redhawk979 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Hoping to get some opinions on this because I can't figure it out for the life of me. I'm terrible at reading people I work with this girl who I've been pretty into since I started. Before you get into the whole "bad idea dating at work" thing, she works in another department across the building...I never see her unless I go over there or we bump into each other. We seem to hit it off, and we talk a lot about anything and everything. So one day I invited her to lunch. She mentioned that she had brought food, but would come join me anyway. She met up with me later when I went to lunch, but said it was too early for her to eat, so she just hung out and we joked around the whole time. Occasionally on some days she'll mention lunch is coming soon and asks me what I'm doing, but doesn't ask me if I want to do lunch with her (Is she waiting for me to ask again?) I had also caught her friend teasing her that I liked her to which she responded with an embarrassed "Shut up!". Now the reason I'm not entirely sure? She's never excited to see me, at least outwardly, but She laughs at my dumb jokes and asks me questions all the time... I mentioned I was bad at reading people right? Looks obvious on paper, feels different in my head. Need a second opinion.
Grobyc Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 She is most defiantly hinting at having lunch with you. Must have had a good time the first time ;P. Her friends see it, and I see it pretty plainly. You've got nothing to lose. Go for it, sounds like she's into you.
spiderowl Posted January 22, 2011 Posted January 22, 2011 I think you're getting some pretty good indicators that she likes you. She mentioned lunch and asked what you were doing. If that isn't a big hint to you to suggest lunch together, I don't know what is! She asks you questions so she's showing interest in you. If she didn't like you/wasn't interested, she'd avoid talking to you, wouldn't ask you anything and would be very cagey about saying anything that you might construe as a hint to spend time with her. Friends sometimes do know the truth too and will embarrass their mates like hers did. Obviously, I can't say for sure but I'd guess that she's being careful about showing her feelings until she knows you really like her. If you ask her to join you for lunch and she agrees and you have a good time, then it would be good to take this further and ask her out in the evening. That takes the relationship beyond work and, if she accepts, is a clear indicator that she's interested.
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