone/etc. And I can't leave out posting here...it really is encouraging finding others in your situation and reading the success stories.
aerogurl87 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Welcome to LS. When I get really down I go into "planning mode" in which I focus on my boyfriend and I's next visit and what we're going to do together when we see each other. It helps take my mind off the negatives and makes me focus on the positives of being with him.
wild_urge Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 Hi, it's good that you have someone in your life that you love, but for the bad days. . . I don't know what kind of advice to give you. Keep yourself busy I guess. I am having a bad day right now, I haven't talked to him all day long, not a single word. So it's pretty depressing, but he's sleeping now and I don't want to wake him up. I was with him for the past three weeks and just left last Thursday, so it's pretty hard right now, but if that's going to make it better for you, you should know that the moment you get back together you'll forget being alone and missing her, actually you'll forget right away how hard it was to count the days before you see each other, so just keep in mind that you are going to see her soon
Author waterstone Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 thanks for the replies, we have just finished talking on skype, its crazy how a conversation can lift your spirits so much. we havent been able to speak much since she left because of the place she is staying she doesnt have internet so we are having to plan to speak every week (internet cafe). it is torture. i am looking forward to seeing her in the flesh again so much, its only been 11 days but its been 11 days to many for me!! only 76 more to go! Think i am gonna start my planning mode!!! ive never even thought of being in a LDR but now experiencing it i have a new found respect for people in this situation.
Author waterstone Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 does being in a ldr get easier? i hope so because i am missing my girlfriend more and more :-( so frustrating today also as i plan on extending my visit to her by 2 weeks so i will get to see her for 5 weeks in total. i really wanna tell her but i have no way to contact her as she is without internet.
aerogurl87 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 does being in a ldr get easier? i hope so because i am missing my girlfriend more and more :-( so frustrating today also as i plan on extending my visit to her by 2 weeks so i will get to see her for 5 weeks in total. i really wanna tell her but i have no way to contact her as she is without internet. For me it only got easier when I got the acceptance letter for my work permit in the mail and I knew that the distance between my boyfriend and I would be ending soon on either a permanent or really long, semi-permanent basis. So I guess what I mean is when you have a real in sight it gets easier because you can really focus on it being the end of your LDR. But with each visit and saying goodbye it always gets harder in my opinion.
folieadeux Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 I agree with Aero, being in an LDR doesn't get any easier until the day you're able to be together permanently. You just learn to adapt better with time.
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