blasteroid Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Me and my wife have been married 5 years, together 12 with 3 beautiful kids. However, a few years back, she changed, or 1 of us did. I'd come in from work and the house would be a mess, literally from breakfast onward nothing done. She was getting the kids to school late a lot and picking them up late too, she also began pulling her hair out!?! although that has become less of an issue these days. Anyway we argued a LOT, in the end she rented a house near her family and i allowed her to handle the sale of my our house and we moved. In the end i found out she'd let my house get repossessed and had been getting loans in my name and not paying them, also there had been drug use, she hadn't been coming to bed some nights and sleeping all day, hence the lack of house work. I've left her many times but, although i love her, i now realise i cant make her change, and for my own sanity, i've left for good, been 3 months now. Christmas was very hard, i stayed xmas eve and left before xmas dinner so i did see kids, however, this year she may have a new boyfriend so i may not be welcome. I had to make a purely selfish decision so that as the kids get older, they can come stay with their dad when their mum is getting them down, while i was there i felt my influence was marginalised and scoffed at. Its hard to stay away, i've not gone looking for another woman to make this easier, so its been a lot of xbox and gym really.
Author blasteroid Posted January 20, 2011 Author Posted January 20, 2011 it was her own family, her sisters who told me about it. i spent years completely confused as to what was the matter with her, i thought maybe mental health issues. Her mothers a selfish alcoholic and her father dead. I hear what you say about taking the kids, i'm still in the process of sorting out my own place, i've a meeting on that subject today. Once that's sorted, i can start looking at my options more clearly, at the moment i'm in my mothers spare room. my mothers had debt collectors ringing every day for loans i know nothing about, i've paid a few off but it's getting silly, i may have to look at going bankrupt.
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