U1987 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 So I'm 23, and almost 4 years ago, when I was 19, a girl who was a minor tricked me into taking her out on a date. She was a freshmen in one of my college classes, and we started talking one day and hit it off. It didn't even occur to me to ask for her age; I thought to myself "freshmen in college; 18+." But on her first date, she revealed to me that she was somewhat of a prodigy in high school and was allowed to graduate and enroll in college early. And I was like "Wait! What? You graduated HS early? How old are you?" She told me she was 16. I thought to myself "Oh ****! Time to end this date fast and bail!" We had just gone out to lunch and I quickly called for the bill (didn't even ask for coffee or desert or anything) and had her home in 5 minutes. The thing is that in the weeks after, she called and texted a whole bunch of times asking when the next time we were going to go out was. I didn't have the heart to be straight with her, telling her that I didn't want to see her because she was a minor, so I just kept saying "In a bit," or "I dunno. I'll call." I tried answering only every 3rd or 4th call or text (because she kept calling and texting all the time) but eventually, she got the point and gave up a little over after a month. Now it's almost 4 years later, and believe it or not, I ran into her again after all this time at a gas station yesterday. She's still pretty cute, and she immediately recognized me, but to be honest, I had kinda forgotten about her. She approached me, chatted me up, said she had to go and asked for my number. I had remembered how she had tricked me before and sorta went crazy for a bit calling and texting, so I was hesitant about giving out my contact info to her. I said to her "ummm... let me have your number, and I'll call." She gave it up right away and we went our separate ways." I thought long and hard. Yeah she didn't reveal to me she was a minor before I took her out, and sure she went a little crazy calling and texting several times in the weeks following our 1 date. Still, that was almost 4 years ago, so she's legal now (19 or 20) and everyone is clingy when they're young. So today, I texted her my number. She texted back "Hii U1987! Sry it took so long to get back to you" (it had only been 4 hrs) "I was stuck in class all day. Txt me whenever you want to hang out soon! : )" So what do you think? Is this worth exploring?
carhill Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Heh, she's probably in a PhD program already. Four years is a long time. People change, especially from 16 to 20. What harm could hanging out do?
somedude81 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Yup, go for it. What do you have to lose? She might be a little clingy but there is a lot more to gain.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 hold up a sec, gotta kill my BS detector -- sirens & all... ...k, got it. sorry about that. so yeah man, you know, she chatted you up, huh? that's cool. I vote you go for it. matter of fact, you should've asked her out, right then and there at the gas station. ...no doubt she would've agreed to the date, mounted up on your shimmering, winged unicorn and enjoyed an incredibly mixed beverage during the flight. there's always next time though. s'all good.
dispatch3d Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I generally run an id check+make sure she has a second id. I also make sure she knows her own birthday, and where she's from, etc. It's not really that long of a process, like 10 minutes tops.
Author U1987 Posted January 20, 2011 Author Posted January 20, 2011 You already txted her asking her to “txt me whenever you want to hang out soon! ” which sounds like you are already going for it. I would avoid exclamation marks and have just asked her out instead of in essence asking her to ask you out soon. No, she texted that to me. I only texted her my number
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I generally run an id check+make sure she has a second id. I also make sure she knows her own birthday, and where she's from, etc. It's not really that long of a process, like 10 minutes tops. Hee! :D:D
flying Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Aren't you looking for no-strings-attached sex? Sounds like she has strings every which way. But, good luck.
collegeguy_24 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I say go for it, you only live once and you may regret it if you don't go for it now when you have the chance.
Cee Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 If you like her, go for it. Sounds good. Glad you had that chance meeting.
fishtaco Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Smart man. If you kept the relationship going when she was 16, you could end up on the sexual offender's list for the rest of your life, regardless if anything had happened. Now that's she's no longer a minor, go for it. Also the way she was when she was 16 doesn't mean she'll be the same now. Maybe she's better, maybe she's worse. But that's how it goes when you date. A big part of it is exploration. Good luck.
Questionis Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Go on a date, see how it goes, don't let her know where you live yet in case sh turns psycho on you
Els Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 So I'm 23, and almost 4 years ago, when I was 19, a girl who was a minor tricked me into taking her out on a date. __ The thing is that in the weeks after, she called and texted a whole bunch of times asking when the next time we were going to go out was. I didn't have the heart to be straight with her, telling her that I didn't want to see her because she was a minor, so I just kept saying "In a bit," or "I dunno. I'll call." I tried answering only every 3rd or 4th call or text (because she kept calling and texting all the time) but eventually, she got the point and gave up a little over after a month. __ I thought long and hard. Yeah she didn't reveal to me she was a minor before I took her out, Oh, wow. You are both SUCH a catch. One trying to trick the other into believing that she was legal when she wasn't. The other letting her hang for over a month instead of just giving her a straight answer (aren't guys all up in arms about women doing this?). Go ahead - you're made for each other anyway.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I wouldn't say that. Most guys would be freaked out over an underage girl, and the prospect of going to jail. That should have been reason enough. But as far as the recent experiences go, you should definitely go for it, man! Get to know her - maybe she'll be the same person, maybe not. A lot changes in 4 years, so she might just want to be friends now.
BobSacamento Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Patience is a virtue. Take her to the same place, it'll be funny. Take 2.
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