Andymack Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 ...and I feel like I'm back at square one Me and my ex split up about 6 months ago and I have been in NC for a month. I was trying to keep in NC for longer than that but about have been contacting her to try and get my stuff back but she wasn't sorting it so about a month ago I went to see her sister (my ex lives with her) as I didn't want to see her because I had been doing really well beforehand and thought that that seeing her would affect my healing. When I got there I spoke to her sister for ages and caught up and had a laugh and didn't get round to getting my stuff (rookie mistake I know) but she told my ex that I had been round and to cut a long story short we had a a massive argument on text with her saying don't come round again and "I've got to get past this" which is exactly what i am trying to do, but she was the one contacting me to organise a meet so I could get my stuff. I sent her a text saying that I wouldn't contact her again, was getting past this and wished her the best for the future. That was the last communication we had. The thing is that i was due to be going out last night with one of my housemates and i knew that my ex would be out as she would just have been paid and she always goes out on the town the Friday she gets paid so was thinking that i might see her and in a way kind of hoping I would. I've changed a lot in 6 months and I didn't want that last text be the thing that she hold on to and remember me by. I wasn't gonna do anything silly was just gonna say I didn't want it to end like that, smooth things over and then go. Anyway I didn't go out as my housemate was too drunk (i was finishing at 11 a night and he had been out since about 4) so just went to bed and had a really vivid dream about me and my ex getting back together and kissing with all the old feelings and just as I was thinking this is too god to be true I woke up and found out that it was. I feel so hurt again and it made me realise how much I miss her and still want to be with her. I know there isn't any chance of it happening again but just when I seem to be doing ok something like this happens. It sucks:mad:
tobydog1 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Yeah I had 4 dreams about my stbx last night. In one he was with her and she was (is actually ) gross. But he tried to protect her from me! I felt glad to wake up and none of it was real. Well it may be, maybe I had some sort of premonition dream! Also, the past few weeks I have been dreaming about people from my past, my old b/friends, my dad and my darling dog who I lost at Christmas. They are crowding my dreams and I wonder why? If you have a bad dream it can put you in a bad mood for the rest of the day can't it? My pal has a massive dream analysis book....no I'm not going there..... yes it all sucks....take care x
Leandro Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I'm sorry man. I had some bad dreams after the break up too. I don't have them anymore, well I do hear about her in them but I never see her. Now I have dreams about other girls, or killer monkeys. They will go away with time.
depplover_1980 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 It is quite normal to dream of your ex as your subconsious misses them and can still access them in your dream, making up for the absense in real life. Eventually they do dwindle, though I still dream of my first b/f sometimes.
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