Molliejollie Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Hi I'm fairly new to this EMR world. I am married 15 years and am having an affair with a married man. It's been fun and exciting, but with a lot of ups and downs. It's going on two years now. He is an alcoholic. He and his wife have a volatile marriage. They are currently separated, he lives in another house. In the meantime, he sleeps at his his old house a lot! That doesn't bother me. He's a really good father and is a stay at home dad. Anyways he went through a drinking episode about a month ago and I was very involved to try to get him to stop his 5 day binge. Ever since then, our relationship hasn't been the same. He is not returning my text messages. My last text was me asking if we were in a fight? If he was mad at me, etc. He is not answering any of the texts. I know he's getting them. I see him around, so I know he's safe. Is he pulling a fade and doesn't want to be confronted? Do I just walk away? I'm feeling like a fool with all my annoying texts and voicemails. Is the writing on the wall and I just refuse to see it? Aaargh!!!
alexandria35 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Oh my God. He is a cheater, he is an alcoholic, he goes on 5 day drinking binges and he lives away from home....But "he's a really good dad"..haha...you can't be serious. I don't know why you would care if this guy was breaking up with you, he doesn't sound like much of a catch, but I'll try to answer your question. If you have sent him messages and he's not responding it's because he doesn't want to talk to you. It doesn't get much clearer then that and everytime you send him yet another message you humilate yourself even more. Maybe instead of chasing a married alcoholic you should focus on getting yourself divorced so that your husband is not stuck with a cheating wife who has the hots for married drunk.
michelangelo Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Hi I'm fairly new to this EMR world. I am married 15 years and am having an affair with a married man. It's been fun and exciting, but with a lot of ups and downs. It's going on two years now. Lady, you are really, really, really posting in the wrong place if you want sympathy. This forum is filled with a bunch of people who've been betrayed by the likes of you. Gain some self awareness, and even read some of the postings here, you'll learn just how tone deaf your posting is. The problem is not in "feeling" hurt that your catch of a guy is not responding to you. It's in cheating and not seeing how wrong that is. And on a much smaller scale, not seeing how inappropriate your post is here.
Distant78 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Hi I'm fairly new to this EMR world. I am married 15 years and am having an affair with a married man. It's been fun and exciting, but with a lot of ups and downs. It's going on two years now. He is an alcoholic. He and his wife have a volatile marriage. They are currently separated, he lives in another house. In the meantime, he sleeps at his his old house a lot! That doesn't bother me. He's a really good father and is a stay at home dad. Anyways he went through a drinking episode about a month ago and I was very involved to try to get him to stop his 5 day binge. Ever since then, our relationship hasn't been the same. He is not returning my text messages. My last text was me asking if we were in a fight? If he was mad at me, etc. He is not answering any of the texts. I know he's getting them. I see him around, so I know he's safe. Is he pulling a fade and doesn't want to be confronted? Do I just walk away? I'm feeling like a fool with all my annoying texts and voicemails. Is the writing on the wall and I just refuse to see it? Aaargh!!! Both of you have destroyed your marriages, and have been cheating for 2 years? Please divorce your spouses so they can find someone else that truly loves them.
What_Next Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Umm wow. Maybe he's FINALLY come to his senses and he is stopping this destructive behavior. You almost seem proud that you are cheating. Scary.
Brokenlady Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 MJ, You're probably better off posting this in the Other WOman forum if you're looking for insight on how an "other man" is acting. That being said, your OM is married. My guess? He got busted by his wife and swore to never speak to you again to keep his marriage. More importantly though - what's going on in your marriage? Why did you pick this OM who is clearly dysfunctional?
Woman In Blue Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 That doesn't bother me. He's a really good father and is a stay at home dad. LOL...you mean he's not a functioning alcoholic and can't hold down a job, so the only thing left for him to do is be a "stay at home dad." Pathetic.
SouthernSunshine Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Interesting thread.. *can someone pass the popcorn*
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