Hacker Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 With my knowledge of computers I can destroy the man the love of my life has decided to see after our break up. The dark side of me is a predator, stalking and viral. I have not done anything yet, however, the battle within me still rages... Thoughts...
Country_Girl Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I wouldn't do it. Listen, it's normal to have some hateful feelings after a breakup. But think about this, let's say you destroy this guys life & she comes running back to you. Then you will know you were only second best to her, just a backup. Would you want to settle for that? The best revenge is living a happy life. If it's not meant to be with this guy, then you won't have to do anything- it will fall apart on it's own in due time. Just cease all contact with her, make her wonder about you. Give her time to miss you. And by the time that happens, when/if she comes around, you will have moved on and won't want her back anyway.
Author Hacker Posted January 21, 2011 Author Posted January 21, 2011 I wouldn't do it. Listen, it's normal to have some hateful feelings after a breakup. But think about this, let's say you destroy this guys life & she comes running back to you. Then you will know you were only second best to her, just a backup. Would you want to settle for that? The best revenge is living a happy life. If it's not meant to be with this guy, then you won't have to do anything- it will fall apart on it's own in due time. Just cease all contact with her, make her wonder about you. Give her time to miss you. And by the time that happens, when/if she comes around, you will have moved on and won't want her back anyway. Thank You. She just got home a few minutes ago. I had ask her not to see him today, she of course punched out of work an hour ago and went to see him.
poorguy Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Your a cyberstalker and a cyberpredator??? That's not good man!!!! Read what you wrote again. Sounds creepy dude. Imagine what she will think of it??? She'll think your super creepy and as you said yourself a stalker and a predator (cyber of course)..When your emotional you can think all sorts of wild, twisted thoughts. I really think it's natural...People yourself included need to think this- Instead of asking yourself if you could you need to ask yourself if you should?!?!?!? You'll go with the should anytime
jenifer1972 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Please clarify. Are you broken up but still living together? Married? Or does she think she is carrying on behind your back? Did he steal her or is he unaware you exist?
Author Hacker Posted January 21, 2011 Author Posted January 21, 2011 No I am not a predator or stalker, I am simply stating what I am capable of with my knowledge. No we are not married but should have been, we simply didn't have enough money to do so. No he did not not steal her we are all aware of each other, we still love together. She still allows me to be intimate with her but cannot wait to see him. We had been together for 7 years, 2 days after the break-up, she slept with him. She knows I am a hacker and knows what I am capable of.
jenifer1972 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 It is always our first instinct to hate the "usurper", because they are the stranger, the outsider, but in reality, YOU ARE SLEEPING WITH THE ENEMY AND IT IS HER...not him.
edgeofdarkness Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 No I am not a predator or stalker, I am simply stating what I am capable of with my knowledge. No we are not married but should have been, we simply didn't have enough money to do so. No he did not not steal her we are all aware of each other, we still love together. She still allows me to be intimate with her but cannot wait to see him. We had been together for 7 years, 2 days after the break-up, she slept with him. She knows I am a hacker and knows what I am capable of. R u sayin this is a polyamorous relationship? She has the 2 of u? Thats what u have here right? a Chick who shags 2 guys. bummer. u need to lay off laying her, and end this rite now.
Country_Girl Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 She is keeping you on the back burner in case things don't work out with this guy. Right now she is getting the best of both worlds, she gets to keep you (emotionally & physically) and same with the other guy. Don't settle for this. Maybe you think if she sees how understanding you are, that she will have a change of heart. That is not the case, it will just drive her even closer to this guy, because she can still depend on you to have her emotional needs met. You are helping this guy by staying by her side. Don't be intimate with her. Tell her you will not settle. And do not be her emotional dumping ground.
Author Hacker Posted January 21, 2011 Author Posted January 21, 2011 I don't know, she tells me that she will not tell him we are intimate, what do you think.
Graceful Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I don't know, she tells me that she will not tell him we are intimate, what do you think. troll :bunny: have a nice weekend
Author Hacker Posted January 22, 2011 Author Posted January 22, 2011 Troll! Are you kidding me you fascist, have you read my other post! apparently not..
Graceful Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Troll! Are you kidding me you fascist, have you read my other post! apparently not.. Never been called a fascist before, and you base this on the fact i thought you were a troll b/c you are sleeping with your "ex" even though she is dating someone new? Um, well, if you say so. Otherwise, my bad for thinking you're a troll. And my condolences re: your relationship troubles. Based on the information in this thread, I'd say you are living in a very dysfunctional situation and need to change it. Hacking is not going to solve your problems, it's just going to make them more complicated than they are. Revenge is not a satisfactory way to solve a problem. If anyone else has any input for you, please resume play. Penalty is on me; I'm benched for the remainder of the game.
spiderowl Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 (edited) You know you could do it, let that give you some confort and a feeling of power over him, but leave it at that. Deep down you know that it was her that made a choice, not that he 'stole' her. Can you really put the blame on him? She had something to do with it too. You must feel angry at her but because he's the one who she's with your anger is directed to him too. Perhaps it seems more acceptable for a guy to be angry with another guy than a girl? Lashing out might make you feel better, but later you may also feel embarrassed at the lack of control. I've been tempted, in the past in times of great pain like this, to 'give her a piece of my mind'. Thankfully, I didn't, and now I look back and see it as a time when my emotions were all over the place and I wanted to hurt them for hurting me. I doubt you would be proud of yourself when you look back on this situation if you give way to your darker side. I am very thankful I didn't lose control with this woman. I'm proud I retained my dignity when they were losing theirs because, under the circumstances, it was a tall order! Let her go, mentally and from your heart. Imagine handing her over to him and not giving her a choice in the matter. Dump her! Accept that she's not the girl you thought she was and that's why she's made this decision. She's not your match but someone else will be. When you do mentally 'dump' her, a weight will be lifted off your shoulders. It will take a while for the painful, mixed feelings to subside, possibly many sleepless nights and even panic attacks, but if you talk to your friends, post on Loveshack, to help get this off your chest, gradually the pain will subside and you will relax. One day, you will start to consider other girls seriously and look forward to something better. It will happen, just bide your time and take care of yourself. Good luck! [Edit, just realised you are still living with her. Don't let her sleep with you or play games. She won't respect you if you allow her to have you both at the same time. Tell her this is not an open relationship, she is breaking the rules and she will be sleeping on the sofa until she gets somewhere else. No wonder you're angry, but I think you are angry at her not him.] Edited January 22, 2011 by spiderowl
screwup Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 While I'm not in the same boat, but in a variety of ways I could turn a person's life upside down and be a cancer on their life. I'd never consider doing this to my ex-lady or any future love interest of her's.. I respect her way too much and want her to be happy. Even in separation, her best interest is what I want even if that means never taking me back. If you feel this way about her, then you need to do your best to forget about her and move on. If you care about her man, just let her be happy. Messing up her life is a step in the wrong direction in getting her back. Not everything has to be about you. If you want her back, live your life, be happy, treat her well.. She's never going to come back to a predatory psycho. Even if she does, is that the way you want? A relationship based on fear and not love isn't worth having, man.
screwup Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I just read your other thread.. no need to mess with the guy. Your wife is the one who should be loyal to you, not the guy. If you get rid of the guy, you're still left with a disloyal wife.
Author Hacker Posted January 22, 2011 Author Posted January 22, 2011 (edited) Thank you all for your responses...I was pretty emotional when I had stated about destroying him. The truth is that I couldn't, I am better than that. I do not feel power because of my computer abilities as someone stated, I feel humbled. Yes it is true that he is not the issue...She is. And once again, she is not my wife, we were just together for a very long time (7 years). TO Graceful: I know you have not been called a fascist, that why I had hoped to illicit a laugh from you due to it rarely being used. You have to remember I am a hacker so "troll" to me has a different definition. To me it means someone who comes to message boards simply to start trouble. I had made amens tonight with her and told her if he makes her happy then so be it but just be respectable to me while I am here.... Then we had sex....and no I am not kidding. My mind is at ease so I am not the guy in her back pocket either. I am now the guy who can have HIS cake and eat it too... Edited January 22, 2011 by Hacker Addition
Author Hacker Posted January 22, 2011 Author Posted January 22, 2011 I had forgotten to mention that in all retrospect, I am very lucky. She want to be friends...not just friends but best friends. Tonight was our last discussion about her and him...we made good progress. The pain is subsiding but still remains. I am glad I can have her in my life like this...perhaps I was just missing the positives. Note: I love having sex with her, and the positive side to this is I can laugh to myself about the other guy sitting home while I am filling out his new girlfriend like an application!
Trimmer Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I don't know, she tells me that she will not tell him we are intimate, what do you think. I think you have chosen your course in this situation with full knowledge, and from this point on, any anger you have about it should be directed at yourself. Very simply, your rage (which I understand has now subsided) is at yourself, but you are misdirecting it outward. TO Graceful: I know you have not been called a fascist, that why I had hoped to illicit a laugh from you due to it rarely being used. You have to remember I am a hacker so "troll" to me has a different definition. To me it means someone who comes to message boards simply to start trouble. From the context, I'm pretty sure that's how she meant it when she first said it. She knows I am a hacker and knows what I am capable of. Since you're wearing "hacker" like a badge, and while we're on the subject of defining terms, let me make it clear that if you have any appreciation for the history of computing, you should know that the minute you use your skills to "destroy someone", you are damn well no longer a "hacker" - you're just a criminal with a skill.
Jonno_S Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 No I am not a predator or stalker, I am simply stating what I am capable of with my knowledge. No we are not married but should have been, we simply didn't have enough money to do so. No he did not not steal her we are all aware of each other, we still love together. She still allows me to be intimate with her but cannot wait to see him. We had been together for 7 years, 2 days after the break-up, she slept with him. She knows I am a hacker and knows what I am capable of. To your initial question: Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should. Even if this guy did something horrible to you, revenge is a low approach to existence. I generally don't take this tone, but sounds like you are both pretty twisted and deserve each other.
jenifer1972 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 If she can betray you like this and now make you believe that she is your best friend, she's one of the best con artists I have ever heard of.
Author Hacker Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 To your initial question: Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should. You mean like this?: http://seemslegit.com/post/view/663
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