loving2010 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 I fell in love with my best friend's girlfriend. She is a lovely person and I'm truly in love with her. When I first told her she was still going out with my best friend but they were having many problems. I used to tell her stuff that was way to cheesy and I found out by a friend of hers that she said I was a "stalker". Since I found that out I tried to lower down a nodge on the "cute" things. She says that she misses me and that she needs me with her and she told that one friend that I no longer say cute things to her which makes me think if she wants me to start saying them again. I really love this girl but she still loves my best friend. I have to face the cruel reality that she won't ever love me as much as I love her. I don't know why girls fall for guys that are *******s. I don't know what to do or think. Should I start saying cute things again? Should I stay away??
Jazzari Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 You should stay away. I don't see how you can call someone your "best friend" if you are trying to steal their girl and call them names. But if you really do consider this person a friend, then you should respect them. Otherwise, you are going to lose that friend and I highly doubt anything good will ever happen between you and this girl. I'm sorry for your pain though.
Seamless74 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 I hear the opening cords of Jessies Girl lol,,, You dont fall your your boys girl...
TouchedByViolet Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 You should stay away. I don't see how you can call someone your "best friend" if you are trying to steal their girl and call them names. But if you really do consider this person a friend, then you should respect them. Otherwise, you are going to lose that friend and I highly doubt anything good will ever happen between you and this girl. I'm sorry for your pain though. I agree. I'm guessing you are young, so try your best to treat this as a learning experience. Learn to respect your best friends relationships. Don't beat yourself up too much over this. Try to find someone who will reciprocate your feelings too.
Author loving2010 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 You should stay away. I don't see how you can call someone your "best friend" if you are trying to steal their girl and call them names. But if you really do consider this person a friend, then you should respect them. Otherwise, you are going to lose that friend and I highly doubt anything good will ever happen between you and this girl. I'm sorry for your pain though. The reason I called my bestfriend that is because he cheated on her 3 times. He just played with her.
TouchedByViolet Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 The reason I called my bestfriend that is because he cheated on her 3 times. He just played with her. Sounds like she is using you for validation, emotional support, and attention. Regardless, she is not over the guy who is cheating on her which tells us 2 things. First and most importantly she is not romantically into you, and second something about emotionally abusive relationships is attracting for her.
gator12 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Okay he cheated on her, but do you want to make her cheat on him? Is that fair? Where does that get anyone? Fact is if you call a guy your best friend, you put your friendship before you and girl. Girls dont come between the bonds of friendship unless of course its true love, but even that shouldn't break up a friendship. The fact that she is still with him after he cheated on her shows she really loves him. The fact that he cheated on her is just f***ed up. She telling you that she wants you is her putting up a safety net in case her boyfriend cheats on her again or decides he's done with her. Don't become that guy. All in all, as his friend you can't do anything with this, the point is too move on. If they break up at some point in the future and you really did "love" her then maybe something will happen, only time can tell. For now, respectfully, start being a friend.
gator12 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Sounds like she is using you for validation, emotional support, and attention. Regardless, she is not over the guy who is cheating on her which tells us 2 things. First and most importantly she is not romantically into you, and second something about emotionally abusive relationships is attracting for her. It could just be plain old fashioned love, she could be really in love with her boyfriend and is sticking with him hoping he'll change. Idk, love makes people do stupid things.
Stonewall Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 The reason I called my bestfriend that is because he cheated on her 3 times. He just played with her. Two wrongs don't make a right. You're probably going to do what you're going to do but I highly suggest you don't pursue this girl. Here are some reasons NOT to pursue her. 1. You WILL lose your bestfriend. Secondly I don't care what he's done you shouldn't be calling him names behind his back. 2. It shows lack of integrety and character. 3. This girl obviously has an emotional attatchment to your "friend". You will always be contending with that, and she could also be using you to "get even" 4. Just because you pursue her doesn't mean she'll want to be in a relationship with you. You'll be left without your best friend with no girl. There are a lot more cons to this then pros. If you want everything in the end you're going to end up with nothing.
Nexus One Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 (edited) Do yourself and them a favor. Gracefully retract yourself from contact with both that girl and your best friend. As you mention him to be an assh*le. It's never good to come between two lovers, that's just unethical, let alone the fact he's your best friend. Go look for greener grass. You have to. Edited January 23, 2011 by Nexus One
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