alexlakeman Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Preface: just ranting! I know it was a one date deal, but "based on d convo". So, I was ready to focus on one woman, we went out a week ago, all was great, talk every day. She says she wants to see me , dat she got off of xyz datingf site already etc. She was obviously just trying to sleep with me or have a backup. So we talk dis evening, she says she has to go, She says she can't wait to see me next week.... She "butt dials " me 2 minutes later. I am on a long drive so leave on speaker for 45 minutes . I heard everything from her asking d guy how long he was divorced, to that he has to take her fishing. When she finally noticed she hgung up. I texted her something and she said "just a friend". I proceeded to email her what I heard that confirmed it was a date. Haven't heard from her since. Perfext f'n example of women today. Ugggghh Rant off. Sorry if it foesnt make sence on my blackberry. Thoughts?
Stung Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Why is she an example of "women" today? From what you have said before, it doesn't sound like anything you haven't done yourself, you have happily admitted to cheating on and lying to women. You have said you even advise your children to keep backups around and prepare for high turnover. Anyway, is this the same woman everybody already told you sounded pretty low-class? That does suck and it is bad behavior, IMO, but at least you found out upfront before you had a LOT invested in her. And if it's the same woman you've been talking about for the last few weeks, it sounds pretty in-character.
LexiB Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 You were so out of line here. Harassing her and trying to make her feel guilty for talking to another guy after ONE date with you?? For goodness sake, you emailed her a freaking transcript of the conversation! It's creepy. It may comes as a shock, but after one date she has every right to still be flirting with other men. Does it suck that you accidentally had a frontrow seat to it? Of course. Does it mean she did anything wrong, though? Not at allll.
pookster72 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 id be kinda creeped out if someone listened to my background noise for 45 mins, especially if we had only been on one date. WTF
AverageJoe Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 You were so out of line here. Harassing her and trying to make her feel guilty for talking to another guy after ONE date with you?? For goodness sake, you emailed her a freaking transcript of the conversation! It's creepy. It may comes as a shock, but after one date she has every right to still be flirting with other men. Does it suck that you accidentally had a frontrow seat to it? Of course. Does it mean she did anything wrong, though? Not at allll. Some people go out on dates thinking that means instant exclusivity. This just isn't the case. What is this entitlement attitude? I really cant understand it. Though we see it time and again on these forums. Just wanted to say good post Lex.
Author alexlakeman Posted January 22, 2011 Author Posted January 22, 2011 Some of you missed my "preface" before posting "it's only one date" lol. I feel better now after a some rum . No doubt it was only one date. I, myself, have 2 other first dates lined up. It just s)cked for me to have to hear an hour of he other first date. She fed me d line & sinker & I took d bait. The date we had was "we had sex" or "that's not sex" based on who's talking about it lol, but I do know what color her panties were that night, dat she is "smooth", and her n)pples are r nice and round. Plus she told me all d BS I would tell a woman! She's my freakin female version, so I'm pi)ssed,kinda lol, after alllllllllll these other first dates d last manyyyyyy months lol. Creepy listening? LoL oh well, I honestly I had a long as) drive this evening lol. My last text to her was classic "l know how dis "first date" will end lol". I still have d first date with the pilot and with a profesor; my online expired last week so dis is it for now.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Silly me and here I was wondering how exactly one dials a phone with there butt...gutted! no explanation..Bummer and I was hoping for some diagrams and all eh maybe next time...
rafeal Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Omg, you met a woman who takes guys fishing and you let her get away??? Just kidding, wave off captain and dont listen in next time...
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Why don't you post in normal English, man? You're in your forties, not fourteen.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Why don't you post in normal English, man? You're in your forties, not fourteen. 14 is the new 40 seriously didn't you get the memo?
Titania22 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 14 is the new 40 seriously didn't you get the memo? Don't you mean 40 is the new 14?
Trimmer Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Creepy listening? Uh, yes, kinda, given that you made a very specific and conscious decision to eavesdrop for a long time without her knowledge, then you say: It just s)cked for me to have to hear an hour of he other first date. ... as if you were tied down and made to listen against your will. A little anti-masochism advice: if something is making you sick, STOP DOING IT. This attitude is really just a sample of the overall tenor of your rant (and yes, I know it's just a rant, and I know you seem to have a sense of humor about it too, which I acknowledge...) but you seem to be angry at her for doing this to you, while at the same time you acknowledge that this is a kind of a mirror held up to reflect what you do to others. Perhaps, is your anger at her and your sickness about how "she made you feel" really also a reflection of some very mixed feelings you have about yourself and how you treat others?
Titania22 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I find it interesting that this thread was posted on a reflection day, where how we treat others is reflected back at us.
Author alexlakeman Posted January 22, 2011 Author Posted January 22, 2011 It7's not like back in the day when you talked from a land line and someone intentionally pick up another phone to "evesdrop". I wasn't going to just hang up and miss all the drama unfold in my ear. We didn't even know each other's last name; there is NO exclusivity after a first date, no way, but but but but lol, you would have to be there to understand lol Oh well. I guess she just wanted me for sex on the first date lol. Shoe's on the other foot now "she just used me"!! Lol I'm over it, today I'm laughing about it. I just didn't get to understand what they ordered to drink! Crap lol.
sweetjasmine Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 It just s)cked for me to have to hear an hour of he other first date. It's such a shame you couldn't hang up the phone or anything. Poor you. Plus she told me all d BS I would tell a woman! She's my freakin female version, so I'm pi)ssed,kinda lol, after alllllllllll these other first dates d last manyyyyyy months lol. Yeah, how dare someone treat you the way you treat others? What's up with that?
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 It's uncanny how you somehow have found a strata of life that includes only other people who function just like you do. I'm in your age group. I did a lot of online dating, and had a lot of fails there, but I never even once met a person who came off like you and evidently, all these ladies you date, do. Thank goodness. Alex, you show no concept of having respect for any female, you are perfectly comfortable with objectifying women (I don't think you give it a second thought), you think offensive and really ... um ... stupid language is funny, or hip, or something (I can't figure it out). You seem to function 100% on a superficial plane. You meet women who seem, from your descriptions, to be just like you. Are you all bar flies? Is there any other piece of you?
irc333 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Nah, it's only creepy because he mentioned it to her. LOL Although 45 mins? I'd probably get bored after a few mins. id be kinda creeped out if someone listened to my background noise for 45 mins, especially if we had only been on one date. WTF
Cee Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I've been encouraged and buoyed by the dating success by the single, 40-somethings on Love Shack Alex, you are hilarious, but you are such a player. I get enraged by your posts, but I admit I'm entertained by them. It's good to know the mind of a player, although I don't sense much intelligence is involved here.
LexiB Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Nah, it's only creepy because he mentioned it to her. LOL Although 45 mins? I'd probably get bored after a few mins. See, I'd actually agree w/ you here. I'm not disturbed so much by the idea of him listening as I am by his audacity to try to use what he heard against her. One I can chalk up to human nature, the other is just...f'kn nuts.
Author alexlakeman Posted January 22, 2011 Author Posted January 22, 2011 I've been encouraged and buoyed by the dating success by the single, 40-somethings on Love Shack Alex, you are hilarious, but you are such a player. I get enraged by your posts, but I admit I'm entertained by them. It's good to know the mind of a player, although I don't sense much intelligence is involved here. Hey I'm not having much luck, weather my issues or $$ or ?? I'm really not bad , obviously here in a world that no one knows me , and I can ask st)pid q's & make comments along the lines, I do ask and make comments I wouldn't in my daily life. Once I get in a "relationship" I'm focused on that. I don't treat women with disrepect, I do alwayssSs open doors, pull seat out, etc. Plus I love to do all d local fun activities, weather out drinking or at the movies. So I do bring a good package to the table. I guess when sometimes I get aTtracted to women that are my female version. I don't think I'm a player but kinda ironic you mention that as this new lady I'm talking to (haven't met) were talking yesterday and I was telling her that I was entertaining moving to another part of town and her response? That area is foe the player or the single guy. Some comment like that. So here I was lining up a first date (sun btw) & I loose point bc I like a certain part of town lol (think south beach, FL usa).
Trimmer Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 It7's not like back in the day when you talked from a land line and someone intentionally pick up another phone to "evesdrop". I wasn't going to just hang up and miss all the drama unfold in my ear. Sorry, but if you know you are listening to a conversation that someone else expects is private, and you have the ability to stop, and you choose to continue to listen secretly, you are eavesdropping. This was covered in Manners 101.
Author alexlakeman Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 Sorry, but if you know you are listening to a conversation that someone else expects is private, and you have the ability to stop, and you choose to continue to listen secretly, you are eavesdropping. This was covered in Manners 101. Ok, so I got my competition in a meeting talking to a potential client, they happen to be talking very close to me, NOT knowing who I work for.. so I am not supposed to eavesdrop? lol.. Of course you would; This was covered in LIFE 201.. That a grad level course aka street smarts course, as was covering your a)s.. (as in listening to the convo that "they"dialed me to listen to , as far as I know, if you want to dissect the situation more than I did on the original post lol..
Cee Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 I regret calling you a player because I think it's disrespectful and judgmental on my part. I apologize for that. I like your candor because I get to be a fly on the wall in the mind of a guy. But the way you objectify your dates by referring to their physical attributes upsets me. It's a complete turn off. I don't know if I could get away with saying degrading things behind a guy's back and then smile to his face on a date. I prefer to be consistent in my approach and stick to the positive. I don't want to you to change yourself for my comfort at all. Your caustic posts are a good reality check for me. I am grateful to LS because no man would say to my face what you post here. It's an education.
Author alexlakeman Posted January 24, 2011 Author Posted January 24, 2011 I regret calling you a player because I think it's disrespectful and judgmental on my part. I apologize for that. I like your candor because I get to be a fly on the wall in the mind of a guy. But the way you objectify your dates by referring to their physical attributes upsets me. It's a complete turn off. . Apology accepted, but it wasn't necessary. Maybe "this" is the real me, but I've lived as someone else all my life, who knows, but I guarantee you, that any of my last 4-5 g/f's (long terms, ie over a year , up to and including 4+ years) will tell you I was a great guy, sweet, a gentleman, great with their family and kids, ambitious... BUT, I cheated on them, and that's were the relationships ended).
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