shawna92 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 (edited) why do guys in this society just feel entitled to sex off women and treat them in such a disrespectful way? ive met so many guys on the internet...lately ive been meeting a string of stupid guys, who will hang out with me like 4 days in a row--theyer hoping that by the 3rd day they will get laid, btu never do. Once they get nothing by the 4th hang out they bail. Sometimes its just hanging out at my place watching tv...is there a reason these stupid men feel entitled to getting laid from women or feel it's their right to do this and treat people like a piece of meat? One weirdo I met, he was nice but he just kept playing with his hair like a girl, constantly and he had long hair...he tried to touch my hair a few times in an odd way....i guess he got nothing so by day 4 he hasnt hung out with me again..really? so guys dont even like to hang out with girls as friends.... they expect 'sex' and if not they are gone like the wind....why do men have the privilege of hanging otu with guys or whoever without expectations of getting 'laid' but if a girl hangs out with a guy she better put out or he's history....what kind of double standard idiotic society is this anyway.... if i was a guy...i could form solid relationships with men or women if i wanted....and not be expected anything...but if im a girl...i guess im pressured to 'put out' everytime i have to interact with a male and if i dont well im just useless or not good enough...and b/c im beautiful all the more reason men feel its my job to put out-- in fact if u are beautiful men treat u as if youre a prostitute of some sorts....i guess theyre used to all the pretty skanks and prostitutes out there who probably offer them sex....who knows.... i for one am so sick of being treated like a 2nd hand piece of meat by most sick disturbing males...they could be 500 lbs, ugly weird smelly and they still feel like my job is to give them some form of sex....and if i dont then well im just useless and will be discarded....what kind of warped thinking is this..do others feel thisw ay about these filthy idiots known as men or this society in general...and yes im bitter because i get treated like dirt by most men so i feel the need to insult men in general because of how these morons treat me....but im wondering why men feel they are entitled to sex off women and its their right or privilege...and why this absurd backwards thinking is just the way people are these days...and women are only treated like objects to be used or abused in weird ways....and why its all the ugly arrogant classless jerks who do this to people so often.... Edited January 20, 2011 by shawna92
Questionis Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Please write with paragraphs if you want people to read the whole post. Capital letters wouldn't be bad either. Er its just the guys, don't let strange men hang out at your house for the first few dates. That's that time you take to evaluate them. Even if you are really young and so are they and don't have much money you can meet in the park and you can bring snacks or something. There are lots of really rubbish people in the world by the way, they may even outnumber the good ones. After a while you get good at spotting them and you can save yourself the hassle of their company.
carhill Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 See also this thread. No cogent advice to offer, but I observe the '92' in the username, match up the writing style and opine that it does match up pretty well with an 18-19 year old. Any molestation in your background? Many women who have confided molestation to me over the years have expressed anger similar to what I'm reading here. IME, having known some for decades, it was their 20's and 30's which brought out the most dramatic revelations. Anyway, I hope you find some peace and a healthy relationship. Take care.
SnowandStars Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Who cares if these guys feel entitled? Just don't have sex with them! If these are the only guys you're meeting, you need to change your surroundings and reevaluate yourself.
Jazzari Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Guys like sex. No mystery there. And men like sex from all types of girls. Not just the mega beautiful. Join the club, sweetie. I don't feel abused when a man tries to sleep with me. Actually, I'd be a little insulted if he didn't after a few dates. I do want him to respect the word "no" but I don't want him to be passive and non-passionate either.
EasyHeart Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 They feel entitled to sex because there are plenty of women who WILL have sex with losers like this. Don't think of it as a reflection of you; it's more a reflection of the men. You sound like you have a healthy attitude towards love and sex, so don't give up. Be picky. There are good guys out there.
Lovelybird Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I think both women and men fostered this kind of harmful mindset. You can hardly let a man touch you when you barely know him, not even mention intimacy! but now this world makes everything fast, fast food, quickie sex, first date sex... But anyway, just ignore them, stick to your value. They say you have to kiss many frogs to find the prince, in the case like this, just kick them instead of kiss. and I agree with previous poster, don't let those men come to your place, it is danger.
stillafool Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 why do guys in this society just feel entitled to sex off women and treat them in such a disrespectful way? ive met so many guys on the internet...lately ive been meeting a string of stupid guys, who will hang out with me like 4 days in a row--theyer hoping that by the 3rd day they will get laid, btu never do. Once they get nothing by the 4th hang out they bail. Sometimes its just hanging out at my place watching tv...is there a reason these stupid men feel entitled to getting laid from women or feel it's their right to do this and treat people like a piece of meat? One weirdo I met, he was nice but he just kept playing with his hair like a girl, constantly and he had long hair...he tried to touch my hair a few times in an odd way....i guess he got nothing so by day 4 he hasnt hung out with me again..really? so guys dont even like to hang out with girls as friends.... they expect 'sex' and if not they are gone like the wind....why do men have the privilege of hanging otu with guys or whoever without expectations of getting 'laid' but if a girl hangs out with a guy she better put out or he's history....what kind of double standard idiotic society is this anyway.... if i was a guy...i could form solid relationships with men or women if i wanted....and not be expected anything...but if im a girl...i guess im pressured to 'put out' everytime i have to interact with a male and if i dont well im just useless or not good enough...and b/c im beautiful all the more reason men feel its my job to put out-- in fact if u are beautiful men treat u as if youre a prostitute of some sorts....i guess theyre used to all the pretty skanks and prostitutes out there who probably offer them sex....who knows.... i for one am so sick of being treated like a 2nd hand piece of meat by most sick disturbing males...they could be 500 lbs, ugly weird smelly and they still feel like my job is to give them some form of sex....and if i dont then well im just useless and will be discarded....what kind of warped thinking is this..do others feel thisw ay about these filthy idiots known as men or this society in general...and yes im bitter because i get treated like dirt by most men so i feel the need to insult men in general because of how these morons treat me....but im wondering why men feel they are entitled to sex off women and its their right or privilege...and why this absurd backwards thinking is just the way people are these days...and women are only treated like objects to be used or abused in weird ways....and why its all the ugly arrogant classless jerks who do this to people so often.... Men will always want and seek out sex. What you can do to lower their expectations is to pay for yourself when you go out on dates. This way they can't feel you owe them anything but a mutual good time. When a woman lets a man wine and dine them, pay for everything, they somehow think they are entitled to sex. Take that power away and pay for yourself.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I can't read all that. But to be honest, not all guys just want sex. However, these guys are typically not what women want.
Lovelybird Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 It is far crying from expecting woman put out in first or third date, to caring about a woman as a person who possess emotion and then learn to control his impulse for sex for the sake of woman who might not ready. We love a man who desire us sexually, but not ONLY sexually. why men don't get this!!!
Mad Max Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 The same reason women feel entitled to have the male model. Ges both ways.
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 That is a very rambling rant. Look, most girls put out for these guys... so they are going to expect you to do the same. If you don't want a guy that JUST wants sex... kick them out.
Els Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Because it seems to be the custom now for people to feel that they are entitled to everything. Men think they're entitled to sex. Women think they're entitled to be paid for. 'Friends' think they're entitled to receive help whenever they want despite not reciprocating. Traditional Asian elders think they're entitled to respect irregardless of their actions. It goes on and on. Simply an ugly facet of human nature. Avoid such people.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Men feeling entitled does not mean women simply give in. Only those who with low self esteem or an inability to say " no" have sex on the first, second and/ or third date.
Els Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Men feeling entitled does not mean women simply give in. Only those who with low self esteem or an inability to say " no" have sex on the first, second and/ or third date. Oh come on, that's just being close-minded on the other hand. There are women who have casual sex early for the same reasons as men: They are horny. It's simply being sexist to immediately assume that just because a woman wants sex early, she necessarily has 'problems'. However, this does not change the fact that only selfish jerks feel 'entitled' to sex on the 3rd date. If a guy lucks out with a woman such as the above, well, good for him, I'll say. Expecting it from every woman is another thing altogether.
creighton0123 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 If you're really serious about dating, perhaps it's time you stop looking for "boys" or "guys" and start looking for men? Just a thought.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Oh come on, that's just being close-minded on the other hand. There are women who have casual sex early for the same reasons as men: They are horny. It's simply being sexist to immediately assume that just because a woman wants sex early, she necessarily has 'problems'. However, this does not change the fact that only selfish jerks feel 'entitled' to sex on the 3rd date. If a guy lucks out with a woman such as the above, well, good for him, I'll say. Expecting it from every woman is another thing altogether. Lol why are you making assumptions that I'm being sexist? I'm merely stating a woman has a right to say no if she doesn't want sex. Those who do against their better judgments are the ones with " problems" saying no. There are no hidden meanings in that. I'm all for casual sex, but those who do it should be well aware of what they're getting into.
Els Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Only those who with low self esteem or an inability to say" no" have sex on the first, second and/ or third date. This is what led me to believe that you were saying that.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 This is what led me to believe that you were saying that. I suppose i should have added a postscript then.
2sunny Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 why? because there are SOME women out there who allow it. don't be one of the gals that allows it.
pookster72 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 i imagine they expect youll put out after a certain amount of time because in their experiences, other women have put out at that point (just like many women have come to expect a man to pay on a date because in their experiences, the men usually will offer to do so) . if you dont want to then don't. there are plenty of men who will respect that.
Titania22 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 in fact if u are beautiful men treat u as if youre a prostitute of some sorts.... I feel this. Look guys are annoying about sex, especially if you are young and beautiful. It's true. And frustrating, if you want a guy for a friend. And yes even I have been asked "how much do you cost for a night?" and crap like that. The good news is it does change as you get older. Now I have lots of guy friends, and yes they would still go for the sex, if I gave them half a chance. But I don't, and they will still treat me as a friend, and behave really respectfully. Of course part of that, has been growing myself as a person and now attracting a better quality of man, and part of that is getting more wrinkles and not being quite as skinny. Basically just stick to your guns in knocking them back. I learnt very quickly when I was 18 to say no. And concentrate on the rest of life, until someone decent turns up. And please don't make the mistake I did when I was 18. I met a guy who didn't try to have sex with me straight away, and I was so stupid and naive, I thought it meant there was something wrong with him and I let him go. He was probably the one decent guy I met at that age.
stillafool Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 i imagine they expect youll put out after a certain amount of time because in their experiences, other women have put out at that point (just like many women have come to expect a man to pay on a date because in their experiences, the men usually will offer to do so) . if you dont want to then don't. there are plenty of men who will respect that. Don't allow them to do this and they can't expect anything.
bayouboi Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 becuz sex is the pretty much the only reason to be "friends" with a woman?
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