wiredjon Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 So heres my situation, overall i'd been with my ex for 7 years, its always been a bit tricky as she's always had issues with depression, things wern't brilliant for her and i assumed it was down to her situation (she was living in a houseshare) so we ended up moving in together, this only lasted about 9 months and eventually I was getting sick of her depressive attitude and we split up (I ended up moving back with parents!) after a month we got back together but decided to take it slow, we both moved in with some mates for a couple of years. I was happy with the situation but she wasn't. About a year and a bit ago she suddenly turns to me and says shes not sure she wants to be with me and wants to do something with her life. These were dark times and I made some stupid promises that things would change and be better for her, we ended up moving back in with each other last April but I kinda knew that it wasn't going to work, so when it came round to early November I wasn't surprised when she said she still wasn't sure whether she wanted to be with me again. We split up and although I was upset I wasn't nearly as upset as the previous year coz I guess I'd already let go? We haven't seen or spoke to each other in 2 months, although I missed her I found it quite easy to let her go and the process of healing seemed to be happening quite quickly. Anyway I ended up meeting someone 2 months after we split, just started off as drunken banter at the pub, one thing leads to another and we ended up kissing and a few days later end up sleeping together (whilst sober). We've been seeing quite alot of each other for about a month now, its all quite chilled out but we seem to get on really well, have a good laugh and are both enjoying the ride, haven't even felt a pang for my ex in a long time. Ive always been very aware of the whole rebound thing, i've never been a reboundee/rebounder before so dunno what its supposed to feel like, what is it exactly that happens to make the rebound fail? Are there any signs to look out for that it isn't going to work? Is it more likely to succeed because of how distant me and my ex had been for a year? There are loads more little details I could add in here but I've rambled enough! If anyone has any advice let me know! Cheers
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