hidayna Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 My ex and I broke up over a month ago, but we have remained friends. Staying friends is good for us, because we were best friends before dating, and our relationship didn't last very long until we realized it would be better for us to save ourselves the stress and headaches and go back to just friends. Now when we hang out, I see the him I loved, but I don't feel that way anymore. I'm almost completely healed, except for one thing. I can't help but become extremely jealous when I know he's hanging out with his ex girlfriend. Now, here's some background on the situation- they dated for about a month while him and I were friends. He bent over backwards for her and she rejected everything, made him feel like crap for being such a gentleman. Then while we were dating she ambushed him by just showing up at his house, crying and telling him that she missed him, she was sorry, and she wanted him back. Of course he rejected her, explaining that he was seeing me (she did not know we were dating at that time). Now, we are broken up and he hangs out with her occasionally (I see him more often than she does). My gut tells me they will hook up. They were friends with benefits before they dated, so that kind of behavior is not unusual for him. So why am I jealous?? I don't want my ex back, frankly he annoys me most of the time when we hang out. But for some reason, I just don't want his skeezy ex girlfriend to have him again. I just feel defeated, like I was her only hurdle, and now that I'm out of the way she can go conquer what she came for. I just hate her, really. So the question is, why in the world am I jealous of her? And what can I do to get over it?
badshayshay Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 From what it sounds like it seems like your just looking out for him. I don't really think that jealous is the right word. I think that maybe you just want him to have someone better than her. The question is, would it bother you if he dated someone else other than his ex? That question will tell you if you are truly jealous or just caring for him.
Author hidayna Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 I don't think seeing him with another woman would bother me. It's really just her, I hate her past and what she's done to him, and I hate even more that he went from not wanting to even be friends with her while we were dating to being buddy buddy with her once we broke up. But who knows, maybe they're perfect for each other or something. :/ All I can do at this point is let go, move on, and let whatever happens happen.
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