cj2 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 So after my chance meeting with the ex a few days ago http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t261437/ she broked NC last night. It was just a short email that said "I can't listen to your Orbital album without you here x" I emailed her at work today saying "so what was that email at 1am last night all about then" Her reply "I'm really really sorry, but I was just thinking about you after seeing you the other day, it made me feel weird. Please don't read too much into it. I'm going to change my email account so that I can't do it again" To which I said "Don't worry about it, I just took it as a moment of weakness and I didn't read anything into it, at the end of the day I'm sure if you had more to say you'd have made that very clear". She then went on to tell me not to worry because she hadn't deleted any of my old emails, they were all archived. I said I had culled my emails as I didn't want to be keeping anything inappropriate! What I liked about today was it showed that NC really had worked for me. Two months ago (and before I found this site) I was a wreck and made a few of those intial errors of sending emails asking her to reconsider etc. Now the tables appear to have turned. She was on the rebound pretty quickly and clearly didn't give herself time to greive, meaning that she still has some mixed up feelings. I have really worked through the whole situation and I feel back in control. I'm pretty sure one day she will come back to me, but I also know that I will say "no" when that days comes.
Leandro Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Well good job for handling it the way you did, but it probably would have been better if you had not replied at all. Good job though.
broken-and-lost Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 good for you m8 hope i can one day be in the same position right now i'm at the wreck stage but managed my first two weeks of NC. Hope you continue to be strong and heal....
dng Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Well good job for handling it the way you did, but it probably would have been better if you had not replied at all. Good job though. I think they both handled it very well. No mind games, he went to see if there was something there, she told him right away there wasn't and said she was sorry, he said NP no damage done. Handled like adults, good job.
Author cj2 Posted January 21, 2011 Author Posted January 21, 2011 I think they both handled it very well. No mind games, he went to see if there was something there, she told him right away there wasn't and said she was sorry, he said NP no damage done. Handled like adults, good job. I thought so, I just feel a bit rude if I don't even acknowledge her existence in these circumstances. I'm not really one to hold grudges and she knows me well enough to know that, so I may as well be civil. I must admit I wasn't fishing to see if there was anything there though, I think I am past that. If there is, then she wouldn't come straight out and say it, it will become more evident over the next few months as I continue to stay in NC (not that I want her back). It was more intrigue really, to see what set off the email.
Leandro Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I think they both handled it very well. No mind games, he went to see if there was something there, she told him right away there wasn't and said she was sorry, he said NP no damage done. Handled like adults, good job. I do think he handle it very well, not saying he didn't. He would have handle it either way as a adult. Ignore or not ignore.
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