zengirl Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Interesting topic, being that I'm a thinner man, I've actually emailed a few chubby women, and still get ignored or sorry, I'm not interested. This ONE in particular comes to mind, because she's always signed into a dating site. One of those chronically single women. Pretty face, and eyes....curvy, thick though (buxom up topside), but I know a lot of thin men that probably wouldn't even give her the time of day. And I'm not really all that picky when it comes to looks myself, and I'm 5'8" 165. The reason SHE sticks out in my memory also that she said something like "If you like superficially silly girls, then move on, because I want something geninune" Something like that......that was the sentence that prompted me to email her actually. Because by HER saying that, I figured she wasn't superficial herself. I even pointed OUT that sentence in her profile, I said something like that...."I noticed that you're not like those superficial silly girls, so that's a plus" She responds back with, "At the risk of sounding like those superficial, silly girls....I have to say I don't think we'd make a good match" Which means, she obviously is superficial, she maybe even realized she was a hypocrite. SO she was a chubby/fat woman that was expecting some kind of hunk. Through out her profile she's added complaints about the kinds of men that had been emailing her. But when a thin/average build man like myself contacts her....she shoots me down. I felt like saying, "Hey, you can't really afford to be picky, now if you shed a few pounds you could, but...hmm....most men wouldn't be attracted to you." But I didn't. Aren't you the guy who only wants to get laid but lies about it? There are a gajillion reasons for her to reject you that aren't superficial, and your analysis of the situation -- as though she should've jumped at you because you're skinny and normal looking -- is very superficial.
irc333 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Aren't you the guy who only wants to get laid but lies about it? . Um....no. Never said that at all.
Titania22 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Aren't you the guy who only wants to get laid but lies about it? There are a gajillion reasons for her to reject you that aren't superficial, and your analysis of the situation -- as though she should've jumped at you because you're skinny and normal looking -- is very superficial. I think that was U1987
jelissa Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Interesting topic, being that I'm a thinner man, I've actually emailed a few chubby women, and still get ignored or sorry, I'm not interested. This ONE in particular comes to mind, because she's always signed into a dating site. One of those chronically single women. Pretty face, and eyes....curvy, thick though (buxom up topside), but I know a lot of thin men that probably wouldn't even give her the time of day. And I'm not really all that picky when it comes to looks myself, and I'm 5'8" 165. The reason SHE sticks out in my memory also that she said something like "If you like superficially silly girls, then move on, because I want something geninune" Something like that......that was the sentence that prompted me to email her actually. Because by HER saying that, I figured she wasn't superficial herself. I even pointed OUT that sentence in her profile, I said something like that...."I noticed that you're not like those superficial silly girls, so that's a plus" She responds back with, "At the risk of sounding like those superficial, silly girls....I have to say I don't think we'd make a good match" Which means, she obviously is superficial, she maybe even realized she was a hypocrite. SO she was a chubby/fat woman that was expecting some kind of hunk. Through out her profile she's added complaints about the kinds of men that had been emailing her. But when a thin/average build man like myself contacts her....she shoots me down. I felt like saying, "Hey, you can't really afford to be picky, now if you shed a few pounds you could, but...hmm....most men wouldn't be attracted to you." But I didn't. As someone else brought up, she may have rejected you for another reason. To answer the OP's question, No. I have been attracted to slim and overweight guys. I've been attracted to men that other women have not found all that good-looking. Just like there are some men that find me attractive and others that don't. It's all about each person's preference.
sumdude Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Through out her profile she's added complaints about the kinds of men that had been emailing her. But when a thin/average build man like myself contacts her....she shoots me down. The bolded part was the dead give away. Anyone who posts complaints in their profile especially about people who actually respond is gonna be a PITA.
zengirl Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I think that was U1987 Oh, my bad. I mixed up the names. There still could be a million non-superficial reasons to say "No, thanks" to someone, even a lovely guy though. I saw lots of great guys I'd never be compatible with online.
irc333 Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 Actually that was the reason, she told me that she didn't find me attractive. Thus her comment predicating that by stating, "At the risk of sounding like a shallow, superifical girl that I stated in my profile, I personally don't find you attractive physically" So she did tell me she wasn't attracted to me due to physical reasons. As someone else brought up, she may have rejected you for another reason. To answer the OP's question, No. I have been attracted to slim and overweight guys. I've been attracted to men that other women have not found all that good-looking. Just like there are some men that find me attractive and others that don't. It's all about each person's preference.
Billy_Boy Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 look OP, it seems you're being humored by a bunch of posters, so allow me to tell you what these people won't, for whatever reason... feel like asking her? do it, if you want to; however... fact of that matter is, it's a long shot. and yes it's cause you're fat. fat men aren't attractive. & don't take my word for it; it's on page 2 of the skinny bitch handbook. I mean, at least most fat chicks have big boobs. aha!! a turn on! but what do fat dudes have...??? hmmmm... oh yeah, moobs!! tres sexy, nespa?!? hell no! want a better shot?? lose the weight. that's the best advice anyone can truly give you. I've never been the type for PC, rhetorical bullsh*t; and I loathe those who don't say it like it is. your unhealthy life style is a hinderance; period. do something about it. Nespa? did you mean n'est-ce pas? lol kidding, I felt my Memere inside my head screaming at your bad French X_X
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 but that are just cursed with large bones, and a muscly body type. Reality check: "Large bones" and a muscled body are not "curses." Just saying.
daphne Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 No, but you'd be a bloody hypocrite if you go out of your way to avoid women with 'a bit of a belly' as well. I'm not sure I agree with the politically correct answers on this board. It depends on how big you are. To be honest, most thin women aren't interested in chubby, much less overweight men. Let's put it in terms a guy can understand, are you attracted to overweight women? I didn't think so. I have a friend who is morbidly obese. He's a great guy, and I love him to death. But I get tired of hearing him whine that really pretty women won't give him the time of day. I tried to gently break it to him that you can't expect to receive what you can't give. But he feels entitled to a beautiful girl. He's not getting one.
Mad Max Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I'm not sure I agree with the politically correct answers on this board. It depends on how big you are. To be honest, most thin women aren't interested in chubby, much less overweight men. Let's put it in terms a guy can understand, are you attracted to overweight women? I didn't think so. I have a friend who is morbidly obese. He's a great guy, and I love him to death. But I get tired of hearing him whine that really pretty women won't give him the time of day. I tried to gently break it to him that you can't expect to receive what you can't give. But he feels entitled to a beautiful girl. He's not getting one. Life is a political correctness party. There's always exceptions. Will an overweight, average looking guy get a hot girl? Probably not. Will an attractive guy date an overweight, average looking girl? Answer is the same, probably not.
Feelin Frisky Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 The wording of this thread belies a fault. Using the term "fat men" implies a social construct that doesn't exist--as if "fat men" subscribe to a particular uniting ideology or are somehow limited by the same flaw. It's akin to racism or any other kind of "groupism" where someone attempts to project a limitation on to another demographic. Each human being is obese one at a time with his or her own experience and own unique chemistry. No one chooses obesity. Each human being will however respond as a human being to the actual people they live with and encounter. An obese person will fall for someone else they encounter based upon beauty and personality--they don't check the scale before they feel. Some check the scale after they feel and perhaps tell themselves that they can't land someone so beautiful compared to themselves but not all persons with weight issues think that way. Surely, no one who is obese limits their feelings to only obese others--that is patently ridiculous.
irc333 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 No joke, there's this cute woman, who is dating a guy (actually moved in with him) No joking, he would probably snap her like a twig or suffocate her to death (and this literally) if he rolled over on top of her by accident. She's probably 90lbs, small petite woman, soaking wet. This guys is not chubby, early 20's, chronically OBESE...he's this much closer to being in a hover round (if he continues on that track, as he gets older, he might wind up in a hover round) So there's that exception. Not sure what a tiny petite woman would have an attraction to there, must be 100% personality. Seeing that, I have to say, "Man, that means I still got a chance, LOL"
Leigh 87 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Reality check: "Large bones" and a muscled body are not "curses." Just saying. I am talking about a women. Guys with large bones and a muscular build are hot to me. However, I do not find a womens body, that is large boned and muscular, or is an an average but muscular build, to be physically attractive. My preference, which is different from other peoples I realize, is that smaller boned women, who are more petite, look more feminine and desirable, than a muscular, average sized women. We all have our own pesonal preferences in regards to physical attractivness, and that is just mine. I am a girl, but I do like other womens bodies, and do not find muscular builds to be physically attractive. And the people who have read my previous posts know I have an eating disorder, but when I say I prefer smaller boned women, I do not mean anorexic; I mean just naturally small, btu healthy looking.
Leigh 87 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 No joke, there's this cute woman, who is dating a guy (actually moved in with him) No joking, he would probably snap her like a twig or suffocate her to death (and this literally) if he rolled over on top of her by accident. She's probably 90lbs, small petite woman, soaking wet. This guys is not chubby, early 20's, chronically OBESE...he's this much closer to being in a hover round (if he continues on that track, as he gets older, he might wind up in a hover round) So there's that exception. Not sure what a tiny petite woman would have an attraction to there, must be 100% personality. Seeing that, I have to say, "Man, that means I still got a chance, LOL" Well the girl must not have perfect white teeth, radiant clear skin, and have an abdolutely STUNNING face and body shape, in addition to being intelligent with a great personality. If the girl was all of the above, she would not be with an obese and ill man. Average or moderately attractive women who are thin can be with very obese men, but they would not be super intelligent, super attractive, sucessful women; the top echelon of women, both in looks and in the other aspects of life, do not go for obese men who are unhealthy. Sorry, but there are plenty of normal sized and average looking men that the hottest women would go for, and while many of these stunning and successful women would be friends with an obese man who was obese in the unhealthy way ( not obese due to muscles lol), the stunning women would not bother getting to try to fall in love a very obese man, when there are plenty of averge looking and attractive men who have good enough pesonaties.
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