Dante311 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 for the last month and a half or so (we've been exclusive).. B and I (when we're in the same vicinity) have slept in the same bed.. fooled around. Last night, she had me pick her up, and stay over... and then around 3am, her ex that she loves and he loves her, but they can't be together texted her. she got mad at him. They had a conversation for about 2 hours via text and I was in bed... awake. I got upset, and rolled over... she kept trying to apologize and was holding me and kissing my neck.. but I wouldn't budge. I told her I'm sorry, I shouldn't be upset, but I am. she gave up, got pissy, and went to sleep This morning things were 'weird'... I'm only the second guy to ever make her orgasm (the first was her ex, andy.. the one who texted her last night) they're hanging out right now. she told me today... she wants to chill by herself tonight... but she'll call me before she goes to bed. She doesn't want to sleep over or me sleep over her place. Is that a woman's way of trying to check out emotionally? And do I have a right to query if she hooked up with her ex again? (while we were together, she's done it before) I really am not thinking rationally... thanks again, rob
Eddie Edirol Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Oh boy, it sounds like she checked out...but heres the problem, she was texting her ex. She either checked out a long time ago, or you were used as a rebound - so she never checked in. She was probably on her way out anyway...so you turning over in bed might have been the nail in the coffin. it could have been anything anyway, not just that. Your best bet is to distance yourself as much as possible now, let her earn her way to you since shes on her way out. Dont chase her. You could try to talk to her about this, but if she is looking at someone else, shes not going to tell you the truth, so talking about it might make things worse. Im just going off of what you said, so Im making assumptions based on the few words you gave.
Pfiend101 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 you're better off. She's a bitch for texting her ex when she is in a relationship with you. DUMP HER DUMB ASS
AverageJoe Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 for the last month and a half or so (we've been exclusive).. B and I (when we're in the same vicinity) have slept in the same bed.. fooled around. You mean, you, her and her ex have been exclusive? Last night, she had me pick her up, and stay over... and then around 3am, her ex that she loves and he loves her, but they can't be together texted her. she got mad at him. They had a conversation for about 2 hours via text and I was in bed... awake. I got upset, and rolled over... she kept trying to apologize and was holding me and kissing my neck.. but I wouldn't budge. I told her I'm sorry, I shouldn't be upset, but I am. she gave up, got pissy, and went to sleep At this point, hell even before this point. You should have booted her ass right out the door. I'm only the second guy to ever make her orgasm Uh huh, according to her. Good times. they're hanging out right now. she told me today... she wants to chill by herself tonight... but she'll call me before she goes to bed. She doesn't want to sleep over or me sleep over her place. Of course not, she is getting the high hard one from her ex. Is that a woman's way of trying to check out emotionally? And do I have a right to query if she hooked up with her ex again? (while we were together, she's done it before) I really am not thinking rationally... No Rob. You are not. If you have any manhood left you would drop kick this bitch through the uprights and move on immediately. C'mon man have some dignity. You are better than this aren't you?
Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 As someone else said, she didn't check out because she never checked IN to begin with. And as I think I've told you six times now, this girl is using you as her emotional tampon while she pines for her ex and sleeps with other guys. She is not in a relationship with you. She is using you to wipe her feet and worse. Please, guy. Have some pride.
BS76 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 And do I have a right to query if she hooked up with her ex again? (while we were together, she's done it before Epic red flag. To put it bluntly this one doesn't sound like relationship material. My suggestion is to have your fun and move on. And if you have your suspicions about her cheating, studies have shown you've got about a 70% chance of being right on the money. Overall I've got to agree with previous posters as well, that you're a rebound and she's still hung up on the previous guy. That's not a healthy way to start a relationship at all.
Stung Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I and many other people have posted repeatedly in your other threads, telling you that this girl doesn't love you, that you are not in a healthy relationship--hell, you're not even in a real relationship at all, certainly no kind of partnership. You don't want to hear it, you don't want to do what you know you have to do. You don't want to face reality. The scene you painted above sounded really awful. You lay there cold and hurting for TWO HOURS while she texted back and forth with the man she loves, come on man, that's AWFUL. She made gestures of apology that were completely EMPTY, they meant nothing. And now she's out with him today. It's completely unacceptable, yet here you are, accepting it, all because of this shadow word "exclusive" that you hang onto like it's some kind of lifeline. She doesn't think it means what you think it means. At this point, are you just waiting around to see how much lower she can go? How much worse you can feel? There is no happy ending for you here. It is time to say enough is enough.
soconfused12345 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Dump her! Unless someone is totally available to you, they won't be good in a relationship!
Am4Real Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 for the last month and a half or so (we've been exclusive).. B and I (when we're in the same vicinity) have slept in the same bed.. fooled around. Last night, she had me pick her up, and stay over... and then around 3am, her ex that she loves and he loves her, but they can't be together texted her. she got mad at him. They had a conversation for about 2 hours via text and I was in bed... awake. I got upset, and rolled over... she kept trying to apologize and was holding me and kissing my neck.. but I wouldn't budge. I told her I'm sorry, I shouldn't be upset, but I am. she gave up, got pissy, and went to sleep This morning things were 'weird'... I'm only the second guy to ever make her orgasm (the first was her ex, andy.. the one who texted her last night) they're hanging out right now. she told me today... she wants to chill by herself tonight... but she'll call me before she goes to bed. She doesn't want to sleep over or me sleep over her place. Is that a woman's way of trying to check out emotionally? And do I have a right to query if she hooked up with her ex again? (while we were together, she's done it before) I really am not thinking rationally... thanks again, rob What is she 18 or 19, maybe early 20's at best. Very imature. Let me guess, you somehow are all connect on facebook as well?
810 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Oh boy, it sounds like she checked out...but heres the problem, she was texting her ex. She either checked out a long time ago, or you were used as a rebound - so she never checked in. yup! I agree.
Questionis Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I got upset, and rolled over... she kept trying to apologize and was holding me and kissing my neck.. but I wouldn't budge. I told her I'm sorry, I shouldn't be upset, but I am. she gave up, got pissy, and went to sleep Hard to give this up, even though you are only getting a little bit of love from her, when you give it up you will be back to what you had before, nothing, right? Well you are wrong, get this manipulative woman out of your life and you have more of an opportunity to meet a wonderful and amazing woman who will make you feel brilliant will give you so much love what this girl has given you will pale in comparison. You can give her your heart and will appreciate the love you give her! Give yourself the chance and the emotional space to meet her...
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