Miss_G Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 You can read the details of my split here... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t260679/ Anyway, I came to the conclusion we were completely over and starting to mentally prepare myself. Anyway, Monday night, I come home from work and discover a message from a family memeber claiming that ex's mother has informed he has moved a friend into OUR house without telling me! Me = not happy! I contacted ex but he was working. My mum didn't believe him and drove past our home on her way back from work. His car was there as was his dads. Ex text me to say he had been picked up. My ex-FIL noticed my mum outside and invited her in. He told her that ex never wanted to get back together (we've been dating which he doesn't know) and we needed to sort the house out and I needed to 'get lost' in harsh terms. Again, me = not pleased!!! My mum was angry as this was MY house and FIL was in there without my ex! She noticed they had changed the house in the 4 months I have moved out and she went upstairs to find other changes. FIL started shouting that they had changed the locks, ex had loads of girls there and I would HAVE to be bought out (I don't). My mum came downstairs to which FIL grabbed my mum forcefully and attempted to throw her out of the house. He failed because she managed to get herself free. My mum was in a state when she got home and rang the police. My ex was confused as he was working and didn't know what had gone on. I told him he could still see our child but FIL and his family could not unless it was supervised by me. They are a danger I believe to him mentally if not physically. Ex and I had a long talk. I decided that we should press forward with a split, sell the house or whatever. He agreed. I asked him if he never wanted to get back together and he said he had done. He said his dad was speaking for him and he's had NO girls back there. We came to a civil understanding and we discussed our relationship, etc. I spoke to him the next day about the legal side and we talked again. I asked him if he wanted things to get this complicated and out of hand and whether he ever thought it would get this bad and we would never get back together. He said it had gotten out of hand and he didn't want things this bad. He said he never says never about getting back together. What can I do?? I'm pushing forward with a split but it seems such a waste when we have a child. What do you think? Should I be friendly with him, get the house sorted and see how things go? I wouldn't want to live their now anyway.
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