soconfused12345 Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 We spend almost every night of the week together, sleep in late, go to lunch, part for a few hours and meet up again late in the evening. I still see my friends and go out occasionally, but I feel like I don't get enough me time. We spend at least 50% of our time together, conservatively. I told him I want more time to myself and he took it as me wanting more time away from him. It has nothing to do with that! What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
fun2bewith Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 I told him I want more time to myself and he took it as me wanting more time away from him. It has nothing to do with that! What should I do? But you do want time away from him so that you can miss him and not kill the relationship with boredom...Is this a new relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
poorguy Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 But you do want time away from him so that you can miss him and not kill the relationship with boredom...Is this a new relationship? That's a good question. Is it a new relationship? If it is you guys are killing it slowly Link to post Share on other sites
creighton0123 Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 If you're in it for the long haul with him, you need to get to a place and mindset where you're together in the same place AND just doing your own thing. Sure, spending time together and focusing on one another is great, but eventually you'll have to transition from living your lives focused on one another to living your lives together. There's nothing wrong with a couple doing something like... being in the same house/apartment while doing different things. Examples: 1. He's playing a video game to relax and you're doing laundry. 2. He's running out for groceries and you're reading a book. 3. He's taking a nap and you're taking a shower. 4. He's cooking a meal and you're doing some work. Hell, just because you're staying over at his place or vice versa doesn't even mean you have to go to sleep at the same time. In all of my experiences, any relationship that doesn't involve this "live our separate lives together" mentality is generally a collapsing relationship. It's absolutely impossible to maintain 100% focus on the person you're dating on a regular and consistent basis and often ends up in both partners in the relationship making unnecessary sacrifices for the sake of what they wrongly believe a relationship should be like. Sure, you can do things like watch movies together, eat together, sleep together, obviously have sex together, do laundry together, go out on dates, but that should only be a component of the relationship. It is absolutely possible for you to have some "me" time with your boyfriend only a few feet away. Link to post Share on other sites
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