LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Is it a prerequisite that you be in the same 'looks league' for anything to work? Like, say, I have a bit of a belly. The girl I like is really skinny. Should I not ask her out, because I'm not in the same league that she's in?
Mad Max Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I only weigh 165 pounds. Should I only date skinny women? Look for those you're attracted to and take it from there.
Author LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 21, 2011 Author Posted January 21, 2011 I only weigh 165 pounds. Should I only date skinny women? Look for those you're attracted to and take it from there. Thanks.
Jazzari Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 No, you shouldn't let that hold you back. I think physical looks are more important to men than women. Women tend to view power as the most attractive quality. How they define power is different for each woman. Intelligence Money Work Status Best at (dancing, sports, whatever) Highly regarded within your social circle
pookster72 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 being too fat can definitely make someone less attractive, but so can being too skinny.
Mad Max Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 being too fat can definitely make someone less attractive, but so can being too skinny. Where I am, there's way more people that are too fat than too skinny.
Duckduckgoose Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 People date what they are attracted to. I don't mind a little bit of a belly on a guy as long as he eats right and takes care of himself. If he's a fat slob... or even a skinny slob I will take a pass on that ass. Women are attracted to power? Besides the occasional cop fantasy (lol) not really with me.
Author LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 21, 2011 Author Posted January 21, 2011 So what is the rule of attraction? Basically changed values based upon the individuals?
Mad Max Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 So what is the rule of attraction? Basically changed values based upon the individuals? It's generally from the physical aspect. For guys: -Tall -Broad shoulders -V shape body -Square jaw Symettrical face You don't have to have all of them, but being physically attractive does help.
aerogurl87 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Umm no because just because someone looks a certain way doesn't mean they are attracted to an opposite sex version of themselves. And not all girls like the model type looking guys with a nice set of abs and muscles. My boyfriend is 6'1 and weighs like 155 and I told him I love him just the way he is, tall and skinny.
Mad Max Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Umm no because just because someone looks a certain way doesn't mean they are attracted to an opposite sex version of themselves. And not all girls like the model type looking guys with a nice set of abs and muscles. My boyfriend is 6'1 and weighs like 155 and I told him I love him just the way he is, tall and skinny. Male models have lean muscle. They generally don't weigh more than 170-175. 6'1" is actually the perfect height.
Els Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 No, but you'd be a bloody hypocrite if you go out of your way to avoid women with 'a bit of a belly' as well.
Mad Max Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I would date a fat chick. I would probably get a bunch of people telling me I could do better. But considering I wasn't attractive growing up and recall those days, I'm not going to turn someone down because the're overweight or aren't good looking. Two wrongs don't make a right.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 (edited) look OP, it seems you're being humored by a bunch of posters, so allow me to tell you what these people won't, for whatever reason... feel like asking her? do it, if you want to; however... fact of that matter is, it's a long shot. and yes it's cause you're fat. fat men aren't attractive. & don't take my word for it; it's on page 2 of the skinny bitch handbook. I mean, at least most fat chicks have big boobs. aha!! a turn on! but what do fat dudes have...??? hmmmm... oh yeah, moobs!! tres sexy, nespa?!? hell no! want a better shot?? lose the weight. that's the best advice anyone can truly give you. I've never been the type for PC, rhetorical bullsh*t; and I loathe those who don't say it like it is. your unhealthy life style is a hinderance; period. do something about it. Edited January 21, 2011 by ConflictedGuy27
SlevinKalebra Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Whoah calm down CG27. Look, tons of men and women post here about physical appearances and "am I good enoughs?" There is really no one trait or flaw that makes anyone more or less attractive and it's not one trait or flaw that makes a person who they are. For me a beautiful smile (cheesy as it sounds, that is one of my biggest turn ons) has counteracted a noticible belly pooch. Stop focusing on details and look at the big picture. If the big picture is I'm overweight, don't take care of myself, have the personality of driftwood, going nowhere in life..... then yes she is out of your league. If you have absolutely nothing to offer the opposite sex why would she buy what you are selling? Everyone has their good and bad qualities. Focus on your good qualities, and stop focusing on what needs improvement. People that are focused on that stuff come across as timid or insecure, a sure fire attraction killer. Be confident in what you do have to offer and if you are attracted to someone put yourself out there. If she's not interested it could be for any number of reasons maybe it has to do with you maybe not.
Titania22 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Fat people should date people who are attacted to fat people. Obviously!
Titania22 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 People are hungry hypocrites. Quoting Bo Burnham FTW:D
florence of suburbia Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 People are hungry hypocrites. Isn't that the board game where you try to eat the most marbles? http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/e/ed/Hungy_Hippos%21.jpg
Leigh 87 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Fat normally means unhealthily large; because you can get larger people who are healthy, but that are just cursed with large bones, and a muscly body type. People who are have a large body type can be large in size, but still be slim and fit FOR their bodies. Attractivness also has many other factors besides weight; a large sized person who is slim and fit for their body type, but has a great smile, perfect white teeth, and a very pretty face and pleasant personality, will attract decent guys. On the other hand, an unhealthy individual who is the " unhealthy" type of fat, will not land an attractive guy no matter how beautiful her face is, or how great her personality is; being unhealtholy fat is a fetish to some people, but generally, very attractive men would find it easier to find a healtly women with a great personality, than to bother with a fat women with a great personality. Lose weight if you have a problem, if you are unhealthy and do not have a very attractuve face, you are going to have a much harder time finding attractive women. Personality is important, and if you are actively in the proces of trying to eat healthier and lose weight, you may very well look healthy enough during the process. While a fat and unhealthy person ttries to change into a fit and healthy person, they will still look more attractive when they start eating healthier and execising, before they lose the weight. So yes, " fat" people who have started to eat healthily and exercise, may very well attract attractive members of the opposite sex, WHILE they are still a " fat" size, but are eating very healthily, and exercising daily.
Eeyore79 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I weigh 130 pounds and my boyfriend weighs 210 (he previously weighed 250). He's attractive at his current weight, he was attractive when he was heavier, and will still be attractive if he gets lighter. I draw the line at obesity which seriously affects mobility and health, but for me weight isn't a serious factor in attraction. I would actually prefer too fat instead of too skinny; skinny men don't really do it for me. I like a man with some meat on his bones, and a bit of a belly doesn't bother me. I'm far more concerned about decent teeth, nice personality, good education and career, etc. Luckily different people like different things, otherwise there'd be too much competition for certain types of guys! Some women like slimmer guys, some women don't care whether a man has been to college or not, some women don't mind if a guy has kids... there's someone for everyone
zengirl Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Your "league" is just the people you like, who like you. Nothing else. Ask out people you like, and if they say yes, voila, they're in your league. Even if she's 500lbs, if she says no, she's out of your league. Fat and skinny has nothing to do with it.
Billy_Boy Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 (edited) Is it a prerequisite that you be in the same 'looks league' for anything to work? Like, say, I have a bit of a belly. The girl I like is really skinny. Should I not ask her out, because I'm not in the same league that she's in? The worst she can do is reject you, and you dont know if she will or wont, so give it a shot. As for the gut, well there is no excuse friend. Get rid of it, do it for you. You dont even need a gym membership, but it would help. Edited January 21, 2011 by Billy_Boy
irc333 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Interesting topic, being that I'm a thinner man, I've actually emailed a few chubby women, and still get ignored or sorry, I'm not interested. This ONE in particular comes to mind, because she's always signed into a dating site. One of those chronically single women. Pretty face, and eyes....curvy, thick though (buxom up topside), but I know a lot of thin men that probably wouldn't even give her the time of day. And I'm not really all that picky when it comes to looks myself, and I'm 5'8" 165. The reason SHE sticks out in my memory also that she said something like "If you like superficially silly girls, then move on, because I want something geninune" Something like that......that was the sentence that prompted me to email her actually. Because by HER saying that, I figured she wasn't superficial herself. I even pointed OUT that sentence in her profile, I said something like that...."I noticed that you're not like those superficial silly girls, so that's a plus" She responds back with, "At the risk of sounding like those superficial, silly girls....I have to say I don't think we'd make a good match" Which means, she obviously is superficial, she maybe even realized she was a hypocrite. SO she was a chubby/fat woman that was expecting some kind of hunk. Through out her profile she's added complaints about the kinds of men that had been emailing her. But when a thin/average build man like myself contacts her....she shoots me down. I felt like saying, "Hey, you can't really afford to be picky, now if you shed a few pounds you could, but...hmm....most men wouldn't be attracted to you." But I didn't. Is it a prerequisite that you be in the same 'looks league' for anything to work? Like, say, I have a bit of a belly. The girl I like is really skinny. Should I not ask her out, because I'm not in the same league that she's in?
Billy_Boy Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Interesting topic, being that I'm a thinner man, I've actually emailed a few chubby women, and still get ignored or sorry, I'm not interested. This ONE in particular comes to mind, because she's always signed into a dating site. One of those chronically single women. Pretty face, and eyes....curvy, thick though (buxom up topside), but I know a lot of thin men that probably wouldn't even give her the time of day. And I'm not really all that picky when it comes to looks myself, and I'm 5'8" 165. The reason SHE sticks out in my memory also that she said something like "If you like superficially silly girls, then move on, because I want something geninune" Something like that......that was the sentence that prompted me to email her actually. Because by HER saying that, I figured she wasn't superficial herself. I even pointed OUT that sentence in her profile, I said something like that...."I noticed that you're not like those superficial silly girls, so that's a plus" She responds back with, "At the risk of sounding like those superficial, silly girls....I have to say I don't think we'd make a good match" Which means, she obviously is superficial, she maybe even realized she was a hypocrite. SO she was a chubby/fat woman that was expecting some kind of hunk. Through out her profile she's added complaints about the kinds of men that had been emailing her. But when a thin/average build man like myself contacts her....she shoots me down. I felt like saying, "Hey, you can't really afford to be picky, now if you shed a few pounds you could, but...hmm....most men wouldn't be attracted to you." But I didn't. How do you know her reason for rejecting you was superficial?
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