HeavenOrHell Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 I've written so many negative/upset posts lately, feels like I was pushing against the tide a lot of the time lately, trying to cope with this r/ship and not knowing if I could, and looking at all the negatives about it rather than focussing on the positives like he does (no wonder he finds it somewhat easier then!). I feel like I'm starting to accept it for what it is, to make the most of it until the time we can live closer. He is way too special to give up on just cos of the distance. So I'm aiming to go with the tide now and not keep thrashing against it, worrying, over thinking, fretting and looking for problems where there are none I love what we have, I feel thankful and lucky to have met him and I want to make the most of what we have
LittleTiger Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 That's great news HOH. You have had a bit of a rough ride lately so I'm really pleased to see you're feeling better. I find it really hard too, as you know, although for different reasons and I'm on a big downer at the moment so it's lovely to hear when other people are feeling so positive about things. You two obviously love each other and you have so little time together it's inevitably going to be difficult at times, but you're tough and you'll get there. Keep smiling
madjac74 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Glad you are staying positive! We are going thru a difficult period as well and Im trying to maintain the positive things about our relationship. We are going on 6 months since our last time together and have discussed moving on again. She even had a date set up for last night but had told me she is finding it more difficult than she thought to move on and said she cancelled the date. She said Im the one she looks forward to hearing from everyday...not him. Oh and she has had a close friend who she confides in and has had a lot of negative things to say about me come out and say that she should be with him and not me. Its been quite the soap opera of late but I am also staying positive for the fact that she shares with ME all day and tells ME she loves me! Whether she went on the date or not doesnt bother me. Either it makes her miss me and love me more or we move on
folieadeux Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 I've written so many negative/upset posts lately, feels like I was pushing against the tide a lot of the time lately, trying to cope with this r/ship and not knowing if I could, and looking at all the negatives about it rather than focussing on the positives like he does (no wonder he finds it somewhat easier then!). I feel like I'm starting to accept it for what it is, to make the most of it until the time we can live closer. He is way too special to give up on just cos of the distance. So I'm aiming to go with the tide now and not keep thrashing against it, worrying, over thinking, fretting and looking for problems where there are none I love what we have, I feel thankful and lucky to have met him and I want to make the most of what we have So glad to hear you're doing good hun! I know it sounds corny, but seriously make a list of all the pros and cons of your relationship the next time you're going through a difficult time. When you see all the good things written down like that and the only thing negative is the distance, it puts everything in perspective. Glad you are staying positive! We are going thru a difficult period as well and Im trying to maintain the positive things about our relationship. We are going on 6 months since our last time together and have discussed moving on again. She even had a date set up for last night but had told me she is finding it more difficult than she thought to move on and said she cancelled the date. She said Im the one she looks forward to hearing from everyday...not him. Oh and she has had a close friend who she confides in and has had a lot of negative things to say about me come out and say that she should be with him and not me. Its been quite the soap opera of late but I am also staying positive for the fact that she shares with ME all day and tells ME she loves me! Whether she went on the date or not doesnt bother me. Either it makes her miss me and love me more or we move on Sorry to hear you and your SO are going through a rough time. Do you have plans to see each other soon?
Author HeavenOrHell Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 Thank you! I often feel worse at w/ends when he's with his ex, it sort of rubs it in that she is there when I'm missing him, but he does his best to not let me feel left out and makes a point of calling me, but still I struggle at times as I wish it were me there instead of her, also feel he wont miss me as much as I miss him as he has her there most w/ends, but that's selfish of me. In general I'm finding it easier to deal with her being there, but I don't always manage. I also know many people wouldn't be ok with it and would feel worse about it, so I don't think I'm doing too badly! Not too long til we see each other now, so I'm focussed on that I'll make a list of the pros and cons today in fact, so I can refer to it when I'm on a downer! I also read some of his lovely e-mails and messages when I feel like that. So glad to hear you're doing good hun! I know it sounds corny, but seriously make a list of all the pros and cons of your relationship the next time you're going through a difficult time. When you see all the good things written down like that and the only thing negative is the distance, it puts everything in perspective. Sorry to hear you and your SO are going through a rough time. Do you have plans to see each other soon?
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