quietGuy13 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 So right now i'm just sitting at home. Many of you guys have told me of activities . join classes, activitiesetc. Which i can try later when i plan it since i work every weekday and i haven't had a chance to plan what to join. But i'm just sitting at home now.. i want to go out and meet girls. but where? I go outside and i see girls but they are all hanging out with their friends, they don't need/want to meet strangers. in the weekend i usually just hop on the bus hoping that some girl will sit on my seat( each sit can ocupy 2 people) which never happens, so that never works. but then i go to stores and bookstore and computer store and stuff like that...no chance there either I just see women passing /walking. everybody has their group of friends already. they don't seem like they want to meet anyone else. I don't see anyway to meet girls in the weekend.
walktheline Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Go out with friends and it doesn't hurt if they're single as well, you can always use a good wingman to hang out with where there's lots of single women.
Cee Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Go online and found out what parties, bands, fundraisers, etc are going on. Also, look at what venues are there on a Saturday night- clubs, skating rinks, theaters, bars. If I wanted to meet women, personally I would hit a dance club. Or go see a band. Those places are easy to go alone to & there is a ready reason to interact- dancing. Art openings are good places to interact. Also, book and comic book stores can be good, although it takes guts to chat someone up who is reading a book. I would suggest that you set small goals. Go out tonight with the goal of checking out the scene and learning what places are good to meet women. Don't feel bad if you don't meet anybody. I go out tons of times and hardly talk to anyone, but I have a good time b/c I enjoy what I'm doing.
Author quietGuy13 Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 Well yesterday i just went out trying to meet people to talk to.. but it's pretty difficult. All girls walking in street or waiting for buses are always surrounded by friends OR with ipods or stuff. I spent like 30minutes at the bus terminal trying to see if i could talk to anyone but it was pretty much not possible. no one wants to be bothered. everyone has ipods or stuff. And i dont have friends so whoever said go out with friends or ask your friends..that doesn't appy to me. Young Women don't seem any open to talking to strangers. And this ipod/mp3 player culture/cellphone culture is not helping. As of today i was pondering about going to dance lessons and today tehre is one at 6pm but i dont have dance shoes(they said (icalled them) you need leather sole shoes and i have rubber only) and they have loud music and i have ear problems. So maybe i can't even do dance. ***** I dont know but it feels the only thing i can do is go walking downtown..but walking doesn't make me meet people, it only allows me to see people and practice smling and saying HI but i can't stop people who are walking. i would have to go INSIDE places but i have no interest in going to bars, restaurants etc. That's where the people are but i really have no interest. I mean what would i do at a cafe... there's nothing to do there but drink coffer/etc which i don't really have a need for. And i peeked in the window and seems all the people in cafes are hooked with computers and ipods... So really... it's like everyone is antisocial these days. And you make it sound easy about going to Art places/comic books stores/bands /dance clubs/ Yeah it's easy for talkative people to start talking but you see, normal people go to these places. they are loud outgoing.. and fluent. They think people like me are stupid cause i speak slow and have underdeveloped language sklls. For example, i've gone to bookstores, i see people engaged in conversations. They talk like this "hey fjefiuefeiufeiufeifueiufeiufeiufefufeiufieufie" I talk like this "Hi.........................................uhm............................what time is it?..............................uhm............" and by the time i have an idea, they get bored and leave. same thing in dance studios. Sure you can dance and not have to talk. That's how i did it when i went to dance class for 3 weeks in 2007. But after class is when these people start chatting with eatchother but they'd think i'm stupid because i'm not fluent. This guy started talking to me about dance......and i couldn't think nothing. i have nothing in my brain partly cause i've never been a talker BUT partly too because i'm slow. It takes me a long time to think. so they just forget me and give up. That's why i wish there was some place where people would be accepting but as for meeting girls, it seems there's no such place. Anyways i'm going to go out this Sunday(today) and do the same thing i did yesterda: Go walking, and go to bus terminal to try to see if there's people i can talk to who look accepting of me talking to them and don't have IPODs or texting. But i dont see anyway to make friends this way. If i'm lucky and i meet some girl.. we just talk alittle in bus terminal,, then it's all over she leaves and i'm left alone and that's the end of it
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