Does anybody else not want kids?

[MrsL1987]

I've always been the type of girl who has wanted to be a mom ever since I was little. I would carry my dolls around and take care of them like a little mommy. Since I've met and married my husband, the topic of children has definitely come up. I'm 23 now and my husband and I have been trying to conceive but it's been put on hold at the moment to concentrate more on us. We're not in the best situation to have a child but the way I see it is if it happens, we'll cross that road when we get to it and I know my husband will step up and help me take care of the child.

 

There was a brief time where i thought about never having children but I couldn't see myself not having at least one child in my lifetime.

[mick123]

I want kids now and talk about, because many people do not like him down. I think these days it's more common for people to not want kids, you're in good company.

[J200]

I am a female who is almost 33 and I strongly do not like children at all! I have no maternal instincts; I don't enjoy taking care of anything and I guess I don't have much "heart" or empathy. The sound of crying and loud kids grate at me.

 

There are many reasons why I don't want kids. I would rather have the disposable income to spend on myself. I would be resentful if I had to spend it on a kid. By not having kids I have less stress in my life and I will look younger. I am less likely to gain weight (I am still a size 00). Less likely to get stretch marks.

 

More money to spend on myself. The flexibility to do anything whenever I want to with NO OBLIGATIONS. More SLEEP, getting enough rest is extremely important to me. I hate feeling groggy and even ONE Day affects my looks (I can see it in my face the next day).

 

Why would I want to dedicate my life to "Taking care" of something? I want to live my life for ME. I don't want to be obligated to feed something or look after it for all eternity. I want freedom.

[Duckduckgoose]

I honestly don't really know much about kids or understand them. I like other people's kids for a little while. They are fun to play with and talk to, but not have my own... maybe adopt when I am much older and more stable in life, hopefully married to a good man by then.

 

My mom, who was getting bitter and angry because me and stbxH weren't going to give her grandbabies would say things like "You are only using your pets as substitute for kids. You really want kids which is why you have pets", and also things like "People who have pets but not kids are only doing it to compensate for not having kids in their life. They are hollow and empty and need something to take care of".

 

She was just butthurt is all. My brother and his gf want kids, so if they ever get around to the altar she will get her grandbabies there. She has grandbirds from me.

[Eddie Edirol]

I am a female who is almost 33 and I strongly do not like children at all! I have no maternal instincts; I don't enjoy taking care of anything and I guess I don't have much "heart" or empathy. The sound of crying and loud kids grate at me.

 

There are many reasons why I don't want kids. I would rather have the disposable income to spend on myself. I would be resentful if I had to spend it on a kid. By not having kids I have less stress in my life and I will look younger. I am less likely to gain weight (I am still a size 00). Less likely to get stretch marks.

 

More money to spend on myself. The flexibility to do anything whenever I want to with NO OBLIGATIONS. More SLEEP, getting enough rest is extremely important to me. I hate feeling groggy and even ONE Day affects my looks (I can see it in my face the next day).

 

Why would I want to dedicate my life to "Taking care" of something? I want to live my life for ME. I don't want to be obligated to feed something or look after it for all eternity. I want freedom.

 

Dont want No obligations? Hate kids? Wanna be selfish with your disposable income?

Can we go on a date? There arent many women who dont want children in my area. Everyone wants a damn family and it makes me nuts.

[SVessel]

I never wanted kids until I had one.

(Birth control isn't 100%)

 

I feel so lucky that it turned out that way because my life would never be as wonderful, no matter what, without her. No amount of sacrifice changes that.

 

But I don't think there's anything wrong with not wanting to and not having kids. There's enough people on the planet, we aren't obligated to reproduce.

[Disillusioned]

I knew since I was a kid myself that I didn't want any of my own.

 

My late mother thought of me as sort of a prize stallion (after she stopped trying to stab me with a knife), and she used to make a pitiful face when I'd tell her I didn't want kids. Kill your kid, spoil your grandkid... that's the way it's supposed to work...

 

But there is a practical reason why I never wanted kids: I'd give them toys like go-karts, BB guns, and all the COOL toys. I'd be that delinquent dad who's always getting popped into the crossbar hotel for "child endangerment" (which is legalese for letting Junior do anything even remotely enjoyable).

 

But in a way, I transcended my family's agenda. I succeeded in breaking the cycle of violence and cool-toy deprivation.

[J200]

Dont want No obligations? Hate kids? Wanna be selfish with your disposable income?

Can we go on a date? There arent many women who dont want children in my area. Everyone wants a damn family and it makes me nuts.

 

My ex best friend (am in a fight with her) also doesn't want kids either. However she does actually likes kids and plays with them but she doesn't want them. As for me, I don't want to hold other people's babies etc at all. When I was around 16-17 I used to play with my 6-7 year old cousins and read them stories but that's different. Now that I'm older my fuse is shorter and I don't have patience.

 

I have more disposable income since I'm single and don't have kids; I can go on vacations, I drive a Mercedes and I can spend money on things I want to buy for myself (clothes, nice makeup, eating out), pretty much whatever I feel like (within limits of course).

 

For example, if you make six figures a year (not wealthy by any means but let's use it as a benchmark) you can live pretty nicely if you are a single female. If you have kids and have to pay for their daycare, clothes, save money for their college you will have much less money to spend on yourself. You might be still driving a Toyota Minivan or some other ugly practical family car.

[Eddie Edirol]

My ex best friend (am in a fight with her) also doesn't want kids either. However she does actually likes kids and plays with them but she doesn't want them. As for me, I don't want to hold other people's babies etc at all. When I was around 16-17 I used to play with my 6-7 year old cousins and read them stories but that's different. Now that I'm older my fuse is shorter and I don't have patience.

 

I have more disposable income since I'm single and don't have kids; I can go on vacations, I drive a Mercedes and I can spend money on things I want to buy for myself (clothes, nice makeup, eating out), pretty much whatever I feel like (within limits of course).

 

For example, if you make six figures a year (not wealthy by any means but let's use it as a benchmark) you can live pretty nicely if you are a single female. If you have kids and have to pay for their daycare, clothes, save money for their college you will have much less money to spend on yourself. You might be still driving a Toyota Minivan or some other ugly practical family car.

 

believe me, I live all this. I dont touch children and I have to money to do whatever i please. Life is nice without dependents.

[chrissylee]

Dont want No obligations? Hate kids? Wanna be selfish with your disposable income?

Can we go on a date? There arent many women who dont want children in my area. Everyone wants a damn family and it makes me nuts.

 

 

I don't want children. It might make me selfish but I just have really never had any desire for them. I like my life way to much to change it by having to care for another living person.

[Duckduckgoose]

I was in class today and we were talking about residents at long term care facilities who never get visitors. It is often said (maybe not here, but my mom for sure says it) that your kids will be the one to take care of you when you're older.

 

It was yanking my heart strings when they were talking about all the residents whose kids just dump them off and never visit. One lady was dumped off and when she passed away the obit read that she was survived by her husband and 10 children and x # of grandchildren. I don't know the story behind that but it really breaks my ****ing heart to hear things like that. Kids as life insurance... not so much.

[glimmer]

i dont want kids. i dont have much to offer them and then i wld resentthem as much as theyd resent me.

i feel really negative tonight.