Kansas Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Alright, well after a couple of *stronger* days, today I'm finding that I'm moving between sadness and anger at an hourly rate. In this moment, I'm leaning more towards anger. Specifically, it frustrates the living **** out of me that after 2.5 years, he didn't even respect me enough to end our relationship in a normal fashion. Forget face to face - I can't imagine he would ever have the balls for this. A phone call would of been nice. But nope. I get a ****ing email. No hello. No goodbye, just a very curt ****ing email. If we didn't have technology, would he pasted a ****ing post it note to my door? I hope he rots in hell. He used to get so mad at me because every time in the past when NC was broken, and he would treat me like **** again, I would say to him - All of this will come back at you one day. One day you will truly love someone and everything you have done will come back at you. Not because I wish it, but because that's just life - it takes care of people. He used to looooose his mind! ARRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
YellowShark Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 If after 2.5 years together your partner breaks up in an email or text he *is* a total immature spineless douche. Good riddance to him.
carhill Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Relevant history My sympathies for your pain. Anger is a great motivator to actions of assuaging hurt. Apparent abandonment is often one of the most poignant of hurts, right next to infidelity. I hope you have some friends/family in real life whom can be pillars of support during this time of grief. From my quick read of your history, one opinion does come to mind, and that is that a healthy relationship isn't so much work. Life is imperfect, to be sure, but relationships (of all types) should be positive, meaningful, fulfilling pursuits. If one finds themselves in a work project, and feels it, that's really good information. Continue NC and vent as appropriate. We're here
lovesparis Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 i was dumped by email too... but we weren't together for 2.5 years. your ex is a spineless piece of trash that even sewer rats would find disgusting. WHAT A WORTHLESS SCHMUCK. ::hugs:: kansas.
Author Kansas Posted January 19, 2011 Author Posted January 19, 2011 Thank you for all the support, everyone! I know, he is a giant douche bag and NC is a blessing for me because I genuinely don't want to hear from him ever again. If I had put in as much effort into an ape, as I did into that relationship, it would of evolved into a more mature, self-reliant and emotionally capable human being.
J0N Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I feel ya, My ex of nearly two years dumped me via text messages. She didn't really tell me anything in the month or so leading up to it. She was spineless, and stone cold. It speaks volumes about a person's character the way they leave you. Clearly our ex's are childish cowards. To hell with them!
vtbrokenhearted Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Relevant history a healthy relationship isn't so much work. Life is imperfect, to be sure, but relationships (of all types) should be positive, meaningful, fulfilling pursuits. If one finds themselves in a work project, and feels it, that's really good information. A friend of mine told me this too. It is excellent to know and recognize.
Author Kansas Posted January 19, 2011 Author Posted January 19, 2011 The frustrating part for me is that it makes NC that much less satisfying (that's the vindictive part of me talking). A big part of me would feel better knowing that I was the one who just disappeared out of his life. Right now I feel like, "Oh, you're not talking to me? Well I'm not talking to you!" ... and all the whole time, he doesn't want to talk to me anyways and my not talking to him just makes it that much easier for him to move on. OMG, it would feel so good to just whip an egg at his head right now ... just as he was coming out of his apartment. And then when he looked around to see where it came from, with that stupid stunned look on his face, I would whip another one, smack dab in the forehead.
carhill Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Well, small consolation but that passion of anger is clearly a sign that you can love deeply; a gift a deserving man will greatly appreciate and value. Little comfort right now, I know. It'll come...
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