hanz Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Hey guys. Hanz here. I'm new here. Well i got a problem floating around my mind. Well there's this girl i met while working for a company part time about 3 months ago. Well we've been dating for 2 months already. I really2 like her alot. 2 month ago we used to talk on the phone twice or three times a week. Now when school reopens, she hardly have the time to talk on the phone. Not even once weekly. We hardly met each other too. Once a month that's all. She told me she how much she misses me and stuff. We text msgs to each other everyday. That's all. I know she's busy with projects and stuff. I understand that. But so do i. I have my final year project to complete. But i still find the time to take my time off to call her. But every time i tried to call her, she turned me down. Either she said she's busy with projects or just too tired. I'm not asking to talk on the phone daily, but just once a week will do. Just a simple phone call makes a difference. I surely do appreciate her texting me everyday. Like i said she told me she misses me and stuff but her actions doesn't really shows that. At least show a sense of interest. I mean we as humans, we sometimes yearn to be appreciated. So guys i need your opinions here. Am i being to needy or am i asking too much? Should i tell her how i feel or should i just let it go,get over it and just go with the flow? Correct me if i'm wrong.
mo mo Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 If you tell her how you feel you're going to ruin everything. Trust me on this, I've been in similar situations plenty of times. If you really do care for her, and she takes the time to text you every now and then, then it shows she does care about you and she does think about you. That is a good thing. However, you want more, and you don't really understand why it seems she doesn't want more time with you. I know that feeling... All I can say is that career-oriented women usually try to focus more on their education and careers and make time for their SO when they think they are emotionally ready for him and/or they just need some attention. It can be very difficult to get used to this kind of thing. It really isn't for everyone, but I know from experience that if you start to push for more attention she will probably end up doing something that damages your relationship with her. Patience. I know its hard. If you can't keep waiting, just find someone else.
walktheline Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Yep, listen to the poster above ^^^ Just got done with the same situation you are in and I made the mistake of asking for more and it's totally backfired on me. In fact after telling her that I would like more time with her and that I would accept whatever time she has, she's pretty much stopped contacting me all together. I'm going NC and starting to look elsewhere, if he life becomes less complicated somewhere down the road, then there might be a chance again, but I'm not holding my breath.
Author hanz Posted January 22, 2011 Author Posted January 22, 2011 If you tell her how you feel you're going to ruin everything. Trust me on this, I've been in similar situations plenty of times. If you really do care for her, and she takes the time to text you every now and then, then it shows she does care about you and she does think about you. That is a good thing. However, you want more, and you don't really understand why it seems she doesn't want more time with you. I know that feeling... All I can say is that career-oriented women usually try to focus more on their education and careers and make time for their SO when they think they are emotionally ready for him and/or they just need some attention. It can be very difficult to get used to this kind of thing. It really isn't for everyone, but I know from experience that if you start to push for more attention she will probably end up doing something that damages your relationship with her. Patience. I know its hard. If you can't keep waiting, just find someone else. Hey thanks for your advice pal. Appreciate it. Well i think you got a point there. Maybe i just want more attention from her. I guess i'll have to get used to it and see how it goes over time. I just need to have patience for it is a virtue. Thanks a lot pal. Really appreciate your advice. =)
Author hanz Posted January 22, 2011 Author Posted January 22, 2011 Yep, listen to the poster above ^^^ Just got done with the same situation you are in and I made the mistake of asking for more and it's totally backfired on me. In fact after telling her that I would like more time with her and that I would accept whatever time she has, she's pretty much stopped contacting me all together. I'm going NC and starting to look elsewhere, if he life becomes less complicated somewhere down the road, then there might be a chance again, but I'm not holding my breath. Hey pal. Yup that's what i'm going to do. Just need to have patience. And sorry to hear about that. I do hope you will be given a second chance. Have faith buddy. And thank you for taking your time to reply my thread. I really appreciate it. =)
mo mo Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Yep, listen to the poster above ^^^ Just got done with the same situation you are in and I made the mistake of asking for more and it's totally backfired on me. In fact after telling her that I would like more time with her and that I would accept whatever time she has, she's pretty much stopped contacting me all together. I'm going NC and starting to look elsewhere, if he life becomes less complicated somewhere down the road, then there might be a chance again, but I'm not holding my breath. Yea.. dont hold your breath. I went through something like this with a girl I really liked. We were on again off again about 4 different times. Each time we argued over spending time together it was the same BS that kept popping up. Then a few weeks later she would get super close to me and it would turn into the same BS again. It was a damn shame, really.
mo mo Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Hey thanks for your advice pal. Appreciate it. Well i think you got a point there. Maybe i just want more attention from her. I guess i'll have to get used to it and see how it goes over time. I just need to have patience for it is a virtue. Thanks a lot pal. Really appreciate your advice. =) Yea, hopefully if you are patient with her and time passes, she will begin to trust you more and feel more comfortable around you. if you can accomplish that then I think things will be much easier between you two. You are actually on the right track since she does text you regularly. In the situation I described above, I made the mistake of wanting more too soon. If I was more patient I might have not seen that ugly side of her so soon. Even though we got back together a few times, each time I felt our bond had been weakened since we had argued over such stupid BS.
walktheline Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Yea.. dont hold your breath. I went through something like this with a girl I really liked. We were on again off again about 4 different times. Each time we argued over spending time together it was the same BS that kept popping up. Then a few weeks later she would get super close to me and it would turn into the same BS again. It was a damn shame, really. Yeah, I'm not holding my breath. I went NC on her except for a stupid random drunk text last nite that wasn't really anything, so I deleted everything off my phone so I can't do that again. We never argued about it. I told her I accepted that she was busy, but I should have never sent that last email. I didn't tell her how much I liked her, just that I was willing to accept whatever amount of contact she did have for me. Stupid really. I really, really need to work on my patience and I'm vowing no more stupid emails or texts with the next relationship. Thanks for the advice though, I learn a lot on here.
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