Foreveryours10 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Do you ever sometimes just wake up and feel like ugh today really sucks. Well today is that day for me. I love my boyfriend so much. but sometimes i think everything is just wonderful and this whole LDR thing isn't so bad, and then theres times where i just want to break down and cry and feel so insecure. He has never really given me any reason that he doesn't love me or want to leave me but i just can't help feeling the way i do sometimes. And i try not to always constant be nagging him about it because it must get annoying after awhile of always have to reassure me everything is fine. So anyway here is what brought my insecurity on today. My boyfriend will be coming to school with me next year after he graduates and i being so anxious about it likes to make sure he says on top of everything and gets all his payments in and all that jazz so needless to say he gave me his email address and password so i could help him keep on top of everything. So today i decided to just check on whats going on and i noticed that his ex ex gf is trying to friend him on facebook. Now i am hoping he will deny her but idk what if what if he doesnt. This girl keeps constantly trying to get back with my bf she use to text him all the time but he would ignore it and he even one time right in front of me texted her to tell her to leave him alone but she just doesn't seem to get the point. I think may be a little controlling but when i say that it just seemed to make my heart drop. She lives about maybe 15 minutes away from him which is a hell alot closer than me so i always worry what if hes like idk maybe ill try her so i can be closer to someone. I dont know maybe i am just worrying over nothing. I am trying to hold myself back form texting my boyfriend to make sure he denies that bitch but i want him to make the decision himself. As little reassurance for myself to know he really doesn't want anything to do with her. I dunno i just don't know.
creighton0123 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Put down the cell phone. Relationships that base too much serious communication via text messages are generally not healthy relationships. Avoid, at all costs, talking about serious topics over text message. Based on how it sounds, you don't have anything to worry about with this ex, whether or not he accepts her as a facebook friend. How far apart are the two of you?
folieadeux Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Most people have those days at one time or another, regardless of being in a relationship or not. With that being said, people put way too much emphasis on social networking sites nowadays. I understand your frustrations, but your boyfriend is choosing to be with you...not her. His ex has lived close to him the whole time yet he continues to want to be with you; those actions alone speak volumes over a friend request. Don't let your negative emotions ruin a good thing.
Author Foreveryours10 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 thanks your both right, but were 5 hour distance by car so not god awfully terrible but not something we could do all the time
creighton0123 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 thanks your both right, but were 5 hour distance by car so not god awfully terrible but not something we could do all the time You're right. A 5 hour car drive is a long way. That would lend itself to perhaps one weekend a month if you both have cars. I'd just let him know that you care for him and trust him completely. If he ever sees you express jealousy, let him know that your being jealous is a good thing and that it doesn't subtract from your ability to trust him. Not all jealousy is bad, especially when that manifests simply from a desire to want to be with him more. Just don't let it sink in too much. She may be his ex. She may be a girl who lives close to him and who he knows, but she's not his girlfriend - you are :-D
Author Foreveryours10 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 thanks and you're def right
wild_urge Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 there's two types of days, days spent together and bad days . . .
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