sully737 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 So Ive been casually dating this guy since March... Casually, with the stipulation being that he lived about 2 hours away, and I didnt want to do a long distance relationship. He wanted something a little more serious from me from the beginning. He is finally moving to my city, and although I had voiced some apprehensions when he had first said he was moving here, over the holidays, and as the date has approached, I could feel my walls coming down, and I became more and more excited about him moving to me. Now, he is moving here at the end of this month! But, the tables seemed to have turned, and now he's the one who seems uneasy about it all. Ive been trying to show him that Im excited for him to be here, but I feel as thought my uneasiness about it at the begining has left him with cold feet. I want to show him that I want him to be here, but I dont know how else to do it! He's going to be here tomorrow to move some stuff in. I suppose this post is not so much for advice, but moreso to see if anyone else from a long distance relationship has expirienced the proximity jitters?
folieadeux Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I wasn't sure from your post, but is he moving solely for you and at your residence? My SO and I don't yet live together but I know when the time comes I'll have zero doubts because we've prepared so much for it. It sounds like both of you were and still are at completely different interest levels in your relationship, which is most likely his cause for concern. I'm just curious as to if he'll be living with you and if his main reason for the move is to give things a go with you because you mentioned you were only casually dating. Seems strange to me to uproot your life for someone you're not in a committed relationship with, but I could have just interpreted your post wrong.
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