tigressA Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I have planned a last-minute weekend getaway to a nearby city, just something to get me out of the house. A few hours after I finalized details, an old late-spring fling with whom I'm still friendly-flirty contacted me on Gchat. I haven't seen him since our last date in early June. I mentioned that I was going to be in town for the weekend and he seemed really happy to know it. We have plans to get together on Saturday. We had really liked each other from the beginning but it was like we both knew a relationship wouldn't work between us, so we kept it casual. We still get a little wistful when we talk. The potential for us to fall into bed together this weekend is strong. I'm encouraging it by meeting up with him. Maybe I'm just lamely rationalizing but I've long been aware that there will never be anything more meaningful between us, so I'm thinking there's no harm in another tryst. I promised to take him out for his birthday this year, and he asked me if I'd be there to see him walk at his graduation (he's in school for his PhD); I said yes. For awhile I've been contemplating just keeping him as a friendly fling, someone to get together with on occasion while I'm single--probably no more than a couple times a month. Thoughts?
edgeofdarkness Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 if you both want it, wheres the harm. if you want it and he doesnt, then forget it. If he wants it and you dont then forget it. If you both want it, go for it. lifes too short to shouldha woulda coulda. send us a postcard from Georgia....
JustJoe Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 If you keep it low-key and casual, I don't see why not. If you're planning to play the two-backed game, maybe it's not such a good idea.
Author tigressA Posted January 21, 2011 Author Posted January 21, 2011 I'll see how things go with us on Saturday and we'll talk about it. Despite how much I've liked him, I was never even slightly angst-y about our situation. I suppose it's because I was always aware of the boundaries. I knew what it was, and accepted that it would never be more. I've been missing the way we connected in these months since the last time we saw each other. I know the feeling is mutual. It would be nice to have that again.
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