SophiaL Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I'm just having a bad day....i keep thinking about him and if he is with the new girl...and stupid things like... what do they talk about? are they really close? is he getting into a new relationship so soon? i guess they have been 'dating' for a little while now...(been broken up for 7 months). Just want him to be honesty with me and say things for what they really are, he keeps saying he's just having fun and they are only dating...but, I think there's more to it (or maybe i'm just over analysing things). Last time we spoke, he said he misses me (he doesn't want to be back together though, typical situation right?!). I think his 'new girl' is really in love with him, and i think he likes her. Why is this happening? and why can't I move on??
Leandro Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 It just takes time Sophia. I hope you're in NC. Thoughts like that will bother you, especially when you know your thoughts are true . Need to stop thinking about him and her. Think about me . Sexy american boy .
Author SophiaL Posted January 19, 2011 Author Posted January 19, 2011 Leandro...I will try to shift my focus into you now!! Will stay NC, and I'm sure it will get better one day...
ByMyselfForNow Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 And now the image of Leandro as the Old Spice guy comes into my mind
Leandro Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Leandro...I will try to shift my focus into you now!! Will stay NC, and I'm sure it will get better one day... YAYYYY . It will get better some day. Just takes time.
Leandro Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 And now the image of Leandro as the Old Spice guy comes into my mind hehehehe. Oh yeaa .
Graceful Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Just want him to be honesty with me and say things for what they really are, he keeps saying he's just having fun and they are only dating...but, I think there's more to it (or maybe i'm just over analysing things). Last time we spoke, he said he misses me (he doesn't want to be back together though, typical situation right?!). I think his 'new girl' is really in love with him, and i think he likes her. Why is this happening? and why can't I move on?? Hi Sophia, I know you were in a LTR with your ex, and it is going to take time for you to feel better, but it does sound like you are still in touch with him ... you need to go NC and until you do that, you will continue to hurt yourself. He seems to have made it clear that he has moved on, and there is no hope, so you need to believe him. He is being clear with you. Go NC. Until you do, you will continue to feel a false sense of hope where there is none. I am sorry, you know that. You're going to make progress, after you cut him loose for good. Take care.
stopthemadness Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 (edited) I agree with Graceful,sound likes hes moved on. And it sounds like you still are in conract with him. As far as the time line, we are the same. and yea I USED to keep contact with my ex. But 2day is day 8 of no contact. it was too hard hearing about dating this one then dating that one. Last time we spoke he said he thinks he really likes this new person. Broke my heart, but you know what? with these days of n/c and not knowing whats going on.its better for me.Its like my mind is at a rest state. try it. go as many days as you can muster up with no contact. Youll fell better i promise.Someone on here said "I dont wanta know, I dont wanta Know" its a good idea. I also heard" He didnt leave me. He freed me!!" I agree with that these days and have taken him off the pedestal I had him on.And I see him for the ahole he really is. WOW i sound like am feeling better AWESOME!! Hang in there..when you start feeling better it will seem like it happenes all at once. Keep posting..Check out the chat line on here too. those guys are great.. Its called On line chatting to cope. right now its on page 3 but it moves around.(Go down to #8) Try it..its helps.. Edited January 20, 2011 by stopthemadness
Author SophiaL Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 (edited) hey guys, Thank you for the support. I have this horrible habit of breaking NC, but I feel a bit stronger today and capable at looking things for what they are. I still think of him, but then I have been able to stop wondering about him and focus on something else. I have been keeping myself busy, so it's all good for now... Hope you all are doing good!! Edited January 23, 2011 by SophiaL
Leandro Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 It's good to hear that you're doing good Sophia. Keep it up!
gator12 Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 Sophia, things only get better just look at it that way. You've already been at the worst when you guys brokeup the only way to go is up My advice though is strict no contact, no texts at all in any way. Especially about his new relationship. If anything that is just gonna further cement the idea that the breakup was a good idea. As well as causing you nothing but more pain. Talking to him only feeds his ego and lets him know you're still there waiting for him. Strict no contact will do two things for you. One, you will heal, it won't be overnight but as the days go by it gets easier and easier. Two, it may make him miss you and is the best way to ever get him back but you can't do it thinking I am doing it to get him back. So id advise deleting his cell phone number if you find it impossible to not reply to him and controlling any urges you have of communicating with him. If you get an urge then do what I do, write. Write everything you want to say to him down, everything you feel everything you want him to know. Keep it in a journal, or crumble it up and throw it away, your choice. Just doing that will make you feel so much better and prevent you from talking to him. If it's meant to be it's meant to be, it's out of your hands now, no worries though. Things always work out for the best and whether you end up with him or not you're gonna end up with an amazing guy and you're gonna be a much more confident woman after NC. Good luck
Author SophiaL Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 Hey Gator, The journal is a great idea and i love writing too! good and bad days will come, but I hope to be strong when needed...
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