cali84 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I feel like I've been there and done ALL that. I've dumped and been the dumpee. This time, out of the blue, TOTALLY blindsided, my ex completely dumped me, and said, "it's just not gonna work out." I had no clue. I was totally fooled by him, and I was the happiest I had ever been with someone. He seemed to be happy too. Just two days ago, he was declaring his love. I don't want to know what happened really. I don't want to know what he's doing right now. He just tried to Google chat me, and it hurt almost as much as when he dumped me. I'm "invisible" on Facebook, and on the internet as much as I can be. I feel bad for saying this, but I want him to be miserable. I guess I will never know. Why does this one hurt the worst? I know eventually it'll be okay, but right now... I've had my heart broken before, but this time it hurts the worst. I know, I'm in the initial wallowing stage. But it is hard to believe that this is really over and that I will ever find anyone else like him, or better, again. I caved in and Google chatted with him for a few minutes, and now I feel absolutely horrible. How do you believe that there can be other people out there?
AC06 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Did this just happen in the last few days? I'd definitely recommend just giving some space and seeing what happens after a few days.
gromit Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I know it seems completely unlikely that there will be anyone else ever again, but it's the complete opposite, believe me! My breakup was a good 3 months ago, never felt that desperate in my life, thought I'd never get over it and all that, but things do clear up, I promise! Cut him off COMPLETELY, and you'll start feeling better soon. No need to care for someone who hurts you like that completely out of the blue. Take care!
january2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Why does this one hurt the worst? How do you believe that there can be other people out there? Each time we open our hearts and lives to someone else we give them the opportunity to hurt us. Just because you've been through it before, it doesn't mean that it still doesn't hurt just as much when someone betrays your trust, disappoints you or takes away your hopes and dreams of your future together. But because you've been here before, you know what to expect. You know that you can pick yourself up from the heartbreak, you've done it before and you can do it again. Right now though, as you already know, you need to deal with the emotions and take the moments one at a time. You need to grieve for the relationship first before you can even begin to think about the other people being out there.
broken-and-lost Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Really sorry for your loss, it's happened to me a few times too and i did see this last one coming but it hurts way more then any of the others i guess it's just down to the person and how much you committed to them at the time. I hope things improve for you
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