J0N Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Hi, I met somebody on a dating website. Ironically we used to hang out with the same people in HS, I never knew her too well though. We are talking about going on a date sometime this week. Is it too soon to start dating again? It's been a little over 90 days of NC for me with my ex. I don't want to cheapen my whole experience with my ex, but I think getting out might be good for me. Thoughts?
Rellek Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Dating after a breakup can often be very good for you. Sating your social needs will help you move on. BUT, if you find yourself comparing this new person to your ex you are doomed to fail. It's worth a try in my opinion. You'll never succeed if you don't try.
stopthemadness Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Hi, I met somebody on a dating website. Ironically we used to hang out with the same people in HS, I never knew her too well though. We are talking about going on a date sometime this week. Is it too soon to start dating again? It's been a little over 90 days of NC for me with my ex. I don't want to cheapen my whole experience with my ex, but I think getting out might be good for me. Thoughts? I say go for it. Just dont except to much out of it. Have fun make a new friend. And at the very least it got you out there again.
PleasantDeviation Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I think it all depends on how you feel. You also don't want to use the other person as a rebound. It's been a little over 2 months since my breakup. I talk to guys and go out on dates but I'm not ready to jump into anything serious. I'm kinda enjoying my time just hanging out with friends and doing whatever I want to do.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I think its to soon for a serious relationship.. I follow your other threads and only because you still have so much feelings for her that part you should really take things very slow on.. I think dating is a great idea though.. It will boost your confidence get you out there to meet new people and over all take your mind off of your ex. Have fun!!
screwball Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 It's risky. In a way, getting out is nice and it can be an ego boost. On the other hand, my first date after the b/u was terrible and it really set me back. Prior to the date I had been going strong with the thought that I WILL find someone better than my ex, but the date had been so bad that it made me doubt that. Also, be careful not to go over board. I used those dating sites for a little while and had WAY too many dates in too short a time period. Got burned out and had to take a break. Now I'm back, but being extremely selective so I don't spend too much on dates or communicating to future dates. I still need lots of "me time" since I'm trying not to lose myself in a relationship again or settle just to have the "security" of not being alone.
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