AcaciaStrain Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Ok, i broke up with my girlfriend last tuesday and we had been going out for 2 years and 3 months. She said she has lost some of the love for me and didnt feel the same way, but she still loves me. I'm an attractive guy and she's an attractive girl, she's a curvy girl in my eyes but most men would probably find her "overweight". I'm in a dilema because i think she thinks i'm not attractive anymore and it's made me loose confidence in myself. It's weird because the last couple of days she said she's been feeling really ill and i know that's through me.. plus she was texting my mate saying that she really missed me and said that there could be a chance in the future that we could get back together. I really want her back and i know deep down she wants me back so i how do i get her back..
january2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Talk to her. Find out if you can both work through the issues that brought about the break up: She said she has lost some of the love for me and didnt feel the same way, but she still loves me. <snip> I'm in a dilema because i think she thinks i'm not attractive anymore and it's made me loose confidence in myself.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 I've done that and she said she needs space and stuff. So i'm going to give her that space and not talk to her for like a couple of weeks. She'll realise what she's missing out on.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted January 25, 2011 Author Posted January 25, 2011 I'm so confused. I literally need answers but i know i'm not going to get them. My friend who is her best friend asked for my stuff and apparently she kept changing subject. In he rmsn name she's put a () in it and has started to act a bit slutty on her facebook.. Is this to get back at me or is this just her changing and wanting to sleep around. It's been a week from our break up and it seems she's fine :S while i'm sitting here dying. I deleted her from Facebook and apparently she was going it's pathetic and he needs to grow up.. How does that make me pathetic. Everytime i look at her facebook a piece of my heart dies.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 Wow, just found out she's gone to the cinema with another guy. Well that's great. Oh, and apparently just lost her love for me, after 2 years and 3 months together. Is that even possible? To lose your love for someone that you was with after 2 years and 3 months. I lost a little bit of my love for her like 8 months ago but i didnt end it. She wrote me a letter 3 months ago saying that she loved me so much and she was scared that i was gunna get up and leave her for someone else, well that's exactly how i feel now. The worst part is knowing that someone has lost their love for you. Hurts so much.
SDA Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 You got to give her space and leave her alone and dissappear, it really is the best/only thing you can do in your situation. Maybe she is testing her love for you right now. Know that when she is out she never will have a connection like you did with her. Don't freak out. Give it time.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 Yeah, i have. Giving her NC for 2 weeks now. Just got to stay strong for a couple of months.
Lil1 Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 She seems to have moved on quickly and is not giving any thought to how you might be feeling. I think that the best thing for you to do is go NC, focus on yourself, and try not to dwell on what or who she might be doing. If she really cares for you, she will make contact with you again and try to reconcile. Dont let your self esteem get too low, maybe start dating again yourself or at least go out with your friends more, hopefully you will meet someone who is worthy of your time and everything you have to offer.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted January 26, 2011 Author Posted January 26, 2011 Yeah, i was a dick to her for a couple of months and she prob lost some of her love for me then. I think she's moved on quick because she has met someone else, well the guy she's with at the cinema. He was there for her when i wasnt so yeah. But i know it wont last between them. I'd rather she go with him than sleep around. If she sleeps around i'm gunna curl up into a ball a cry.
Lil1 Posted January 26, 2011 Posted January 26, 2011 Well if she sleeps around it will just prove to you that she is not the one for you and you should save yourself for a nice clean woman who will appreciate you and be there for you through thick and thin. Its good you acknowledge that you were as you say, a dick to her. So the next time around you will communicate your frustrations in a more civil way to your girlfriend. If she truly loves you, she will try to help you get through it. Just remember you get what you give
Author AcaciaStrain Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 Is it possible for someone who has gone out with you for 2 years to stop loving you after a week? Or even not think about you, becasue that's what it feels like :S. Seems like she's completely thrown me out her life.
LifeIsGreat Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Is it possible for someone who has gone out with you for 2 years to stop loving you after a week? Or even not think about you, becasue that's what it feels like :S. Seems like she's completely thrown me out her life. Believe me, it didn't happen in just a week. Her love for you probably had been declining for a while. If there is one thing I have learned, when a woman is done she is DONE!! I think a lot of people will back me up on this. When you are a "dick" to your woman there will come a time when she won't take it anymore and simply be done. At that point it is probably best to learn your lesson and move on instead of trying to patch things up with her.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted January 27, 2011 Author Posted January 27, 2011 How long do you think it would have taken? She wrote me a letter about 3 months ago saying how much she loved me and saying she was scared that i was going to leave her for some one more attractive and prettier. The main problem is we have the same group of friends and it's going to be hard to just leave her as it would mean i'd be loosing my mates aswell. She still wants to be friends and when we broke she said she's still loves me but not in love with me. So, i'm just confused.
sacg Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Mate, Im sorry to hear this. But i was with someone for 8 years and she up and left me, totally changed, acted horrid, got with a total loser 2 weeks later (or before, who cares). A few months before she was telling me to never hurt her and betray her....go figure.... Don't do what I did and act a twat, keep your dignity and bollox to her. It will be amazingly difficult, but not half as bad as hanging around like a mug. If she cares, she'll soon realise when you ain't there for her, and she MAY try to come back, but she's gotta give you a lot. And trust me, if you ain't around, she will put out feelers, don't fall for anything less than total commitment, if that's what you'd then want. Best of luck bud
sacg Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 She still wants to be friends and when we broke she said she's still loves me but not in love with me. So, i'm just confused. .........mine said this too! LOL, you couldn't make this **** up.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted January 28, 2011 Author Posted January 28, 2011 She's been with her friends constantly for like 2 weeks since the breakup, and by god they are some immature individuals. I deleted her as a friend of Facebook and she said it was pathetic and that i needed to grow up.. One her friends who is her ex, who is funnily enough one my friends at college likes her as she told me he did about 5 weeks ago and she's been with this guy now going places and stuff for weeks. So i'm starting to think she's dumped me for him, but tbh i can't see it lasting.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 Got a text from her at 4 am saying "You hate me?"... Don't know why she text me saying that. :S
sacg Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Read my post again, I said she would. its probably guilt. its all or nothing now man. Good luck!
Author AcaciaStrain Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 ahh i see, i said "drunk text" and she said "nah lol" think i should leave it at that. Just keep NC, because i think it's starting to hit her now that im not here anymore.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 Mate told me on facebook who was round her house that night said she was crying and that her mum was saying you should get back with him and stuff because he was a lovely guy. That's prob why she text me at 4 in the morning. She also said she's confused at this present time. She needs to hury up and decide what she wants.
Billie The Puppet Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 .........mine said this too! LOL, you couldn't make this **** up. They seem to all say it. Sounds like Im a little further along but it still hurts. My relation was my first outside of school it went for almost 3 years. What I learned from it is if that sentence comes up ever again to accept it for what it is and give up by going NC. My ex lead me on and used me financially for weeks afterwards as I was foolish to let her. I'm 6 months along now and up until recently I have been doing very well. What I come to realize is I miss her family and routine more so than I miss her. Things will never be the same it's better to let go even though that in itself is hard. My ex fiancé left me and swore she just needed to be single when in fact she just needed to appear single because a guy at work was interested in her. Hook line and sinker cause they are a couple now.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 Ah, she's with this new guy as i found out yesterday. It's turnt from sadness to more anger now which i suppose is better. Funny thing is i know it wont last as her family and friends are starting to loose her and shes changing. All i can say is her loss and in a few weeks or months she'll get bored and i won't be here for her.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted February 3, 2011 Author Posted February 3, 2011 Sigh. My heart hurts today knowing she's having sex with this guy and touching her body and everything . She gave my stuff back to me yesterday and she was the one in tears.. I got my stuff and walked away she was standing there like she wanted to talk but i walked off.
Author AcaciaStrain Posted February 6, 2011 Author Posted February 6, 2011 Omg. Yesterday she was saying how much she missed me and stuff and that she feels trapt by her mates and doesnt know what to do. She started talking to me yesterday as i saw her in the pub, and my mate said "You too should have sex tonight" and she went all red and we both stared at each other for a long time smiling. I literally don't know what the hell is going. She's been texting me all day, flirting n stuff. Does this mean she wants me back or she just wants sex?
sammyd Posted February 6, 2011 Posted February 6, 2011 I'd be careful about replying too much. Keep it cool man! The NC was working. Let her come to you. Don't chase her. Only thing that's bothering me, where has the new guy gone? Have they split up or something?? In fact, i'd go as far to say that don't reply to her until she says about reconciliation. Until that point, she's probably still making up her mind.
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