shawna92 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 (edited) I guess just confused about the attitudeof people/guys these days. Yes I meet a lot of guys online, but even if not online, men ive met are very rude and act immature shallow and selfish. They demand pictures, they act very arrogant and weird- towards normal nice women, yet if there is a girl trying to scam them they will almost fall for the scam and send her money. I don't get this? What is wrong with guys/people these days... I'm a really nice girl/person and am pleasant, friendly. Most guys i meet aer just looking to use me for sex and leave. I find this odd as im very attractive and sweet and would think--wouldn't most guys want a girlfriend like me? Yet in 32 years of my life...no guy almost has ever asked me out....ive never had a boyfriend...and i can't meet a guy for the life of me who is remotely decent. Most guys, just look at me, insult me mock me treat me like sh*t, use me...they act entitled- they in fact act the way a lot of snotty mean girls act....they make fun of me. I had a fat guy once laughing at me saying "haha i bet u can't get laid." Wtf?? im a beautiful girl and look like a model...why are men making fun of me? this is weird....my ex boyfriend...tormented me for 3 yrs--he wasnt a real boyfriend just a sick person trying to use me to control and absue mostly long distance....he refuse sex with me ever..."never" had sex with me and made funof me....he wanted to sexually frustrate me so i'd go to other guys...but i cudnt b/c im a virgin....he just mocked/abused/terrorized me and it was insane and strange. Yet, his behavior isnt limited only to him....ive had a lot of guys insult make fun of me and treat me like a loser or weirdo.....but im a beautiful girl....this makes no sense...? how can ugly men be making fun of beautiful women in this weird society....you wonder how but this is the reality of what happens....its full of weird males and people who mock women or others....i cant see my reality changing at any time.....im in my 30's and cant meet a guy but ive been told by people im the 'most beautiful woman they've ever seen." Gee wtf??? so if im that beautiful and i cant meet anyone...it must mean that where can u go from there??? you're screwed basically....adn if men hate you b/c youre pretty what are u supposed to do....tis like a bad joke or something....i sit around sexually frustrated and pissed and confused....while my ex even makes fun of me and says "well i TRIED f*king you but i couldn't" which was a lie...he would say "who wants to *** THAT"??? ewwww gross!! he'd just humiliate and degrade me yet he would say im so hot and take picturse of me and jerk off to my pictures....this is a crazy and insane and bizarre reality/experience i know i have to go through---and worse....every guy treats me like dirt...so i cant meet a guy anyway and im screwed.. then i hear of other or most women...most women have guys begging them for sex etc...lord wtf? i had a guy who I rejected me sexually, sexually tormented me...and I think he was having sex with everyone except me and to this day though we still talk from time to time, he still hadnt had sex wtih me and just told me to 'get with other guys' and got off on that...for him it was power to reject a beautiful woman and make her like his puppet and very cruel but worse for me that i had to be that unfortunate person ..and my reality is so bad that i cant even meet a guy, have a boyfriend and lose my virginity so i can get over the trauma that sicko did to me...im like stuck/trapped...and men just treat me like sh*t b/c i guess they are so 'intimidated' by pretty women and insecure they have to abuse the hell out of them...men never ask me out just laugh in my face...run away from me, insult me humiliate me..but i see them kissing up to other women just not me...this also isnt an exaggeration.. ive even had sexual encounters with guys...who rejected me...one guy said "you have power over men" then he rejected me and tried running off...all i get are guys rejecting me and running away yet no offense btu im a semi model, and very attractive woman and i look like a poster for a hot fantasy type girl...who men would dream of getting with-- yet all men do are reject me and run away and yell at me and treat me like sh*t or like a geeky younger sister...huh??.if youre so pretty but have been single all your life...something horrible must be happening somewhere...all i get are men trying to dominate me...dominate and dominate..beat me screw me over, ive had people get hostile and just insult me to no end for no reason..not other pretty girls, just me...other pretty girls get pampered and have 10 guys chasing them or willing to do anything...i had a sadist just torture me long distance and mentally terrorize me for literally his sadistic fun....i doubt other women have similar experiences i really doubt it but regardless....i feel like my reality is a bad horror story....and all i keep meeting are arrogant mean rude crazy guys who make fun of me and put me down.... Edited January 21, 2011 by shawna92
Seamless74 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 What do you have against paragraphs?? did they make fun of you when you were a child? did they always come off as arrogant or rude? I say let bygones be bygones and start to use them again for all your male bashing threads.. that way we can at least get to the end of your threads before we start shaking our heads in disgust//
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I honestly can't read this. Shawna, please edit and correct this mess. Otherwise, I will not respond.
Miko Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Well...this is what the LShack is for I guess. I'm really interested in finding out what's going on here. You say you're a hottie and I'm inclined to believe you...because I take people for their word. As a fairly serious guy i'm going to give you the best general "guestimate" I can give you. I'm guessing that something...probably something narrow but yet important about your personality...and I'll quote myself, something that "just doesn't add up". Guys...like girls are used to highly attractive members of the opposite sex acting/behaving in a certain way. I'm guessing something about you, like I said a small(yet obvious) facet of your personality/approach/body language/style...or SOMETHING is just so unexpected that they just don't even believe you're for real. I'm a fairly average...maybe slightly better looking than average guy who was very shy in his younger days. When you have an undesirable(to you) characteristic that you "fix" we tend to over-compensate. I've been told by one or two close and trusted female friends that I come across as somewhat arrogant or "too good" sometimes. Like I said, over-compensating. At risk of sounding like a nutbag, I would almost be interested in talking to you to figure out WTF is going on...since we all need help here LOL! Otherwise WTF would we be doing here. I'm trying to think of what would it take for me to ridicule and avoid a gorgeous girl. The only thing I can make up is that maybe if she were so frigging arrogant and/or insecure. But I would never do that to someone who really seemed insecure. Maybe if she seemed sooooo arrogant that it masked the insecurity and she just seemed plain cocky. Maybe if she dressed like a stripper or something. I guess what I'm saying is that unless you make them really uncomfortable somehow, few guys will really be vicious with you. It really takes some provocation so you've GOT to be doing something wrong and I'm guessing it's like 1 or 2 really specific things that overshadow the rest of your personality. While some/many guys are socially inept or blind, any smart guy CAN usually see right through you and if you're compensating for something...we'll see it. One last thing. Maybe you're not as attractive as you think you are in the way that you think you are. Maybe you're cute and you think you're hot, maybe you're hot and you act cute. That could be confusing to many guys. Also, maybe you just intimidate the hell out of guys with your appearance and that combined with a confident or "over-confident" personality is just "too much". Lastly, you said that some guy told you that you "have power over men". That's curious. Maybe you come across as an overly-sexual person. Even promiscuous guys aren't necessarily looking for that. They more so want to ruin a nice girl than the opposite. I don't know I'm just throwing stuff out there for you to think about. You've got my imagination going I guess.
Emilia Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I'm guessing you are either not as attractive as you think you are but sort of act as if you were (hence the mocking) or you don't have great social skills. It is odd to be in some kind of LDR with someone who isn't really a boyfriend. I'm guessing most of your interraction with men is online and yes I get some crazy and occasionally mean stuff from them too on dating sites but that's because - as carhill put it once very well - they can forget that there is a human being on the receiving end of their messages when they are offloading their fantasies. I shrug that off usually because until I meet someone I don't see him as 'real'. My recommendation is for you to get out more and meet men in real life. Most people don't tend to mock fellow human beings. You either hang out in a bad crowd or as I said you don't talk to 'real' people much.
zengirl Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Do you write paragraphs in your online profile, or write like this? I imagine that many of the better, less arrogant, guys cannot read said profile and thus you get the ones who ONLY think you're hot. Maybe? I don't know---I grade middle school reading/writing daily, and I could only skim your block of text here. I'm not saying men care tons about grammar all the time, but if you're meeting them online. . . and you write like this. . . it seems like a lot of the quality men would get migraines before they could read your profile.
Nexus One Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 (edited) It could be an unfortunate stroke of bad luck on your side. However, there are decent guys out there, so I'm really not sure if you've looked around really well and in the right places. Tip: In addition to looks scan for intelligence, knowledge and common sense. It's not full proof, but it's a decent indicator. And don't go by people's online profiles. The question is if you are attracted to intelligence. Some women like intelligent men as merely "nice guys", but do not fall in love with them. Instead they fall in love with dominant bastards. Society needs to find out that intelligence is sexy, because it is. And it works for (many) men too. And oh yeah, format your text using paragraphs. Text without paragraphs is simply torture. Edited January 21, 2011 by Nexus One
oaks Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I guess just confused about the attitudeof people/guys these days. Yes I meet a lot of guys online, but even if not online, men ive met are very rude and act immature shallow and selfish. They demand pictures, they act very arrogant and weird- towards normal nice women, yet if there is a girl trying to scam them they will almost fall for the scam and send her money. I don't get this? What is wrong with guys/people these days... They demand pictures? What sort of pictures do you have on public display on your online profiles? Assuming there's a clear photo showing your face, and a clear full-length photo, then just ignore them if they're demanding more photos. I'm a really nice girl/person and am pleasant, friendly. Most guys i meet aer just looking to use me for sex and leave. Do you talk to them much on the phone before you meet them? Do you ask them what they are looking for from the dating site or what sort of relationship they are looking for? If you're looking for a long term relationship, rather than just sex, then ask them if that's what they want. That'll filter out a few (but some will just say what they think you want to hear). Tell them you want to take things slowly and get to know the person before anything intimate happens. That'll filter out the impatient ones. I find this odd as im very attractive and sweet and would think--wouldn't most guys want a girlfriend like me? Yes, I'd love to have a very attractive, sweet, pleasant, friendly girlfriend. What are your interests and hobbies? Yet in 32 years of my life...no guy almost has ever asked me out....ive never had a boyfriend...and i can't meet a guy for the life of me who is remotely decent. Most guys, just look at me, insult me mock me treat me like sh*t, use me...they act entitled- they in fact act the way a lot of snotty mean girls act....they make fun of me. I had a fat guy once laughing at me saying "haha i bet u can't get laid." Wtf?? im a beautiful girl and look like a model...why are men making fun of me? Ok, you're talking about a pattern rather than just one guy, so you're either doing something wrong or there's something wrong with you other than your beauty, or you're wrong about how beautiful you are. It could just be that you're somehow attracting the wrong guys with your online profile due to the way you wrote it. this is weird....my ex boyfriend...tormented me for 3 yrs--he wasnt a real boyfriend just a sick person trying to use me to control and absue mostly long distance....he refuse sex with me ever..."never" had sex with me and made funof me....he wanted to sexually frustrate me so i'd go to other guys...but i cudnt b/c im a virgin....he just mocked/abused/terrorized me and it was insane and strange. At the risk of making you re-tell a bad experience, how did he make fun of you? Why did you put up with it for 3 years? I think there's a wide gap between being mocked and being abused and terrorized... I can't tell if you're exaggerating about the terror bit, especially since it was mostly long distance. But, he's one guy, he's gone (I hope). Put him behind you. Yet, his behavior isnt limited only to him....ive had a lot of guys insult make fun of me and treat me like a loser or weirdo.....but im a beautiful girl....this makes no sense...? how can ugly men be making fun of beautiful women in this weird society.... Ok, so if this is happening a lot then perhaps there's something about your personality that's attracting this. Ugly men can make fun of whoever they like, but it seems unlikely that they'll pick on you just for your beauty. What else are you saying to these ugly men, or are you saying that strangers come up to you and mock you? (Are they all ugly? Not everyone can be beautiful like you.) you wonder how but this is the reality of what happens....its full of weird males and people who mock women or others....i cant see my reality changing at any time.....im in my 30's and cant meet a guy but ive been told by people im the 'most beautiful woman they've ever seen." Gee wtf??? so if im that beautiful and i cant meet anyone...it must mean that where can u go from there??? you're screwed basically....adn if men hate you b/c youre pretty what are u supposed to do....tis like a bad joke or something....i sit around sexually frustrated and pissed and confused.... You can't meet guys? So who are these ugly men who make fun of you? Of course you can meet guys - What are you trying to do to make this happen? I think your attitude could be more positive... I don't want to meet a pissed and confused woman, and perhaps that comes across with the guys you meet. while my ex even makes fun of me and says "well i TRIED f*king you but i couldn't" which was a lie...he would say "who wants to *** THAT"??? ewwww gross!! he'd just humiliate and degrade me yet he would say im so hot and take picturse of me and jerk off to my pictures....this is a crazy and insane and bizarre reality/experience i know i have to go through--- Why are you still in touch with him? Stop taking his calls. and worse....every guy treats me like dirt...so i cant meet a guy anyway and im screwed.. My BS meter is in the red zone now. Which is it? You're either meeting guys or you aren't, and if you aren't then who are these mystery people who are treating you like dirt. So, you are meeting guys... just the wrong ones. Where you you meet them? Why do you decide to hang out with them (or date them or whatever)? Perhaps you should look for guys somewhere else, or change how you choose them. then i hear of other or most women...most women have guys begging them for sex etc...lord wtf? i had a guy who I rejected me sexually, sexually tormented me...and I think he was having sex with everyone except me and to this day though we still talk from time to time, he still hadnt had sex wtih me and just told me to 'get with other guys' and got off on that...for him it was power to reject a beautiful woman and make her like his puppet and very cruel but worse for me that i had to be that unfortunate person Is this your 3-year ex-bf again? Or someone else? Either way, cut contact him. ..and my reality is so bad that i cant even meet a guy, have a boyfriend and lose my virginity so i can get over the trauma that sicko did to me... So that's the goal? BF plus losing your virginity? Ok, you need a plan... how are you going to find a nice guy for a relationship? You need to change something. im like stuck/trapped...and men just treat me like sh*t b/c i guess they are so 'intimidated' by pretty women and insecure they have to abuse the hell out of them...men never ask me out just laugh in my face...run away from me, insult me humiliate me..but i see them kissing up to other women just not me...this also isnt an exaggeration.. ive even had sexual encounters with guys...who rejected me...one guy said "you have power over men" then he rejected me and tried running off...all i get are guys rejecting me and running away Right. So you're meeting lots of guys, really, aren't you? You just aren't finding any boyfriend-material. I'm sure some men can be frightened or intimidated by very beautiful women. We're not all like that, so you need to change the way you're searching for guys. Where do you meet all these guys? yet no offense btu im a semi model, and very attractive woman and i look like a poster for a hot fantasy type girl...who men would dream of getting with Sounds great! Feel free to add a photo to your profile here. -- yet all men do are reject me and run away and yell at me and treat me like sh*t or like a geeky younger sister...huh??.if youre so pretty but have been single all your life...something horrible must be happening somewhere...all i get are men trying to dominate me...dominate and dominate..beat me screw me over, Did you call the police on the ones that beat you? That doesn't sound good. ive had people get hostile and just insult me to no end for no reason..not other pretty girls, just me...other pretty girls get pampered and have 10 guys chasing them or willing to do anything...i had a sadist just torture me long distance and mentally terrorize me for literally his sadistic fun....i doubt other women have similar experiences i really doubt it but regardless....i feel like my reality is a bad horror story....and all i keep meeting are arrogant mean rude crazy guys who make fun of me and put me down.... Are you in therapy for this? I don't think that being jealous of the other pretty girls is healthy. So far, all I know about you is that you think you're very beautiful and that you have bad luck finding a guy for a relationship. If your only asset is your beauty then you're going to find that the guys you attract are only interested in that because it's all you have to offer... so they're looking for sex. What do you do with your life? What makes you interesting? Why would I (a random guy in my 30s and not too ugly) want to have a relationship with you rather than just sex? What makes you attractive as a person beyond your face/body? If you really want a bf who wants more than sex then you'll need to show him these things... and perhaps they are there but they aren't coming through in your posts.
GivenUp0083 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I guess just confused about the attitudeof people/guys these days. Yes I meet a lot of guys online, but even if not online, men ive met are very rude and act immature shallow and selfish. They demand pictures, they act very arrogant and weird- towards normal nice women, yet if there is a girl trying to scam them they will almost fall for the scam and send her money. I don't get this? What is wrong with guys/people these days... I'm a really nice girl/person and am pleasant, friendly. Most guys i meet aer just looking to use me for sex and leave. I find this odd as im very attractive and sweet and would think--wouldn't most guys want a girlfriend like me? Yet in 32 years of my life...no guy almost has ever asked me out....ive never had a boyfriend...and i can't meet a guy for the life of me who is remotely decent. Most guys, just look at me, insult me mock me treat me like sh*t, use me...they act entitled- they in fact act the way a lot of snotty mean girls act....they make fun of me. I had a fat guy once laughing at me saying "haha i bet u can't get laid." Wtf?? im a beautiful girl and look like a model...why are men making fun of me? this is weird....my ex boyfriend...tormented me for 3 yrs--he wasnt a real boyfriend just a sick person trying to use me to control and absue mostly long distance....he refuse sex with me ever..."never" had sex with me and made funof me....he wanted to sexually frustrate me so i'd go to other guys...but i cudnt b/c im a virgin....he just mocked/abused/terrorized me and it was insane and strange. Yet, his behavior isnt limited only to him....ive had a lot of guys insult make fun of me and treat me like a loser or weirdo.....but im a beautiful girl....this makes no sense...? how can ugly men be making fun of beautiful women in this weird society....you wonder how but this is the reality of what happens....its full of weird males and people who mock women or others....i cant see my reality changing at any time.....im in my 30's and cant meet a guy but ive been told by people im the 'most beautiful woman they've ever seen." Gee wtf??? so if im that beautiful and i cant meet anyone...it must mean that where can u go from there??? you're screwed basically....adn if men hate you b/c youre pretty what are u supposed to do....tis like a bad joke or something....i sit around sexually frustrated and pissed and confused....while my ex even makes fun of me and says "well i TRIED f*king you but i couldn't" which was a lie...he would say "who wants to *** THAT"??? ewwww gross!! he'd just humiliate and degrade me yet he would say im so hot and take picturse of me and jerk off to my pictures....this is a crazy and insane and bizarre reality/experience i know i have to go through---and worse....every guy treats me like dirt...so i cant meet a guy anyway and im screwed.. then i hear of other or most women...most women have guys begging them for sex etc...lord wtf? i had a guy who I rejected me sexually, sexually tormented me...and I think he was having sex with everyone except me and to this day though we still talk from time to time, he still hadnt had sex wtih me and just told me to 'get with other guys' and got off on that...for him it was power to reject a beautiful woman and make her like his puppet and very cruel but worse for me that i had to be that unfortunate person ..and my reality is so bad that i cant even meet a guy, have a boyfriend and lose my virginity so i can get over the trauma that sicko did to me...im like stuck/trapped...and men just treat me like sh*t b/c i guess they are so 'intimidated' by pretty women and insecure they have to abuse the hell out of them...men never ask me out just laugh in my face...run away from me, insult me humiliate me..but i see them kissing up to other women just not me...this also isnt an exaggeration.. ive even had sexual encounters with guys...who rejected me...one guy said "you have power over men" then he rejected me and tried running off...all i get are guys rejecting me and running away yet no offense btu im a semi model, and very attractive woman and i look like a poster for a hot fantasy type girl...who men would dream of getting with-- yet all men do are reject me and run away and yell at me and treat me like sh*t or like a geeky younger sister...huh??.if youre so pretty but have been single all your life...something horrible must be happening somewhere...all i get are men trying to dominate me...dominate and dominate..beat me screw me over, ive had people get hostile and just insult me to no end for no reason..not other pretty girls, just me...other pretty girls get pampered and have 10 guys chasing them or willing to do anything...i had a sadist just torture me long distance and mentally terrorize me for literally his sadistic fun....i doubt other women have similar experiences i really doubt it but regardless....i feel like my reality is a bad horror story....and all i keep meeting are arrogant mean rude crazy guys who make fun of me and put me down.... I was gonna read this...but then I remembered I value my sanity.
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