cdngirl Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I am a professional woman in my late 20's - I work overseas and have for the past few years. This last October, I met a wonderful man here and we started to date. At this time, he told me that he would be going back to the US come April. I did not think much of this at the time, as it was early in the relationship (like 2nd date) So, low and behold...things have progressed between us, and I'm in love with him, and him with me. BUT, he is leaving his job here in April. And his contract isn't being renewed. I am here for another year with my contract. He is going to try and get another job out here, but it isnt a sure thing. Question is, it's hard to predict what will happen with his job and us. I know I can't be in a long distance relnship for a great deal of time...too much... Any advice?
creighton0123 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I am a professional woman in my late 20's - I work overseas and have for the past few years. This last October, I met a wonderful man here and we started to date. At this time, he told me that he would be going back to the US come April. I did not think much of this at the time, as it was early in the relationship (like 2nd date) So, low and behold...things have progressed between us, and I'm in love with him, and him with me. BUT, he is leaving his job here in April. And his contract isn't being renewed. I am here for another year with my contract. He is going to try and get another job out here, but it isnt a sure thing. Question is, it's hard to predict what will happen with his job and us. I know I can't be in a long distance relnship for a great deal of time...too much... Any advice? So... he's leaving in April and you're there for another year. That means you're done next January. That would only really be 8 or 9 months apart, which isn't an incredibly lengthy amount of time for a long distance relationship. Really, though, the US is also pretty big. Wouldn't the fact that he's going back to the states and you're going back to the states mean that you are living in different areas? I've never seen it happen where two people meet abroad only to discover they live around the corner from one another... Talk with him in a few weeks about what the two of you are going to do, whether he wants to be in a long distance relationship, when the end date of the long distance part of the relationship will terminate, how often and through what mechanisms the two of you will communicate, etc. Aside from talking things over with him, there's really not all too much advice that can be given unless you're willing to bail on your contract.
folieadeux Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Talking everything through with him is the way to go. It doesn't sound like you'd have to deal with the distance for more than a year. I know that will be hard, but at least you'll be with the person you want to be with.
LittleTiger Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I know I can't be in a long distance relnship for a great deal of time...too much... It's funny you should say that because I know I can't be in a LDR for a great deal of time too...........except that I am and I will be for a lot longer still. If you really love this man you'll be suprised by what you can cope with. Talk to him about your future and if you want to be together you'll work it out somehow. A year isn't as long as you think.
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