Cinnamon Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 (edited) I met a guy who told me that he had the premature ejaculation sometimes. I have not had sex with him yet but we both want to try that. We are FWBs. He obviously had some anxiety about sex if he told me about the issure before sex. I am curious about how to have sex with him to make it pleasant for both of us. What things are going to be off limits for the first sex with him? A long foreplay, oral sex, talking about his problem or smth else? Any advice on how to make sex with the guy work out well? Edited January 23, 2011 by Cinnamon
Nexus One Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 (edited) Have sex with him like you would normally do and make it last until you've climaxed yourself and climax as many times as you feel the need for. In the time that you climax once he possibly has climaxed 4 times or more. You'll be f*cking his brains out without too much effort on your side. However, that will only work if he likes to climax multiple times. If he doesn't want to "go" anymore after the first time, well then you will have a hard time coming to a climax yourself. Women generally need more time to climax than men. Also, the more times a man climaxes during a sex session, the longer it will take for him to climax between each ejaculation, so his premature ejaculation will solve itself out after having ejaculated a few times. Make sure you have enough condoms if you intend to use that. Edited January 23, 2011 by Nexus One
Author Cinnamon Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 Have sex with him like you would normally do and make it last until you've climaxed yourself and climax as many times as you feel the need for. However, that will only work if he likes to climax multiple times. Also, the more times a man climaxes during a sex session, the longer it will take for him to climax between each ejaculation, so his premature ejaculation will solve itself out after having ejaculated a few times. Make sure you have enough condoms if you intend to use that. Thank you for your advice. It could be great if he could do all the things in bed. I had one experience with another man with the problem. Unfortunately, he could have the only one orgasm with duration of erection of 1-2 minutes. In fact, he often had no erection at all because of severe anxiety related to the problem. I hope the new guy is not so bad. But, I doubt that I can have sex with him like I would normally do. Normally, I expect a man to have an erection for several minutes and even more. From what I know, it is not common for males to climax multiple times unless they are 18-22. My guy is 26. BTW, I am a female and I have never had an orgasm even with a normal male who can last as long as needed.
Nexus One Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 (edited) From what I know, it is not common for males to climax multiple times unless they are 18-22. My guy is 26. That's not correct. I've heard guys in that range(26+) brag they climaxed 14 times on one day. Most guys should be able to go 3 times at least on a day without blinking, some even need at least twice climaxes a day, every day, to get rid of the build-up of sperm. That build-up creates sexual tension within (most) men and makes them horny. I'm 28, so out of experience I know it's possible to be able to climax more than once in that male age range. BTW, I am a female and I have never had an orgasm even with a normal male who can last as long as needed. In my opinion your guys need to be more considerate of your needs and not only of their own. It's not all about them. It's kind of worrying they don't take your desires into consideration. However if they really can't, due to their condition, then perhaps you could suggest to them to use their fingers and/or mouth to make you climax. (if you're into that) Edited January 23, 2011 by Nexus One
Author Cinnamon Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 That's not correct. I've heard guys in that range(26+) brag they climaxed 14 times on one day. Most guys should be able to go 3 times at least on a day without blinking, some even need at least twice climaxes a day, every day, to get rid of the build-up of sperm. That build-up creates sexual tension within (most) men and makes them horny. I'm 28, so out of experience I know it's possible to be able to climax more than once in that male age range. Do you mean with their hands or with their partners?
Seaofclouds Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 There is a difference between climaxing several times a day and several times in one session. Many men can climax more than once a day, but it is harder for them to climax more than once in each session because of how things work with their body. Some can go multiple times in one session, it just depends on what they are doing and their body's response to the climax. Some men lose their erection as soon as they ejaculate, while others don't. It really depends on him. Cinammon, Just approach things as you normally would with this guy and just try not to expect to much right away, that way if he does prematurely ejaculate, you won't be disappointed.
Feelin Frisky Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 It's time for you to get a real man and make some real love. Any guy who measures his erection time in a handful of minutes is on the low end of the performance spectrum. Perhaps you've just had the misfortune of drawing a few "challeneged" guys in that regard in your young life. But in a normal healthy good sexual relationship the clock on a cock will never even come up as an issue and you should never have to put pressure on yourself because of it. I don't think of myself as anything special and having an erection for whatever it takes to please my lady is just how it's always been. I'm one of the oldest guys on LS and I don't see a problem having 3 orgasms in a night of love-making at my age. That bit about 18-22 is a myth.
Nexus One Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Do you mean with their hands or with their partners? I think those were with their hands, as they didn't have a girlfriend at that point in time. But I used that example to illustrate the point that multiple climaxes are possible for men.
Questionis Posted January 24, 2011 Posted January 24, 2011 Give him a tantric massage and what he can't do with his ermm, er, tally whacker, he can do with his fingers and lips and tounge. True he is not a boyfriend so you may not want to go through all the trouble of learning tantric massage but its good practice for when you have do have a boyfriend.
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