miracgirl Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I have been dating someone that I met at a weight loss residence for the last 3-4 months. We see each other every day and spend a Lot of time together. During the first month or so I was excited about him, but now I am getting tired of him to the point where I don't even feel physically attracted to him anymore. My problem is that I can't tell if I'm not attracted to him anymore or if we spend too much time together. Can seeing someone too much cause this loss of attraction or is it that if you're really into someone you're attracted no matter how often you see them?
fun2bewith Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I have been dating someone that I met at a weight loss residence for the last 3-4 months. We see each other every day and spend a Lot of time together. During the first month or so I was excited about him, but now I am getting tired of him to the point where I don't even feel physically attracted to him anymore. My problem is that I can't tell if I'm not attracted to him anymore or if we spend too much time together. Can seeing someone too much cause this loss of attraction or is it that if you're really into someone you're attracted no matter how often you see them? For sure you can get tired of seeing someone too much, it is human nature...Try drinking a weighless shake, at first it doesn't taste so bad, but drinking the same shake 3 times a day everyday, how would you feel? ... It is perfectly normal to get tired of someone even if you were very attracted to that someone. "Satisfaction = the death of desire" and it also might be a case of "early realization", there are things about him that you realize you don't like...Maybe it is a good thing that you realize it now. What about spending less time together and try that for a while, if the attraction comes back then you know...
Author miracgirl Posted January 19, 2011 Author Posted January 19, 2011 Well he went home for a couple of weeks and I did not see him when he came back I was attracted to him again but it only lasted a few days. It's very confusing. Not seeing him every day is not an option; We have the same friends and have all our meals together at the very least.
denise_xo Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Space is very important for my relationship dynamics - but in your case it sounds a bit like you're just not that into him...
fun2bewith Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I agree with Denise, I think you are just not that in to him...and that is okay...or he is too comfortable with you...
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