MissKnowitall Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 (edited) I have been in a long distance relationship with someone who I reconnected with from my past. We took it slowly at first but then little by little the trust built and before long we were saying 'I love you' at the end of every phone call or message, he calls me 'sweetheart' all the time now, but I honestly don't know if we are 'together'. Yes we are in a relationship and have been intimate in person but there has never been an official 'we are together' talk or a 'be my girlfriend' request. Maybe because we are older so it seems silly to 'go steady' but I do get worried sometimes. I do want to define our relationship a bit more but I also don't want him to feel cornered and I am realistic when it comes to the distance thing. It took him months to say 'I Love You' and now he says it all the time. Is that enough? Should it be enough? Does it matter if we are a 'couple'? We are deeply in love. I don't doubt that. We miss one another and stay in constant contact but I am maybe not so bright about this stuff? I know he isn't seeing others, doesn't even have time to really. So that isn't the issue. He isn't a Casanova type... he is quiet and sweet. Am I his girl? Edited January 19, 2011 by MissKnowitall
blugirl Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Have you both met IRL yet? Cause if not, you're not in a relationship. How can you know if you want to be with someone unless you 2 meet in person? Just to confirm the connection (and see if there is something that would bug you). Other than that, don't ask people here, ask him instead cause there's no better way of knowing.
folieadeux Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I'm assuming from how you worded your post that you've met in real life. As to the question whether it's enough or not, you have your answer already if you're having to wonder about it...it's not for you. The best thing to do is sit down and have a chat with him. He'll be able to answer better than any of us can.
madjac74 Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 well if you feel like you are a couple but you are uncomfortable about just asking then you can do this! Just refer to him as your boyfriend or yourself as his girlfriend in some random comment you make. This isnt the best example but something like "Hows my boyfriend today?"... My gf and I call each other "boo" (which is slang for girlfriend, sweetheart, loved one) so you can try that and see if he asks what that means and that will lead to a conversation which could answer all your questions.
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