abby1128 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 (edited) I want to move on! but i keep on visiting his page, looking his posts, pictures etc.. then, i saw that he has a girlfriend right now, and it hurts me alot!( maybe he doesn't know the " three month rule") i don't know what to do.. when we're at school we're treating each other as a stranger.. everytime i'm seeing him i dunno if i'm gonna be happy, scared etc .. mixed emotions! I dont know why I am still affected with him i want to move on, but how? Im always looking at our pictures, reminiscing our past. :(I don't know how to start moving on. Any advice? Please help me.. we just broke up last december. Edited January 20, 2011 by abby1128
Kansas Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I want to move on! but i keep on visiting his page, looking his posts, pictures etc ... i want to move on, but how? Im always looking at our pictures, reminiscing our past. Quite frankly, I don't know how you're going to move on either, if you keep stalking his every move. You're torturing yourself, and right now you are your own worst enemy. STOP visiting his page. STOP looking at pictures, reminiscing, checking his FB - whatever it is you have been doing. Follow STRICT NC. It's not easy, but slowly bit by bit you will begin to move on. Otherwise you just keep picking the scab off the wound and then wondering why you are hurt and unable to move on. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but following NC will hurt you way less than what you are putting yourself through now.
edgeofdarkness Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I want to move on! but i keep on visiting his page, looking his posts, pictures etc.. then, i saw that he has a girlfriend right now, and it hurts me alot!( maybe he doesn't know the " three month rule") i don't know what to do.. when we're at school we're treating each other as a stranger.. everytime i'm seeing him i dunno if i'm gonna be happy, scared etc .. mixed emotions! I dont know why I am still affected with him i want to move on, but how? Im always looking at our pictures, reminiscing our past. :(I don't know how to start moving on. Any advice? Please help me.. we just broke up last december. I'm sure he dident decide to date you becus u are some dumb broad. perhaps its best to then stop acting like one. If i tell u to go to the kitchen and grab the biggest sharpest knife u can find, and jab it into yr stomach a few times, I'm realy hoping u wudnt ever do that, mad, right?? so why do this to yrself?? Delete his profile and stop going on and looking what are you, nuts? Just stop the behavior. (I dunno the three month rule either, so thats why i guess people break it.) hes doing what he wants, and what works to make him happy. If yr doing stuff to keep u from that, really then, more fool u, Doll....
radiodarcy Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 i know it's easier said than done but you just have to - - do it. every time you have the urge to check up on him remind yourself of how much it hurt to see all that info abt the new gf etc. i used to check my ex'es (who is a HUGE flirt) fb every 30 seconds. but after seeing so many posts between him and other girls - - esp one girl in particular, i decided i just couldn't do it anymore. all i was doing by pining and stalking him was giving him all the power. going NC is what gave me that power back. now - - i have no interest whatsoever in who he's hanging out with/dating. ignorance really can be bliss
poorguy Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I can see your brand new here so welcome to LS. Read up on NC and what that actually is. Read it, learn it, absorb it and execute it!!! NC means no texting, calling, emailing, casually running into, looking at pictures of, looking up on FB, talking to his/her families or friends-NOTHING!!!! It will do wonders for you in time. It helps you get your identity back and feel like a whole person again and trust me you will love who you are when you finally heal. If you FB stalk you are setting yourself back to day one!!!! So in summary looking up an ex on FB is not NC, it's breaking the rules!!!
Karma20 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Block him or delete him or whatever you have to do stop yourself from you looking. Honestly you will be surprised how in the first day of not looking you will feel better. Stop torturing yourself.
Author abby1128 Posted January 20, 2011 Author Posted January 20, 2011 Thankyou for all the replies!! i really appreciate it so much. I'll do my best to do the " NC ". thankyou so much. I really appreciate your advices! It'll help me a lot!
FreeToBe Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 You are perpetuating the habit. You need to break the habit. By continuing to check up on him, you are keeping the old attachments in place. It is tough and can be scary, but you must break those attachments... No contact includes the following: Not responding to any incoming form of communication (regardless of the format or occasion- email, text, phone, letter)Not initiating any form of contact (regardless of format or occasion)Removing all physical reminders of your ex (pack them away and keep them out of sight – photos, gifts, etc)Not checking up on them (asking friends, Googling their name, peeking at their Facebook, etc)
Wilie Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Listen to the great advice here.. and even better, execute the advice perfectly and you will be fine.. Will
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