Juno Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 make no real attempt to be with me? He just keep me scatching my head. After 10 months of NC contacting me proclaiming he can't get me out of his mind and that he is obsessed with me. Weeks later texting me saying " I don't want to hurt you, you deserve more than I can give". Ugh! I just don't understand.
marqueemoon4 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Admitting to you that he is "obsessed" with you is NOT a good thing.
Author Juno Posted January 20, 2011 Author Posted January 20, 2011 Admitting to you that he is "obsessed" with you is NOT a good thing. I guess I wanted to translate "obsessed" to "love". Who says this, then flee? It seems the crazier they are, the harder I fall.
Author Juno Posted January 20, 2011 Author Posted January 20, 2011 Maybe he wants to have back up, i think he is with someone else but she doesn't know if she wants to stay with him or not Possibly. But why recruit someone you have not spoken to in 10 months as a back up?
Trovador Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 In words of a wiser poster, "they do it to see if the doggie is still attached to the rope"... Not really accusing you of anything (more like wondering), but I'd think that after 10 months you would be kinda immune to these out of the blue "reencarnations"?
Denillad Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Juno, it ex is similar to mine in a few ways and I think we both need forget them both n move on. I've been apart from my ex 2 years n going and Ive made every effort to work things out. He too wake up and go to bed thinking about him for two years. I've analyzed everything he has said n done but not where I want to be. They don't feel the way we do m they don't deserve our heart nor the"goodies". Im no where near being over him but I am determined to be. I changed my number two days ago, I find myself thinking how I should leave some way for him to contact me but I'm not gonna do that ****. I done so much for him if he can't do the same if need be, I'm gonna just say he ain't worth ****. Let him stay with his new love, he has cheated on her with me so that show who he really is. I just need to know all this in my heart n let go of my "obsession" , him. You have to let him go, let him feel the way you do or if he doesn't he is a waste of ur time.
Author Juno Posted January 20, 2011 Author Posted January 20, 2011 In words of a wiser poster, "they do it to see if the doggie is still attached to the rope"... Not really accusing you of anything (more like wondering), but I'd think that after 10 months you would be kinda immune to these out of the blue "reencarnations"? Nope...not immune at all, only hopeful that the next "reencarnation" will be the one I want. So pathetic I know, but I just can not completely shake him. I hate myself for feeling this way and allowing this "thing" thats going on with me take up 3 years of my life.
Trovador Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Don't take it so hard on yourself... I've in an on-off relationship for more than a year myself and I wonder if deep inside I actually grew fond of this "arrangement"... Sometimes I just think that people have a different vision of what love is and someone not loving us the way we would like most doesn't mean they don't love us... I know, small consolation but that will do for now (and a good laugh)...
Author Juno Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 I am so confused. He broke up with me because he wanted to see other women. I was sooo heartbroken and would have done anything to make it work. A year and months go by, he pops up out of the blue. All IMs, emails, texts and risque pics from him. He claims he is obsessed with me, but has no reservations telling me about the last date he had. Sensing I was hurt, he says he will leave me alone. Great...let the healing begin....once again. It's been over a month and absolutely NC from me. Now a get an IM with my former name. He never ever knew me by this name. We do not travel in the same circle that someone could have told him. The only way he could have found out is if he was web stalking me. In the message he did not say or ask anything. It just had my former name. Yes it's creepy, and why does he care enough to search me out like this if he wants to see other people?
Author Juno Posted January 31, 2011 Author Posted January 31, 2011 I am so confused. He broke up with me because he wanted to see other women. I was sooo heartbroken and would have done anything to make it work. A year and months go by, he pops up out of the blue. All IMs, emails, texts and risque pics from him. He claims he is obsessed with me, but has no reservations telling me about the last date he had. Sensing I was hurt, he says he will leave me alone. Great...let the healing begin....once again. It's been over a month and absolutely NC from me. Now a get an IM with my former name. He never ever knew me by this name. We do not travel in the same circle that someone could have told him. The only way he could have found out is if he was web stalking me. In the message he did not say or ask anything. It just had my former name. Yes it's creepy, and why does he care enough to search me out like this if he wants to see other people? Any thoughts on this? Anyone else finds this strange and down right scary?
depplover_1980 Posted January 31, 2011 Posted January 31, 2011 Maybe he is now bored of seeing other people and you have always stuck in his mind? He is going the wrong way about getting you back if that is the case!! What a wierdo!
Author Juno Posted February 1, 2011 Author Posted February 1, 2011 I am so freaked out and furious. I mean really, what is the purpose? We have not seen each other in almost 2 years. It was not a tramatic breakup, atleast not for him. He wanted to see others, so I struggled for the past 2 years to forget about him. The first year it was hell for me, but I stuck to nc,...no emails, calls, texts or IM. Who he was or whom he had become was of no matter to me....he was not part of my life anymore. So why did he feel the need search me out? I am almost tempted to rip him a new one, but that may be part of his plan....to get me to break NC. Ugh ugh!!!!!!
depplover_1980 Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 I am so freaked out and furious. I mean really, what is the purpose? We have not seen each other in almost 2 years. It was not a tramatic breakup, atleast not for him. He wanted to see others, so I struggled for the past 2 years to forget about him. The first year it was hell for me, but I stuck to nc,...no emails, calls, texts or IM. Who he was or whom he had become was of no matter to me....he was not part of my life anymore. So why did he feel the need search me out? I am almost tempted to rip him a new one, but that may be part of his plan....to get me to break NC. Ugh ugh!!!!!! If he caused so much heartache for you keep ignoring him. If he want you back it's flowers at your door and a big apology!
Shatter3d Posted February 1, 2011 Posted February 1, 2011 If he want you back it's flowers at your door and a big apology! ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ YES, thats right, dont take anything less. I wish my man would do that
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