Johnny85 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I was together with the same woman for 4 years until she recently broke up with me. We initially met online and were in a long distance relationship for 3 1/2 years and then I graduated and moved to be with her. Recently I visited my family over the christmas holiday, and I receive a phone call from her telling me that "she does not love me anymore" and wants to move on with her life. She has found somebody else (she admitted to asking him out). She felt that after four years she was looking for commitment (marriage, children, etc) and that I was not ready for this (I am 25 and she is 27). She wished me the best and told me that she still wished for us to be friends but that she needed space right now. A few days later she tells me she does not want to be my friend anymore!!! So now my heart is crushed and I tried everything to get her back (flowers, earrings, sending romantic text messages); as we all know, this does not work. After a while she stopped responding to my text messages. So I had no choice but to change my strategy: I ended all contact with her. Approximately 5 days later she sends me a text message writing the following message: "I do miss the morning song. There was lots I liked about you. It was hard for me to be so detached about you leaving, but felt I had to be. Now since you've let some space between us, I felt you deserved to know." What does this mean? I responded the following day by telling her to please send me my things at her convenience. I have not heard from her since, as if though she does not wish to send me my things (that she had committed to doing?) Any advice on how to proceed with trying to win her back? I want her to miss me, so I am not initiating any contact with her. Do you think her rebound relationship will last? Any advice would be much appreciated. Regards, Johnny
Nightsky Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 She expected to get engaged after 4 years of being together and your graduation. You didn’t want that. She entered right into another relationship which sounds like cheating. Unless you want to get engaged I would just move on and forget her until you feel better. Don’t propose out to her out of fear though. Keep her out of sight and out of mind and you’ll start feeling better.
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