Miss_G Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 This is a long and complicated story. Me and ex broke up and it's gotten very messy. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t261509/ You can read more about it here. So, anyway, things haven't really changed. I spoke to my ex a couple of days ago and he said, as I've said before, he would "never say ever". Is this just a way of keeping me sweet to see our child? I am not speaking to his parents for the time being. I would like them to understand the upset they have caused and their responsibility and part played in the break down of my relationship. I'm struggling to think of a life without him. He would like to remain friends for the sake of our child and says he still loves me. Is this a good idea? Will it ever spark something back? Does 'never say never' mean that he has some feelings of wanting to get back together? I am trying to move on and behaving so. I am looking for another home for me and my son but to think of a life FOREVER without him is killing me. Can 'being friends' ever work????
ccfan Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 This is a long and complicated story. Me and ex broke up and it's gotten very messy. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t261509/ You can read more about it here. So, anyway, things haven't really changed. I spoke to my ex a couple of days ago and he said, as I've said before, he would "never say ever". Is this just a way of keeping me sweet to see our child? I am not speaking to his parents for the time being. I would like them to understand the upset they have caused and their responsibility and part played in the break down of my relationship. I'm struggling to think of a life without him. He would like to remain friends for the sake of our child and says he still loves me. Is this a good idea? Will it ever spark something back? Does 'never say never' mean that he has some feelings of wanting to get back together? I am trying to move on and behaving so. I am looking for another home for me and my son but to think of a life FOREVER without him is killing me. Can 'being friends' ever work???? MISS So sorry to hear about your pain... fast forward 4 months from today and you will be me: my ex gf used the "never say never" line on me , as well as "lets be the best friends ever" .... well... i didn´t buy (and neither should you) the friends thing... please DO NOT BE FRIENDS WITH HIM it will only prolong you paing as will lower his interest on you... let me say this again , DO NOT BE FRIENDS. As for the "never say never" thing, it´s a mental trick,,, I stayed in NC for 3 months but that phrase was always in the back of my mind as a little sign of hope... well last saturday i gave in and texted her... she texted me back and said... lets see what happens , lets go with the flow... so in short i´m stuck in a horrible limbo.. waiting for the "miracle" of her changing her mind... .... please do not be me in a a couple months go to NC right away.....
Kansas Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 MISS my ex gf used the "never say never" line on me .... DO NOT BE FRIENDS. .... go to NC right away..... I agree! We should take poll ... how many of us here on LS have been feed the 'Never say never' line, or 'let's see what happens', or 'you never know what will happen in the future'. I can't tell you how many times I've heard that one. Guess what, when I hear it now, I can pretty much predict what will happen!
Author Miss_G Posted January 21, 2011 Author Posted January 21, 2011 Thanks for the advice! I do feel the "never say never" is a trick to stop his guilt of hurting me so badly. I have been a bitch and did originally leave him (I've walked out a few times before, he begs, I come back). This time he said he was sick of always having to beg and me treat him like ****. He said before all this maddness when we were trying to work on things that he was scared things wouldn't change if we got back. I had post natal depression and was struggling to get back into my career after baby. I was resentful I suppose that ex was doing so well. Of course, this was minimal to the proudness I felt. My problem is our child. I don't want my ex taking him as I know his parents will come round to see him. I don't want them near him for reasons stated in my other threads. So ex is having to come to my home to see him. This makes NC a no go. Plus I will always have to see him. What do I do? I want him to know I've changed, I now have a job and am much happier. Will being friendly not show him the person I was when we got together and that the girl he loved is still there??????
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