Back Burner Gal Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Huge office scandal. Turns out that the boss's pretty girlfriend of about a year (she's about 48-49) has had 27 arrests in the past for prostitution between 1982 and 2003. She also has had some recent check, shoplifting and fraud charges but nothing since 2007. Everyone's buzzing about what he's going to do about her, dump her or keep her. Guys what would you do? If you are emotionally invested for about a year and she hasn't done any hooking in 7 years and been totally clean for 3 years, would you keep her?
carhill Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Depends. Is she arm candy or the potential mother of my children? IMO, at minimum, since I'm not an arm candy guy, I'd get her rap sheet and we'd have a 'talk'. There would be a lot of transparency during that talk. Then I'd process that information, alone.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 She was a prostitute before the AIDS epidemic?
daphne Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I'm not a guy, but I think most guys would take a pass on that. 27 arrests? That means how many men? Ew.
Author Back Burner Gal Posted January 22, 2011 Author Posted January 22, 2011 She's almost 50 so she's not having anyone's kids. She's pretty in the super curly hair, big eyes, bigger thin nose, Italian way. She's not a knockout, but good looking. Not a smashing figure, but proportionate. I don't know if that qualifies as eye candy. I think she was a hooker during the AIDS epidemic, wasn't that mid 80's thru the 90's? She's so nice and friendly and still on probation for $20,000 she stole from an elderly person in 2007. She paid it back so she didn't go to jail.
Billy_Boy Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Hell no. Any woman that would sell herself like that has serious issues that extend into deep personality flaws. That would be an insanely risky relationship to enter emotionally.
bobdole Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 #1 Its none of the employee's business If I happened to meet a girl, fall in love, and later discovered she had been a prostitute I can't honestly say what I'd do. I think it would have to happen to me for me to know. Nothing quite effects your thought process like Love.
Billy_Boy Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 #1 Its none of the employee's business If I happened to meet a girl, fall in love, and later discovered she had been a prostitute I can't honestly say what I'd do. I think it would have to happen to me for me to know. Nothing quite effects your thought process like Love. And STD scan would be a good start lol.
carhill Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 HIV is still an issue but it isn't as publicized anymore. My first readings about it occurred in 1982, though I imagine it was around before then. IMO, if this 'situation' is widely known, I could see it as an impediment to my leadership (presuming the boss is a 'leader'). There should be no bleed from personal to business life, but reality isn't that way. If the team didn't respect me for this issue, I'd have no control over that. By 'mother of my children', I implied a potential marital partner. In that case, complete and verifiable transparency would be a must, at minimum, and a pre-nup would occur without saying. I offer this opinion respecting the man's emotional investment and the fact that they have been intimate for some time. As she committed many lies of omission, I'd treat it the same way as a betrayal of the relationship. Trust would have to be rebuilt. Personally, I'd likely move on, but not every man has that perspective. What's the boss's history? Does he have a 'colorful' past too? If so, that's a factor.
Minnie09 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 OP never mentioned anywhere whether the boss has always known about her history, or if he (and his employees) just found out recently. I'm assuming she didn't tell him about her past activities, and that IS a major deal breaker IMO. I wouldn't keep her, if I were him. I mean, we are not talking about minor issues here. That's big. Criminal record and such... STDs.... No, prostitution, fraud etc. definitely need to be brought up by the person as soon as the R starts to get serious.
Author Back Burner Gal Posted January 22, 2011 Author Posted January 22, 2011 Boss did not know until last week.
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