Vickstar Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I was thinking that everyone whos having trouble moving on should write a list of all the bad things about there ex on this thread, my ex dumped me 4 months ago, i loved him very much but looking back on the last few months of the relationship, he wasnt all that amazing, so here are my list of things that i didnt like about him. *He was quite rude when my grandparents would come for dinner, he complained how boring they were *Didnt come and visit me after i broke my foot *He once said i wasnt making an effort with my appearance *Always got his own way *Didnt want much sex *Stubborn and big headed looking back on this list, why oh why did did i treat him like a king?? but hey kinda makes me feel better, knowing there will be someone better out there for me.
GreenPolicy Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I will always love my ex, but in a "I appreciate them and what they meant to me and what we had together" kind of way, not a pining and want to get back together way. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
depplover_1980 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 *Argumentative *Secretive *Emotional issues *Smelly bum
chloe56 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 * Listened to Primus (he loved that band) * Lousy with finances * Immature * Stinky feet :0
mfs976 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 * Could not give me the emotional stability and physical connection I needed * Wouldn't acknowledge my presence when she came home - wouldn't give me a hug, kiss, or tell me she loved me 'just because' * Never initiated sex * She had PTSD and an anxiety complex (from military and other things) * Nothing I did around the house was ever up to her standards * Would not support anything I was passionate about (hobbies etc..) causing me to cut back on them or stop altogether. * Got really pissy in bars/clubs * Easily frightened and startled (PTSD) * Attached a reasoning behind every little thing I did nice for her, i.e argument 3 weeks prior or because society forced me to feel obligated (holiday). Hence nothing I surprised her with was good enough or counted. * Was not willing to give up her independence for interdependence when in a relationship..she did her own dishes, laundry, groc. shopping etc...didn't want to share or take turns doing these things like most couples do. * She is widowed (he took his own life). * Prayed our relationship would sort itself out but wouldn't confront me about anything directly. * Was not very hospitable * Never said she loved me unless I said it first. * HATES cold weather (yet she organized a 'snow ball war' in her backyard and invited a bunch of guys/friends).. * Never was up for doing anything adventurous or spontaneous. I tried to get her to go skydiving, scuba diving, skiing and she didn't want to...however she wants to do all kinds of new and interesting things now that she's single. What a shocker. * This list could go on Yet I still love her...what a joke.
kalena9488 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 stinky feet smoked pot bad with money didn't make enough money (to support himself) didn't ask me for money but had a way to make me feel like I should give it to him. 4 ex wives and one current wife (for two years of saying he was getting a divorce). drank too much couldn't even carry insurance on his vehicle. stopped keeping up the yard (which was all I asked of him) Lied about alot
IfiKnewThen Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 he treated me great in the first 5 years. better than anyone did in my life but i now know he was passive aggressive and lied a lot and........ * blamed his passive aggressive behavior on me * lied like a rug * didnt tell me things. avoided and thought that "not saying" was not lying * set up a whole MyS account with all his co-workers and friends & never told me * told me for 5 years he was moving to me and procrastinated and then ultimately lied about it and never came and never planned on it * broke off with me ...NOT by telling me, mind you,...but by being cold and distant..till i confrtonted him...he was a coward and never said the words but agreed it was over. *when he came to visit me in the last 2 years, I now believe it was for a fun vacation rather than out of love. he continually mislead me. *flirted with so many other women (i found pics of this) at the comic book convention and always made himself out to be so honest and true and never flirt with anyone! *practically forgot my birthday one year and gave me a last ditch present (flowers) via mail to make up for it. i had to remind him it was my bday * constantly made a fuss out of his own Bday every year and no matter what i did for him he never appreciated it. bought him tickets to go shoot pool with his friends and took him a year to use it. this after he complained he didnt get to get out and shoot pool with his friends *caught him online writing to a porn site that he wanted "one last fling" before he moved to me. sighs *used to see him in the same red shorts and no shirt on cam everyday and busy on the computer. yet, he would get dressed to the nines to go to work and go out with his friends. he bought all new clothes yet i never saw him in any of them. i kid you not...1 year in red shorts on the PC cam. he just didnt care about me anymore. thats my point. he only got excited to look good for others. i loved him so much i didnt care how he dressed. its just the sign of them not caring about YOU anymore. *cried he didnt want to be in a relationship one day. then apologized the next and said he didnt mean it then never told me he DID mean it and plotted to get out of it...to himself. and the worst part......................................drum roll........... after he broke off with me (by his cowardly cold rudeness...back in june 2010) he said he met a lady (distance cousin thru marriage who lived in mexico) in august 2010. he then, 4 months later, MARRIED her. (dec 2010) here's the kicker. i didnt know he was getting married. and i was talking to him on the phone one day. unbeknownst to me it was the day before his wedding... and he didnt mention it at all....... and even came on to me on the phone!!! thank goodness i stopped it. (thats all i can say). i found out thru seeing a tweeter from his best man he got married the next day. then (because i didnt know he was getting married) i sent him a christmas present. (he still hasnt opened it) and i suspect he threw it out . he says he has it, but hasnt opened it. i dont believe anything he says anymore. i am now trying to get my things/belongings back from him. oh he recently blocked me on his buddy list after saying we still can be friends. these are all the things i dont like about him.
IfiKnewThen Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 PS oh yeah he always complained about not having money and kinda indirectly blamed me for it. yet he had enough to get married...have a wedding...get her here from mexico. now take care of her and her son and bought a house. this all in 4 months time. sighs
PleasantDeviation Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 * Told me he was 30 even though he was 38. He told me he was a Creative Marketing Director even though he has been unemployed for almost 2 years. The only reason I found out is because I confronted him about him. A lot of his stories didn't make sense at some point. *He had a body of a teenager. The sex was great. That was probably the only part of his body that wasn't underdeveloped. *He was generally very negative and a cynic. *Nothing excited him. I don't know if he was like that only with me but whatever I did for him, I just couldn't get any happy reaction out of him. *He was a control freak. He always wanted the upper hand. *His face is all over the internet on multiple dating sites. He never took them down while we were involved. *He rarely initiated contact with me. He made me chase him. *He got a kick out of bashing me. He always felt that he needed to put me in my place. *He criticized EVERYTHING about me. *He wasn't a looker himself but expected me to look like a MODEL. *He introduced me to his family and friends, introduced me as his girlfriend but broke up with me after 10 months because he was NEVER feeling "it". I'm sure I'm forgetting something but this is all I can think of at the moment. I never mistreated him and I was always loyal. Karma is gonna bite him in his ass one day. My revenge is that I will always do better than him because he's just a little miserable jerk. *Pheww, I feel better now*
SophiaL Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 *too laid back-never wanted to go out *not much involvement with my family *never really spoke of future plans for us 2 *should have had a better job *He got used to things really comfortably *didnt surprise me *didn't give emotional stability *didn't do much to save our relationship I know i'm to blame for a lot of his attitudes, cause I was the one who didn't do much as well at first. But, if he really 'loved' me, he should have had taken the time to talk to me and work through our issues. The break up was a mutual decision, he's moved on I haven't!!
SophiaL Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 But, all also have to say, he did a lot of good things to me...i was a moody bitch and he was always there for me. I guess is hard for me to find closure, because I regret my attitudes...if I hadn't been so distant things would definitely been great!!! I hate myself for that!wish I'd have a second chance to see if things would then work out
IfiKnewThen Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 PSS actually i am still in love with the guy he once was:o * i didnt like that he made feel SO loved once before, that even tho he left me and he's married now; my brain is still thinking he loves me! its like he brain washed me so much. convincing me so that he'd never leave me..that even after the fact...my mind still can't believe it. i have never had such a mind twister before like this in all my life. i keep praying God delivers me from the shock of it all.
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