Fern Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Does he do this stuff deliberately? I've been feeling so much better this week and then found out today that my Ex is taking that SLAG on the same holiday we went on last year. After waxing lyrical to me on Xmas eve about how he'll always remember that time with me as the best time he ever had with anyone. So now he's going to recreate it with HER? How utterly insensitive is he? It's a big European music festival and I TOLD him on Xmas eve I was going back this year with friends! How insensitive is he? I mean seriously, WTF? I was looking forward to this SO much and now I have to worry about bumping into the two of them all week! I'm FUMING. I'm having a really hard time stopping myself from contacting him to tell him off. It's not until May - what are the chances I'll be completely indifferent in 4 months? I'm so ANGRY. Why is he doing this to me? I supported him for 6 years and he can't even have enough thought for my feelings to let me have a bloody holiday in peace. I'm still paying off debts I incurred to help him out and he's taking HER on holiday to OUR thing. What kind of sociopath is he?
Rose T Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Fern, you were doing really well the other day - try and hold onto that sense of indifference you were cultivating. I know it's hard, I'm cycling through good and bad days, doesn't help that I'm a girl - the usual hormonal peaks and troughs get even more extreme and tearier, lol..! May is a long way off. I know it doesn't feel like it, but you will be in a totally different place by then. And what are the chances you'll actually see him there? Besides which, you're going to meet a load of fun people there and you probably won't give a monkeys by the time your dancing your arse off! It's annoying, but it's another reminder that 1.) he's doing the same stuff he did with you because YOU WERE A GREAT GIRLFRIEND and he's trying to get that feeling back. He had fun there with you but repeating the same dates with someone else? uurrgh. She's sort of getting your sloppy seconds. I'd be furious if I found out that my "hot date" was just him trying to repeat a unique time he'd had with someone else. 2.) It's also a massive reminder that he has NO IMAGINATION. Boyfriends that have no imagination keep repeating the same mistakes, get bored with everything and junk everything, because they don't know that the impetus lies within them to enjoy themselves. My ex was like that - I half think he swapped me for a different model just because he had no idea of how to inject imagination into our relationship. It means that he's doomed to walk away when things get boring, even though he's the boring one! Hope I've cheered you up a bit! Stay strong and please get back to posting those kick-ass I'm moving on threads! You know you are, really!
PortuguesePrincess80 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Not sure what your story is..but why do you girls dwell on dudes like this anyway?!?!?! Come on girl..that gives you EXACTLY 4 months to find the hottest dude to take with you..just in case! Why do you even talk with this dude anyway? Let bygones be bygones. He's obviously telling you this because he wants a reaction..and by the looks of it your giving him the reaction he wants!!! Toughen up..and start finding some hottie to go with!
Author Fern Posted January 19, 2011 Author Posted January 19, 2011 I'm actually okay. It's just another reminder that the person I was in love with doesn't actually exist. My reaction to the news was actually much less painful that I would have imagined possible only a few weeks ago. I was/am angry - but not particularly hurt or upset. I'm not even really surprised. I'm not going to cry or anything. This is a measure of the kind of person he is. Good luck to him trying to recreate the good times we had together with her. By May they'll be together 8 months. I suspect the honeymoon period will be long over by that point. He'll be stuck with her tagging along with him and his brother because she has no friends. I'm going with a big group of old friends and we're going to have the MOST fun. His trip will be a pale imitation of our trip. My trip will be FABULOUS because I don't have to put up with his crap ruining it for me like it did the last time. Don't worry, I turned a corner this week - this minor setback hasn't put me back too far.
melenkurion Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 It shows he's a jerk. And it is exactly that, he is trying hard to recreate his feelings for you with her. He won't find it so easy. By then the honeymoon really will be over. She won't be as into this holiday as he is, there is every chance :-) My weekend blues were caused in part because we always used to take a break that very weekend, to cheer us up in January. I found out he was doing exactly the same with OG. It's funny, in a way.
Author Fern Posted January 20, 2011 Author Posted January 20, 2011 It shows he's a jerk. And it is exactly that, he is trying hard to recreate his feelings for you with her. He won't find it so easy. By then the honeymoon really will be over. She won't be as into this holiday as he is, there is every chance :-) My weekend blues were caused in part because we always used to take a break that very weekend, to cheer us up in January. I found out he was doing exactly the same with OG. It's funny, in a way. Complete morons both of them. I'm coming round a bit now. He's not even worth my time and energy to think about. I was chatting to his ex today and she said she thinks he's been logging into his daughter's FB profile to view my page. He deleted FB a few months ago. The Babymama told me that she's noticed her daughter listed as 'online' quite often recently when she's asleep in bed. She vets the child's time on the site and her friends - so the child has very few friends - mostly aunts and cousins. If he's really logging into her account it's almost certainly to snoop at my page. Probably worried I'm badmouthing him. So there you go - they can try to replace us all they like. They can pretend to be completely over us and totally moved on with their new partners. If mine is still logging on to snoop at my online profile - you can bet your loser is still curious about what you're doing. Living well is the best revenge, as they say.
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