40 Fonzarelli Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 I think it has too much potential for drama. What has your experience been? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky555 Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 Yes. If you want to be apart of his life you should know what goes on in fb or myspace. These are virtual social networking/dating sites! I don't take fb too seriously but I know what's going on. Even if I trust my guy. While dating a guy I did doge a bullet..I realized he failed to mention he was just out of a relationship.so I dogged a bullet. Now with my man I know all day long he uses fb and even has it on his phone. I also can keep in touch with him at anytime! I can message him on aim,myspace,fb, cell phone, email! See all the forms of communication I can have?? I sometimes talk to him on fb while he is at work!! Lots of times he is at his computer so this way he can easily talk to me without anyone knowing I'm calling or texting! Plus It easier to send message on fb for me than a text..I also like to post on his wall things I find to show I'm thinking about him from time to time..it also sends the message boy you better be real. Lol Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 We don't really use fb. But if my partner wouldn't let me access his fb page, I'd find it seriously disturbing. It's like - we can have sex together, sign a rental contract together, go to weddings as a couple, but you can't see what I post on facebook? :confused: Doesn't work for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Gettingtired Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 But if my partner wouldn't let me access his fb page, I'd find it seriously disturbing. It's like - we can have sex together, sign a rental contract together, go to weddings as a couple, but you can't see what I post on facebook? And that'll be where the problems start, if you let them OP. Dont worry about FB, it's not worth the bandwidth it takes up loading the home page. . . . . . Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 And that'll be where the problems start What problems? Link to post Share on other sites
tb24 Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 I don't see the problem? Is s/he worried about his/her friends seeing that s/he's with you? Well that's a whole other issue! It's a good way to keep in contact and share photos of nights out/etc. Honestly, unless you have something to hide I don't see what the issue is. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 It seems like a needless block to keep them out of your FB, and that'd be unnatural. I don't necessarily think in the "dating" stages I want to friend guys, but once he's my BF, I expect to be on his feed. Why on earth would he want to hide it from me? I think the FB official relationship status thing has been overblown, but again, if someone is resistant to changing their status to "In a Relationship", that'd be odd. I'm not a fan of the IRL "with hyperlinking-to-partner" personally, but I'd certainly do it if my BF wanted it. Link to post Share on other sites
Gettingtired Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 What problems? Not yours personally Denise. I meant in general. Using what you said things could escalate rapidly from "Why wont you let me see your FB wall?", "What are you hiding?" etc etc. I wish I could hack and I'd take FB down. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 (edited) Not yours personally Denise. I meant in general. Using what you said things could escalate rapidly from "Why wont you let me see your FB wall?", "What are you hiding?" etc etc. I wish I could hack and I'd take FB down. Well, you can always decide not to have a FB. No hacking required. But why so secretive? FB is for communicating and connecting with people. Why would anyone want to intentionally keep their SO out of it? Edited January 21, 2011 by zengirl Link to post Share on other sites
East7 Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 I think being open to everything with your SO is important, it is about TRUST. I'd be ok to befriend someone as soon as I start dating her. Being totally transparent on FB is part of a normal relationship, personally it doesn't bother me for a second. I have nothing to hide and I think it is healthy. I admit though since FB exists, it is becoming very tricky, there are a lot of "discoveries", cheating and other information that otherwise you'd never know. Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 Not yours personally Denise. I meant in general. Using what you said things could escalate rapidly from "Why wont you let me see your FB wall?", "What are you hiding?" etc etc. I wish I could hack and I'd take FB down. Don't worry, I didn't take it personal. I just find the idea quite strange that it's OK to have three hundred or whatever "friends" ranging from colleagues, distant acquaintances, family members, people from high school that I haven't seen in twenty years etc all view my FB wall, and NOT my SO I don't have any particular desire to see my SO's FB wall, in practice I never look at it. But it would never occur to me to tell him that he couldn't look at mine. The thought just seems bizarre to me. It's not that one has to disclose absolutely every inch of one's private life to an SO. I would never expect access to an SO's email account or text messages. But FB is a very public arena if you have a significant number of friends who are allowed to see and post on your wall. I'm assuming we're talking about SO as in a serious, long term relationship here, not someone one has just started to date. Link to post Share on other sites
Banker Chick Posted January 22, 2011 Share Posted January 22, 2011 I have been dating my bf for about a year and 1/2 and we are not friends on FB. We were at the beginning and it caused issues. Stupid stuff like misreading posts to others, too many posts to each other when it was still really early in the relationship, comments from other guy friends on my pictures, etc. We decided it was more drama than it was worth so we defriended each other. I know it sounds stupid but we trust each other but don't trust ourselves ... It just works better for us to not be friends. We don't run in the same social circle so I really don't interract with his friends and vice versa and we don't live in the same town so it just easier to let him have his circle and me have mine. We neither one see a problem with this. We are talking marriage and have agreed when we marry (or even get engaged) we will most likely change it to a dual FB account at that point. Link to post Share on other sites
WifeCheatedOnMe Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 FB (foosball) is the devil!! (Water Boy) Seriously, if/when I get to the point of dating again after experiencing infidelity where fb was another tool to perpetuate her affair, I would be very hesitant of dating anyone that regularly uses social networking. Might eliminate 90% of the prospects, but social networking is just too easy to use as a cheating tool. And forget opening up your fb to your SO. Ever hear of TWO fb accounts....The one where you post trivial sh$$ to appease your SO and the other one where you carry on like a whore. No thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Cee Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 I would have no problem with having my SO on my Facebook, although I doubt I would ever communicate with him using it. I mean, I can just roll over in bed and talk to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Vixen Gemma Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 I've had men I dated as friends on facebook but I don't go psycho on their pages. I think couples overdo it to a point where they develop more arguments than ties. It gets in the way and I think some couples can do without facebook, some people just can't handle themselves properly on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 40 Fonzarelli Posted January 25, 2011 Author Share Posted January 25, 2011 I just think it would be hard for me. Sometimes I get insecure. Id probably end up monitoring her all the time Link to post Share on other sites
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